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Marthe48

(18,383 posts)
Fri May 31, 2024, 07:28 AM May 2024

My old kitty passed away last night

Last edited Fri May 31, 2024, 10:28 AM - Edit history (1)

She had gotten sick at Christmas, and while she got better, she was not as good as she had been. On Sunday, she started a rapid decline, and I knew she wasn't going to pull out of it this time. She was about 20 years old. She was always a good cat, not affectionate, but very sociable and got along with any pets who came to the house. She was a lot of fun. She loved boxes, baskets, punch bowls, bags. It really was 'if she fit, she'd sit.' We took some great shots of Kitty in the _____. She is the last of that generation of kitties. They all lived long lives. I'm taking a break from having pets for the first time in 20 some years. All of our pets have come to us as strays, and I'll rely on chance again. In the meantime, I'll adjust to a pet free home, and take the time I need to get used to a daily routine with big holes in it. Thanks for reading.

I put a picture of her on Imgur: https://imgur.com/a/240ndq7

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My old kitty passed away last night (Original Post) Marthe48 May 2024 OP
So sorry to hear, don't know what I would do without my kitties Walleye May 2024 #1
So sorry EYESORE 9001 May 2024 #2
I want to do some visiting Marthe48 May 2024 #7
The lady who had served as foster mom was phenomenal EYESORE 9001 May 2024 #8
You are a wonderful cat mom rockbluff botanist May 2024 #3
My sympathies to you. Our pets are our family. Each loss is painful, but they live forever in our hearts. scarletlib May 2024 #4
I'm so sorry for your loss.nt Phoenix61 May 2024 #5
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved kitty. CottonBear May 2024 #6
Without you, she wouldnt have had 20 years of being safe and mattering in Karadeniz May 2024 #9
I'm so sorry to hear this, Marthe Diamond_Dog May 2024 #10
Sounds like she had the good fortune to live with you. So sorry she had to leave and japple May 2024 #11
My heart goes out to you. Twenty years is a long cat life, she was lucky to spend them with Ziggysmom May 2024 #12
I'm going to take a break from caring Marthe48 May 2024 #17
I'm so sorry. I do wish they could live as long as humans, but 20 years is a long time! CousinIT May 2024 #13
She was healthy and active up until the end of Dec Marthe48 May 2024 #39
... CousinIT May 2024 #44
Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, niyad May 2024 #14
I'm so sorry for your loss EverHopeful May 2024 #15
I understand. Sending hugs and love. Oopsie Daisy May 2024 #16
So sorry JudyM May 2024 #18
My kids have pets and they are like my grand babies. tavernier May 2024 #19
When my grand dog died earlier this year Marthe48 May 2024 #30
My heart goes out to you. Having a cherished pet pass on leaves a big hole in your heart. Fla Dem May 2024 #20
I'm sorry for your loss. area51 May 2024 #21
So sorry for your loss Klondike Kat May 2024 #22
I'm sorry for your loss Marthe48 May 2024 #32
My condolences to you. 20 years is a long time to be sinkingfeeling May 2024 #23
I am sorry for your loss Lulu KC May 2024 #24
I am so very sorry for your loss. StarryNite May 2024 #25
I'm so sorry! GPV May 2024 #26
martha48 jtb653 May 2024 #27
Hugs Marthe48 Duncanpup May 2024 #28
Oh no Katcat May 2024 #29
I'm so sorry cate94 May 2024 #31
Holding you in my heart. They are such a part of our lives, it's a devastating loss. n/t TygrBright May 2024 #33
More hugs from here, Marthe48. calimary May 2024 #34
Thank you for your kind words Marthe48 May 2024 #36
When it's the right time... radical noodle May 2024 #35
Yep. calimary May 2024 #38
I'm so sorry for your loss. COL Mustard May 2024 #37
... ck4829 May 2024 #40
So sorry to hear you lost a friend and member of your family coprolite May 2024 #41
💐😔 blm May 2024 #42
I'm so very very sorry 😿 benfranklin1776 May 2024 #43
So sorry Marthe, kozar May 2024 #45
Thank you, Koz Marthe48 May 2024 #47
So sorry, kozar May 2024 #46
I'm sorry for the loss of your old kitty! Ocelot II May 2024 #48
Sorry for your loss - TBF May 2024 #49
What a pretty kitty wryter2000 May 2024 #50
I am very sorry for your loss...a cat is a 100% full member of a family who loves her/him. Jack-o-Lantern May 2024 #51
What a beautuful little girl! Is she sitting on a pizza box? niyad May 2024 #52
Yes Marthe48 Jun 2024 #56
awwwwww, that is just delightful about all the boxes, etc.! Had not ever niyad Jun 2024 #57
I'll upload it to Imgur-done Marthe48 Jun 2024 #58
Now that would be delightful!!! niyad Jun 2024 #59
I put a few pictures up Marthe48 Jun 2024 #60
awwwwww, I LOVE it! Clearly a much better use than mere punch! niyad Jun 2024 #61
What a beautiful cat! montanacowboy May 2024 #53
Such a pretty girl.... Bayard Jun 2024 #54
She was a beauty! Goddessartist Jun 2024 #55

EYESORE 9001

(27,236 posts)
2. So sorry
Fri May 31, 2024, 07:39 AM
May 2024

My last loss was two Christmases ago. By New Year’s Day I had three rescue kitties, all around 6 months old. Life has been lively ever since.

Marthe48

(18,383 posts)
7. I want to do some visiting
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:00 AM
May 2024

I put off visits since before last Christmas, so I didn't have to leave her with a pet sitter. I'm plugged into the pet scene locally and there is a huge need for adopters or foster families. I was thinking I might try fostering and see how it works for the pets and me. First and only time was a foster failure Had that kitty for 5 years.

My kids are going on vacation and I'm keeping their little dog with me for a week. She is good medicine for us.

Glad you filled your house with sweet kitties

EYESORE 9001

(27,236 posts)
8. The lady who had served as foster mom was phenomenal
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:05 AM
May 2024

I had the backstory on all three (two were littermates) and complete medical history. I had to take the one that is a stepsister to the other two for another eyelid surgery a few weeks later, but she seems good now. Just a little squinty.

rockbluff botanist

(252 posts)
3. You are a wonderful cat mom
Fri May 31, 2024, 07:41 AM
May 2024

She passed in her warm loving home after a long happy life. We should all be so lucky.

scarletlib

(3,461 posts)
4. My sympathies to you. Our pets are our family. Each loss is painful, but they live forever in our hearts.
Fri May 31, 2024, 07:42 AM
May 2024

CottonBear

(21,613 posts)
6. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved kitty.
Fri May 31, 2024, 07:59 AM
May 2024

Her love for you and your love for her will live on in your heart. 💜

Karadeniz

(23,112 posts)
9. Without you, she wouldnt have had 20 years of being safe and mattering in
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:07 AM
May 2024

this world. She was one lucky kitty!

Diamond_Dog

(33,801 posts)
10. I'm so sorry to hear this, Marthe
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:08 AM
May 2024

Even when it’s expected or the pet is older, it’s still such a gut punch. Losing a pet makes your house feel so empty, doesn’t it?

Best wishes to you whatever the future may bring, pet-wise.

japple

(10,223 posts)
11. Sounds like she had the good fortune to live with you. So sorry she had to leave and
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:10 AM
May 2024

I know there is an empty space in your life without her. May your heart be filled with loving memories of your old kitty.

Ziggysmom

(3,505 posts)
12. My heart goes out to you. Twenty years is a long cat life, she was lucky to spend them with
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:16 AM
May 2024

you. I do hope you can foster, I did a few litters years ago, before I became my disabled husbands caretaker. It is a great way to help many kitties in need.
Sending virtual hugs to you and healing prayers.

Marthe48

(18,383 posts)
17. I'm going to take a break from caring
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:32 AM
May 2024

The last few months with my kitty were stressful. This spring, we lost 6 human friends and relatives, 3 of the grandpets, and 7 healthy trees next door. All of it weighs on me, even if I don't think it does.

Take care of yourself, so you can take care of your dear husband.

CousinIT

(9,729 posts)
13. I'm so sorry. I do wish they could live as long as humans, but 20 years is a long time!
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:25 AM
May 2024

It's a good idea to take all the time you need to grieve. She was a big part of your life for a long time.

Marthe48

(18,383 posts)
39. She was healthy and active up until the end of Dec
Fri May 31, 2024, 10:18 AM
May 2024

I didn't think she'd make it to the New Year, but she did. Just Sunday night, she tracked an ant across the dining room floor, batting at it the whole way. I took a picture, the last one of her.

niyad

(118,041 posts)
14. Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms,
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:25 AM
May 2024

and send peace and comfort to her grieving loved ones.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious little girl. I know how difficult it is to work around those big holes. Do not be surprised if she comes to visit you. Be gentle with yourself.

EverHopeful

(311 posts)
15. I'm so sorry for your loss
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:26 AM
May 2024

Hugs to you at this time of pain and huge holes in your day. Hope you get to enjoy a bit of worry-free travel.

When my sweet girl died at 20, I really thought I couldn't bear to adopt any more cats.

Then a friend died early in the pandemic and 2 of her cats were in foster care for quite a while. Finally said yes and I feel so lucky every day for little Ms and Mr. Mischief.

tavernier

(13,031 posts)
19. My kids have pets and they are like my grand babies.
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:35 AM
May 2024

We lost three of them last year, all quite elderly and beloved. Cried for each one. Chewy sent flowers… which made us all cry.

So sorry for you. She sounded like a very lovely girl.

Marthe48

(18,383 posts)
30. When my grand dog died earlier this year
Fri May 31, 2024, 09:33 AM
May 2024

Chewy sent a family a remembrance stone. The vet made a print of her nose and paws. I was with their pets so much, it has been like losing my own. I'm sorry for you loss. I have felt the same.

Fla Dem

(25,195 posts)
20. My heart goes out to you. Having a cherished pet pass on leaves a big hole in your heart.
Fri May 31, 2024, 08:35 AM
May 2024

May your days pass with fond memories.

Klondike Kat

(836 posts)
22. So sorry for your loss
Fri May 31, 2024, 09:01 AM
May 2024

We had to send our 18-year old one-eyed wondercat across the rainbow bridge a week ago. I still find myself looking at the adjacent recliner to see if he's there.

Marthe48

(18,383 posts)
32. I'm sorry for your loss
Fri May 31, 2024, 09:36 AM
May 2024

I just buried her and when I came back in the house, I was watching so she wouldn't run out the door. She was an escape artist, but she was so fat, she'd just run to the grass and start nibbling. I'll miss all of her quirks.

calimary

(83,453 posts)
34. More hugs from here, Marthe48.
Fri May 31, 2024, 10:13 AM
May 2024

It WILL take time. Give yourself time. Be gentle with yourself. Come here to post about it and talk it through. You’ll be in a safe, caring space among friends.

And in time, you’ll be sent a new furry friend (or maybe a few!). Nature hates a vacuum. The hurt in your heart will be healed.

radical noodle

(8,116 posts)
35. When it's the right time...
Fri May 31, 2024, 10:14 AM
May 2024

Your old kitty will send another kitty who needs all the love that you have to give.

COL Mustard

(6,616 posts)
37. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Fri May 31, 2024, 10:16 AM
May 2024

I’ve lost a number of pets over my life, and I know it’s never easy, but just remember that you had 20 years with her. Remember the good times.

benfranklin1776

(6,506 posts)
43. I'm so very very sorry 😿
Fri May 31, 2024, 11:02 AM
May 2024

It’s a terrible feeling
However I hope you’re comforted in the knowledge you gave her the absolutely best life she could have ever had. I find the sentiments of this author sum up nicely how I’m certain Kitty feels about you:

Grieve not
nor speak of me with tears
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you
I loved you so
’twas Heaven here with you

Please keep her feelings uppermost in mind as the her spirit continues to be present in your life.

kozar

(2,544 posts)
45. So sorry Marthe,
Fri May 31, 2024, 02:24 PM
May 2024

It is the hardest part of pet ownership. The Rainbow Bridge.
MrsK told me once,
" pets don't live as long as humans, because, they give pure love, 100% of the time. Humans, need to be like pets"
You were loved.

Koz

kozar

(2,544 posts)
46. So sorry,
Fri May 31, 2024, 02:25 PM
May 2024

It is the hardest part of pet ownership. The Rainbow Bridge.
MrsK told me once,
" pets don't live as long as humans, because, they give pure love, 100% of the time. Humans, need to be like pets"
You were loved.

Koz

Ocelot II

(119,249 posts)
48. I'm sorry for the loss of your old kitty!
Fri May 31, 2024, 04:58 PM
May 2024

20 years is a good long run but it's never long enough, is it?

Marthe48

(18,383 posts)
56. Yes
Sat Jun 1, 2024, 08:08 AM
Jun 2024

She loved boxes of any kind. I have pictures of her in boxes, bags, baskets, even a punch bowl. lol

She was part or all Manx. I think she was so sociable because she didn't have to worry about a tail

niyad

(118,041 posts)
57. awwwwww, that is just delightful about all the boxes, etc.! Had not ever
Sat Jun 1, 2024, 08:52 AM
Jun 2024

thought about the no-tail worries, but can easily see it. Would love to see the punchbowl pic, as I can certainly imagine it.

Marthe48

(18,383 posts)
58. I'll upload it to Imgur-done
Sat Jun 1, 2024, 09:01 AM
Jun 2024

You know I could post every picture I ever took of her and our other kitties

Bayard

(23,562 posts)
54. Such a pretty girl....
Sat Jun 1, 2024, 01:08 AM
Jun 2024

20 years is a testament to how well she was taken care of, and loved. She had a good life, but I know its still so hard to lose one.

Hugs to you, Marthe.

Goddessartist

(2,065 posts)
55. She was a beauty!
Sat Jun 1, 2024, 08:02 AM
Jun 2024

Sending you lots of love - 20 years is a long time - she reminds me of my Bosch, who was a big floof as well, and very stoic, who lived for 20 years and 3 months. You gave her the best life.

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