Parenting
Related: About this forumAfraid to use the word "punish"??
I think we use the word "discipline" instead of using the actual word which is "punishment".
Why is this?
In my view discipline is a taught value that is learned through example. If a parent is disciplined then they are tolerant, patient, They let others speak without interrupting them, and show a calm demeanor that is not self centered with want.
How many undisciplined (rude, interrupting, self centered, etc...) parents have you encountered with out-of-control kids? Where did the kids get that...hummm I wonder...and this "out-of-control" is when parents say they must "discipline" their children when they really mean to say that they need to "punish" their children (time out, restrictions, spanking, etc...) all the while failing to see the part they play.
For instance children see their parents and friends interacting a certain way and their parents laughing and carrying on yet when the child acts the same way they get punished and sometimes severely.
This parental hypocrisy sets in motion all kinds of contradicting messages both mentally and emotionally in a child. It screws them up.
HopeHoops
(47,675 posts)1stclassbailbonds
(2 posts)This is reciprocal phenomenon and yes "parental hypocrisy sets in motion all kinds of contradicting messages both mentally and emotionally in a child. It screws them up". This is like a healthy tree can deliver fresh and healthy fruit's.