Gone no contact with sister

[XanaDUer2]

I'm constantly looking for support for anxiety. I probably over share. Anxious people can be a pain to listen to constantly.

I am at the point of not contacting my sister due to her rude, aggressive responses to me. I need to keep problems to myself. I had a health scare that might still be a problem. Thank God for you all on here.

I cannot take the judgement, hounding, demands I follow her instructions to live my life her way. Its a long story. But she's making it worse. I am reaching out for local friends.

Funny thing is, my bossy know-it-all sister s life is a shitshow. She's been disabled years. She takes it as some type of personal affront I hired a SSDI lawyer and she didn't. She thinks my dental specialist is "upselling" me. I don't cook the way I should. I've always been nice and supportive listening to her financial problems, health problems, kid problems. I just withdraw. I don't want to argue. I'm tired.

[underpants]

1. Hey

Hi

Head up.

There are a ton of online resources for you. There are local resources too.

YOU ARE LOVED ❤️ remember that.

But it wouldn’t hurt to drop a few pounds ifyaknowwhatImsaying 😏🤓 (I’m in the same boat)

[XanaDUer2]

12. Thank you

[KarenS]

2. oh I support you

I have a similar sibling,,,,, we no longer have contact except when it is necessary for settling my parents estate.

If you're a reader and interested you might want to 'google' or 'bing' the words "toxic siblings" there is some comfort in knowing you aren't the only one or imagining things. If you take a break for awhile you may find or can reconnect (or not).

Good luck with this and keep on posting here,,,, sending ((Hugs))

[XanaDUer2]

3. She's insanely controlling

And my niec and she are constantly screaming at each other

[KarenS]

4. this kind of stuff hurts your head and your heart.

I am very grateful that I do not behave that way.

[XanaDUer2]

5. I over shared bad issues

About Mr X. She hates him. Frankly, Im disabled and cannot afford to live on my own. Plus other things going on. She's also a financial dumpster fire per her. She lies. She was shoplifting and told me some convoluted story about "confusion" returning items in a store. But I'm the idiot

[samnsara]

6. good for you! shes toxic and a psychic vampire.. you dont need her crap.

[XanaDUer2]

7. I'm not the one with a 24-yr-old daughter

Telling me stfu and denying me grocery money

[LakeArenal]

8. My toxic brother hasn't spoke to me in years. He always made. my SIL talk to me.

Eventually I quit; it’s hard at first.

But now, I feel free. Made all new friends. Acceptance is out there. You have it here on DU. You will find it in Your world, too.


Remember,



Just don't waste it on the impervious.


PS. He’s my only living relative. It’s sad but not worth my heart.

[XanaDUer2]

9. I'm sorry

Its partly my fault for over sharing. She was supportive during a time of severe stress, but its turned into ( interacting with her) something making me stressed out. I just can't reconcile being bullied by a person. whose life stinks. Take a look at your own situation. Listen. Stop acting like you're right all the time. You're kinda a loser. I hate to label, but please.

She was crying about not having. Grocery money. I've sent her over 400 $. But she's hostile about ppl never being there for her.

[LakeArenal]

10. You are on a strictly one way relationship. I feel for you. It's very hurtful.

[XanaDUer2]

11. I really over shared relationship problems

That's where i erred.

[OldBaldy1701E]

13. My dear XanaDUer.

You have not 'erred'. There are always family members that are just toxic and not good for you. It sucks. They are family. In my case, it is an uncle and my mother. They are just not good for me to be around. So, I avoid them whenever I can. I describe it like this: I love them, but I don't like them. I dunno if that makes sense, but there it is.

[XanaDUer2]

14. It does make sense

Thank you