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ProfessorGAC

(69,664 posts)
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 01:57 PM Apr 2024

Had To Put Betty Bucelli Down This Morning

She was a big girl. Most of her life she was mid to high 20s pound kitty.
In the last couple months, she shed weight dramatically.
This morning she was leaking blood. My wife decided it was time before she really started to suffer.
This is her with Vincent keeping an eye on her.

She was close to 14.
Sad day around here. I don't think Vincent or Greta (her kitty sister) realize she's gone yet.

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Had To Put Betty Bucelli Down This Morning (Original Post) ProfessorGAC Apr 2024 OP
It is very hard to say goodbye to a member of the family LetMyPeopleVote Apr 2024 #1
She Was A Difficult Kitty ProfessorGAC Apr 2024 #2
Sorry to hear that. But it's good you stopped the suffering. captain queeg Apr 2024 #3
I'm sorry for your loss of your companion. brer cat Apr 2024 #4
So sorry for your loss. sinkingfeeling Apr 2024 #5
We Still Have 2 ProfessorGAC Apr 2024 #6
So sorry montanacowboy Apr 2024 #7
(( Prof )) blm Apr 2024 #8
I Called Her By Her Last Name ProfessorGAC Apr 2024 #9
🥹❤️ blm Apr 2024 #10
I'm so sorry! It sounds like you did the right thing. CousinIT Apr 2024 #11
I am so sorry. LoisB Apr 2024 #12
Deepest condolences! 50 Shades Of Blue Apr 2024 #13
So sad to hear this news Professor louslobbs Apr 2024 #14
Sorry. I know it's tough. yonder Apr 2024 #15
In our family, when we have had to make this most... 3catwoman3 Apr 2024 #16
Very Good Sentiment ProfessorGAC Apr 2024 #24
You're right. I've always thought of it as helping to release them from japple Apr 2024 #43
I'm sorry for your loss Laurelin Apr 2024 #17
Sometimes doing the right thing multigraincracker Apr 2024 #18
Sorry for your loss. Grumpy Old Guy Apr 2024 #19
My deepest condolences AltairIV Apr 2024 #20
The humane decision but always tough - TBF Apr 2024 #21
We Lost A Lab To A Cancerous Tumor ProfessorGAC Apr 2024 #26
this is the hardest part of being et tu Apr 2024 #22
I'm so sorry 😞 live love laugh Apr 2024 #23
Very hard to lose our furry family... orwell Apr 2024 #25
I'm so sorry MustLoveBeagles Apr 2024 #27
So very sorry for your whole family, including Vincent and Greta. keopeli Apr 2024 #28
I am sorry for your loss irisblue Apr 2024 #29
I'm so sorry. I lost two cats to cancer in the last 20 years. One was 13-1/2, the other highplainsdem Apr 2024 #30
Very sorry. Always rough. nt The Unmitigated Gall Apr 2024 #31
very sorry for your loss jtb653 Apr 2024 #32
I am so sorry. We never have them long enough. onecaliberal Apr 2024 #33
So sorry for your loss. red dog 1 Apr 2024 #34
So sorry for your loss kimbutgar Apr 2024 #35
This message was self-deleted by its author kimbutgar Apr 2024 #35
Sorry to hear. It is always tough to let them go, but it's part of giving them a good life. Midnight Writer Apr 2024 #37
Condolences on this loss, ProfessorGAC. calimary Apr 2024 #38
She will live in your heart forever ZonkerHarris Apr 2024 #39
So sorry for your loss Marthe48 Apr 2024 #40
Lady Bast, please take Your Betty Bucelli gently home in Your loving arms, niyad Apr 2024 #41
Thanks ProfessorGAC Apr 2024 #42

LetMyPeopleVote

(154,039 posts)
1. It is very hard to say goodbye to a member of the family
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 01:59 PM
Apr 2024

My oldest and middle children each had to say goodbye to their bearded collies (who were 14 an 15 years old)

ProfessorGAC

(69,664 posts)
2. She Was A Difficult Kitty
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 02:02 PM
Apr 2024

Most of her life she was a bit skittish, so getting her into a carrier was a problem. Vet visits became near impossible.
Plus, as we suspected cancer, we knew we weren't spending a few thousand on treatments for a 13/14 year old cat.
So, we just rode out the last couple months.
We knew it was coming, but still tough.

captain queeg

(11,780 posts)
3. Sorry to hear that. But it's good you stopped the suffering.
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 02:05 PM
Apr 2024

Had to put my dog down a few years ago. I spent a couple thousand on tests and they couldn’t say for sure what was wrong but I could see in his X-ray that something had grown in his stomach that displaced his guts. When he stopped eating I knew it was bad. We actually had a vet come to the house to do it (that’s available now in some places) so at least he was comfortable with his family there.

brer cat

(26,127 posts)
4. I'm sorry for your loss of your companion.
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 02:06 PM
Apr 2024

No matter how well we know it is for the best, it is always painful.

ProfessorGAC

(69,664 posts)
6. We Still Have 2
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 02:12 PM
Apr 2024

And when Greta is gone (she's 19!), my wife wants a couple litter mate sisters.
If they outlive us, my sister will take them.
If the come in as babies, they'll bond with the dog like Greta & Betty did.
Will be soothing to have everyone hanging out.

ProfessorGAC

(69,664 posts)
9. I Called Her By Her Last Name
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 02:23 PM
Apr 2024

She was a talker! She'd respond when spoken to for 15 minutes if I didn't get bored first.
"Hi, Buccelli," "Meow" "How are you today?" "Meow (3 or 4 times)" And so on.

CousinIT

(10,037 posts)
11. I'm so sorry! It sounds like you did the right thing.
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 02:32 PM
Apr 2024

Poor girl. It's so hard to let them go. Sadly they don't live as long as we do!

RIP sweet little Betty!

3catwoman3

(25,378 posts)
16. In our family, when we have had to make this most...
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 02:47 PM
Apr 2024

...difficult and painful of choices, we have chosen to call it liberating the spirit.

Euthanize sounds to clinical and impersonal, put to sleep isn't accurate, and I personally just never cared for put down (this is not a criticism of those who are OK with this terminology).

Wishing you serenity.

japple

(10,294 posts)
43. You're right. I've always thought of it as helping to release them from
Sat Apr 27, 2024, 07:07 PM
Apr 2024

their sick body, and I've always thought that they (as would I) feel gratitude. Bless you for helping your kitty cross the bridge.

Laurelin

(631 posts)
17. I'm sorry for your loss
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 02:58 PM
Apr 2024

It's such a difficult decision to let them go but she was fortunate that you did. 14 is a good life but it never seems long enough.

In the Netherlands they say "sterkte," which means courage. It seems like a good wish to make, so...sterkte.

TBF

(34,131 posts)
21. The humane decision but always tough -
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 03:35 PM
Apr 2024

we had that last summer with an older lab (from rescue, knew she was at least 12 based on when we got her but could've been a few years older) & same deal with probable cancer. She was a velcro dog so it was a hard loss, I was so used to her being wherever I was.

ProfessorGAC

(69,664 posts)
26. We Lost A Lab To A Cancerous Tumor
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 04:02 PM
Apr 2024

One night, that nasty thing either ruptured, pouring toxins into his system, or passed a clot to his heart.
Had to take him to emergency 24 hour vet to end it. He was barely aware of his surroundings.
We got Vincent a week or so later.

et tu

(1,877 posts)
22. this is the hardest part of being
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 03:45 PM
Apr 2024

a pet parent but we need to be responsible to their
needs and do what is best for them. it is never easy
nor should it be. please remember your 'talker' and
the good times- take care~

orwell

(7,900 posts)
25. Very hard to lose our furry family...
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 04:01 PM
Apr 2024

...condolences on the family loss.

It sounds like the right decision.

highplainsdem

(52,122 posts)
30. I'm so sorry. I lost two cats to cancer in the last 20 years. One was 13-1/2, the other
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 04:33 PM
Apr 2024

12-1/2.

So hard to say goodbye to them. Even if you believe, as I do, that you will see them again, on the other side.

kimbutgar

(23,168 posts)
35. So sorry for your loss
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 04:54 PM
Apr 2024

When an older cat starts losing weight you know it’s bad!

But for the next few days you swear your see her running by you! Or hearing her meow!

Response to ProfessorGAC (Original post)

calimary

(84,133 posts)
38. Condolences on this loss, ProfessorGAC.
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 05:39 PM
Apr 2024

It's NEVER EVER easy, cuz you just love 'em so much...

And having walked in those shoes, I know how you feel. Even when it's for the best. And, like me, you may have mixed feelings about it (they're in a better place; they're not suffering or in pain anymore; they've lived a good long happy life...). And it kinda doesn't really help because nothing you say or think can make up for the fact that your furry little love is just GONE. I hope I'll see mine somewhere in the Hereafter. But I still feel it when I think about any one of 'em.

niyad

(119,543 posts)
41. Lady Bast, please take Your Betty Bucelli gently home in Your loving arms,
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 07:41 PM
Apr 2024

and send peace and comfort to her grieving loved ones.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious kitty. May her memory bring you joy.

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