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LiberalLoner

(10,195 posts)
Wed Jan 3, 2024, 02:46 PM Jan 2024

Three years ago last night

It started.

I have gone no contact now with my entire family of origin as they took part in the bullying operation, which is a very good thing, but I know I will never really be okay.

The worst part is, no one involved will tell me why I was bullied for three years to begin with.

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Three years ago last night (Original Post) LiberalLoner Jan 2024 OP
We want and need you here. You matter to us. Do things that bring you joy. We can't pick our family. onecaliberal Jan 2024 #1
Thank you so much. I really appreciate you. ❤️ LiberalLoner Jan 2024 #2
We care about you XanaDUer2 Jan 2024 #3
Thank you so much ❤️ LiberalLoner Jan 2024 #5
Sometimes, our biological family is not the best for us. LoisB Jan 2024 #4
Thank you so much. ❤️ LiberalLoner Jan 2024 #6
The radiotherapy is starting to get to me, too. Only six treatments so far LiberalLoner Jan 2024 #7
I wish Goddessartist Jan 2024 #9
Thank you so much! I am sorry for your loss of your MIL. It LiberalLoner Jan 2024 #10
Good Goddessartist Jan 2024 #12
Sometimes Goddessartist Jan 2024 #8
Thank you so so much, I feel rhe same about you, ❤️❤️❤️ LiberalLoner Jan 2024 #11
At the risk of sounding crass and simple... OldBaldy1701E Jan 2024 #13
Thank you so so so much 😍❤️❤️❤️ LiberalLoner Jan 2024 #14

LiberalLoner

(10,195 posts)
7. The radiotherapy is starting to get to me, too. Only six treatments so far
Wed Jan 3, 2024, 06:42 PM
Jan 2024

But seeing skin changes already and having some fatigue and dizziness/nausea.

Goddessartist

(2,067 posts)
9. I wish
Wed Jan 3, 2024, 07:22 PM
Jan 2024

I was there to help you at this time. My mil, who passed in 1992, 2 weeks before my first child was born, had that therapy.

Baby yourself as much as you can.

LiberalLoner

(10,195 posts)
10. Thank you so much! I am sorry for your loss of your MIL. It
Wed Jan 3, 2024, 07:42 PM
Jan 2024

Must have seemed so unfair, the timing of her death. Not that death is ever fair, but sometimes that loss is extra cruel.

We are down to one car at the worst possible time, so I have to drive my husband to and from and then to my radiation appointment and it’s getting kind of tiring.

He is going to try to work from home as much as possible next week and my final week to make it easier on me, and I’m grateful for that.

Goddessartist

(2,067 posts)
8. Sometimes
Wed Jan 3, 2024, 07:20 PM
Jan 2024

our families can be so cruel. I know.

It has nothing to do with you, most likely, and has everything to do with them. I remember a therapist many years ago that gave me that great gift.

We all love you here. You're a soul sister to me.

LiberalLoner

(10,195 posts)
11. Thank you so so much, I feel rhe same about you, ❤️❤️❤️
Wed Jan 3, 2024, 07:45 PM
Jan 2024

Yeah, I grew up with abuse and sometimes they like to try to continue the abuse even when you try to get away.

My husband is 100% supportive of me going no contact because he’s seen how I get mistreated and he thinks my family members are nutcases essentially.

So, yeah, it’s more them than me but things like this are always painful just the same.

OldBaldy1701E

(6,415 posts)
13. At the risk of sounding crass and simple...
Thu Jan 4, 2024, 08:23 AM
Jan 2024

Fuck'em.

You are so much more than they are. You do not deserve to have to deal with them. You made the right choice. Your real family, the one you have because they love and care about you, want you to get on with your life without crap like that trying to drag you down.

LiberalLoner

(10,195 posts)
14. Thank you so so so much 😍❤️❤️❤️
Thu Jan 4, 2024, 12:09 PM
Jan 2024

I will go forward with my new life, free of cancer, free of family bullies, thank you! I feel very supported here. 😍

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