'Latinx': Why do many Hispanics hate the term?
National Hispanic Heritage Month officially kicks off Sept. 15, marking the 35th year of the celebration of Hispanic cultures and their contributions to the U.S. As Hispanic people continue being one of the U.S.’ most visible communities, many questions about terminology arise.
The current most common ways Hispanic populations refer to themselves are “Hispanic,” “Latino/Latina” and “Chicano,” but the newer gender-neutral term “Latinx” attempts to be more inclusive to non-binary members of the population.
“Non-binary” means those who don’t identify as male or female: These are people who have a gender that blends elements of either, or people have a gender that is neither male or female. Additionally, as the National Center for Transgender Equality says, some people don’t identify with any gender and some people’s gender identity changes over time.
But although it may have good intentions, the term has yet to be integrated by most Hispanic people, data shows. And while some people’s reasonings for disliking the term may well be rooted in transphobia, for others, the issue is the word itself.
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... this make me think Latinx was intended to replace Latino/Latina? I think it might be better to accept all three Latino, Latina, and Latinx. It's interesting to have Spanish go gender neutral... I know from studying the romantic languages that everything has a "gender." A book is "Male" and a house is "Female" for example... la, le, los, les...
And for better or worse, it is "male-dominated" in that any male plural noun (if it has a feminine counter-part) can refer to a mixed masculine/feminine - or when you think about it any gender identification - group. For instance, los estudiantes hispanos de la escuela - the school's Hispanic students - would encompass everyone who identified as Hispanic regardless of gender identity even though the los and the o in hispanos, traditionally are male.
I have a degree in Spanish, and one of the first things I learned in college (especially after seeing a Paraguayan student go off on a guy who called her Mexican) was how someone preferred to be referred to because Latino tends to refer to those from Latin America while Hispanic tends to refer to Americans (United States). Chicano is more of a political identification. Individually, I would always go country first (he's Venezuelan; she's Mexican-American) as heritage is very important. And if talking to both groups, I would be sure to say Hispanos and Latinos. I remember a meeting in college between the Hispanic Student Association and Latin American Student Association, and the HSA president kept saying Hispanic when talking about both groups, and the LASA members became increasingly upset the longer he talked.
If anything, I think this pride in heritage extends to their language. While open to adopting non-Spanish words (like sandwich), the x might be too big of a change, and you're dealing with around two dozen countries to adopt it.
I'm taking Duolingo lessons in Spanish and hoo boy, the gendered thing is truly something 
Keeping up with more complex verbs and learning slang phrases. Keep it up. One thing I've learned about Spanish-speakers in general - though I hate to stereotype - is that they're very forgiving as long as you're trying. It's a compliment to them that you're learning their language and culture. I remember a trip to Mexico in college. We had a program in the Spanish department that in the summer, you could pay to take whatever Spanish class you wanted in Mexico (a professor from the department also went to teach). We stayed with host families, and the professor planned a lot of excursions for us (we also had free time). We went to one of the largest markets in Mexico City. I was the most advanced speaker on the trip after the professor (literally taking my last class for a major), and at a t-shirt vendor's stall I specifically asked for a displayed t-shirt with a picture of dancing skeletons on it by one of my favorite Mexican artists by the work's name in my size. It impressed the vendor so much that she had me come into the stall, sit down, and talk with her for a while. 
Jarabe en Ultratumba por Jose Guadalupe Posada
I'm around a lot of native Spanish speakers and they are thrilled with my progress 
I remember my grandparents speaking Norwegian when they didn't want us to know what they were saying
fascinating history and I love the common words: schmooze. schtick, kvetch
Like he said, there are a lot of exceptions. He may be seeing something that isn't there. Especially since two of the most common words for penis are feminine - la pene, la verga.
Then you have words like la mano, la foto - the hand, the photo. Feminine but ends with o. A lot of words that end with ma are masculine as well. El sistema, el programa. I remember an early Spanish class in college when the professor introduced the phrase - Quiero ir de compras (I want to go shopping). A lot of us asked why it wasn't Quiero ir de comprar. Comprar being the infinitive of buy, which we thought made more sense. "Tradition," he said, smiling. There are rules, but there's always going to be something that doesn't follow it.
Unless I missed something waaaay back in high school, I don't think there's any way to figure out whether a word in English (or one's native language) that you don't know in Spanish will be masculine or feminine once you learn it.
Even worse - not all languages agree on the gender of things. Una manzana, ein Apfel. An apple in Spanish (feminine) and German (masculine).
LatinX is a newly coined nongendered term to accommodate transgender and nonbinary people that was recently coined (outside the Hispanic community) and the subject of great disdain by the Latino/Hispanic population.
I'm merely trying to figure out the confusion in your post and offer an explanation. Please don't jump all over me for merely trying to do so. . 
