Gaslighting.
I've written in prior posts about growing up in a narcissistic family (father, mother, sister).
My sister is the only surviving narcissist and she's still at it. I've removed myself from her life since June 30, 2023.
And I've wondered how come I'm the only one to see the vindictive maliciousness that she readily doles out.
I think I have a clue: a false veneer of empathy and humanitarianism. I took a peek at her FB page. No people. No friends, no family, nobody. But she posts a plethora of helpless, lost, abandoned animals (dogs and cats mostly), asking for help for them. Nobody who loves animals the way she does could possibly disdain others, especially family members.
I get it now.
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You'd think that woman could walk on water if you ask people around the town. All I can do is smile and nod. I mean, she does a lot for the town and they really appreciate it as they are understaffed around there and the stuff she does frees up a lot of resources. (It is an historic town... full of locations that are set up for the tourist trade. She is now handling a lot of the ancillary projects for several locations and that means the staff can do more for the tourists and the general running of each location. It's nitpicky stuff sometimes, but she does have a flair for it. Plus, it brings in more income and more prestige for the town. Hurrah.)
It would have been nice if she had been as interested in putting forth those levels of effort to help her mentally ill child, but hey... prestige, remember?
