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(48,797 posts)
Wed Dec 12, 2018, 11:00 PM Dec 2018

The Loneliest Generation: Americans, More Than Ever, Are Aging Alone

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Baby boomers are aging alone more than any generation in U.S. history, and the resulting loneliness is a looming public health threat. About one in 11 Americans age 50 and older lacks a spouse, partner or living child, census figures and other research show. That amounts to about eight million people in the U.S. without close kin, the main source of companionship in old age, and their share of the population is projected to grow.

Policy makers are concerned this will strain the federal budget and undermine baby boomers’ health. Researchers have found that loneliness takes a physical toll, and is as closely linked to early mortality as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day or consuming more than six alcoholic drinks a day. Loneliness is even worse for longevity than being obese or physically inactive.

Along with financial issues including high debt and declining pensions, social factors such as loneliness are another reason boomers are experiencing more difficult retirement years than previous generations. The lack of social contacts among older adults costs Medicare $6.7 billion a year, mostly from spending on nursing facilities and hospitalization for those who have less of a network to help out, according to a study last year by Harvard University, Stanford University and AARP.

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The baby boomers prized individuality and generally had fewer children and ended marriages in greater numbers than previous generations. More than one in four boomers is divorced or never married, census figures show. About one in six lives alone... Among the most likely to lack close kin are college-educated women and people with little money, says Ashton Verdery, an assistant professor of sociology and demography at Pennsylvania State University. More senior women than men are kinless because women’s life expectancies are nearly five years longer, at 81 years. Of Americans age 50 and over in 2016, 27% of women were widowed or never married, compared with 16% of men. Women are also less likely to cohabitate and date later in life, research shows.

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In Boston, a cluster of seniors in 2002 banded together to form a “village” so they could lean on each other for household services, social activities and old-age planning. That’s spawned 350 similar groups nationwide in what is now known as the Village to Village Network. Members can tap rides to doctors’ appointments, handymen and activities like group meditation and bowling.

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https://www.wsj.com/articles/the-loneliest-generation-americans-more-than-ever-are-aging-alone-11544541134 (paid subscription)

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The Loneliest Generation: Americans, More Than Ever, Are Aging Alone (Original Post) question everything Dec 2018 OP
I LOVE living alone with my dog. BigmanPigman Dec 2018 #1
It is fine, until and unless you are sick or injured and have no one to call question everything Dec 2018 #3
My neighbor told me that she doesn't want to live to "old age" BigmanPigman Dec 2018 #8
This snippet conflates aloneness and loneliness Bradshaw3 Dec 2018 #2
Indeed, this was some of the examples that they gave question everything Dec 2018 #5
I could write a lot more on this subject Bradshaw3 Dec 2018 #7
alone is ok until u need another because of medical issues and nobody is there xcept msongs Dec 2018 #4
Or if you just happened to fall.. question everything Dec 2018 #6
What the hell is happening to this once great nation ? Pepsidog Dec 2018 #9

BigmanPigman

(52,241 posts)
1. I LOVE living alone with my dog.
Wed Dec 12, 2018, 11:35 PM
Dec 2018

I think it has made me healthier. It certainly has kept me more sane and happy. If I had to live with someone I would be miserable. I get to do what I want, when I want. It is great! If I didn't love it then I would live with someone. Simple. It is by choice. I have had roommates galore and definitely know that this is the best decision for me.

question everything

(48,797 posts)
3. It is fine, until and unless you are sick or injured and have no one to call
Thu Dec 13, 2018, 12:31 AM
Dec 2018

to help you. The story gave some sad examples.

Individuals whose friends and family members disappeared and who are too sick or tired to get out, even to church.


BigmanPigman

(52,241 posts)
8. My neighbor told me that she doesn't want to live to "old age"
Thu Dec 13, 2018, 01:39 AM
Dec 2018

with Climate Change and all the other stuff coming our way. She's 75 and healthy but we agree that medical breakthroughs help you live longer but a lot of people can't afford to or they just don't want to. I know that suicide rates have been increasing at all ages.

Bradshaw3

(7,962 posts)
2. This snippet conflates aloneness and loneliness
Wed Dec 12, 2018, 11:56 PM
Dec 2018

They may often correlate but not always. Some prefer being alone and don't suffer from loneliness. And having children or a spouse doesn't always guarantee the kind of positive human interactions that obviate loneliness. A lot of children have little to do with their older parents.

question everything

(48,797 posts)
5. Indeed, this was some of the examples that they gave
Thu Dec 13, 2018, 12:33 AM
Dec 2018

One of the problem, also, is that as many age, their circle of friends shrinks. Some die, some move away, some get sick and move to senior living place, or assisted living.

Bradshaw3

(7,962 posts)
7. I could write a lot more on this subject
Thu Dec 13, 2018, 01:07 AM
Dec 2018

I've seen a lot of what they are talking about but not having a subscription I couldn't read them. I've seen a lot of the loneliness in the area I live in but find it interesting that for many having kids doesn't help since they don't visit that often. I know from working with psychology researchers the importance of social interactions to a healthy lifestyle but I've always kind of gone my own way and have been fine with that. I am one of those mentioned in the article as living alone and without the close kin to help in times of trouble.

I don't know what I will do when I get older but maybe aids like the one mentoned in another post will help when I get really old, or maybe I will still be able to fly to Alaska in winter, walk out into the tundra with a bottle of bourbon and drift off into a permanent sleep.

Thanks for posting.

msongs

(70,170 posts)
4. alone is ok until u need another because of medical issues and nobody is there xcept
Thu Dec 13, 2018, 12:31 AM
Dec 2018

total strangers who know nothing about you and can do nothing for your situation. then you get parked in a death palace while all your assets dwindle away because there is nobody to manage them

question everything

(48,797 posts)
6. Or if you just happened to fall..
Thu Dec 13, 2018, 12:39 AM
Dec 2018

From the story

Gary Grasmick, a 68-year-old retired federal IT worker who lives by himself, was carrying groceries into his Washington, D.C., row house two years ago when he felt his knee give out. Overweight and unable to get up, and with no phone in reach, he lay there for at least two nights as dehydration and a urinary tract infection led to sepsis. His kidneys started shutting down and he grew delirious.

Mr. Grasmick tried to drag himself to a phone and a sink but couldn’t get there. He began to lose track of time.

A friend became worried when he didn’t return her calls and called the police. When emergency personnel found him, his brain had swelled. In his delirium he thought that hospital caretakers were trying to hurt him. It wasn’t until an old fraternity brother showed up to visit that he fully understood what had happened. “Then I felt safe,” he says.

After more than two weeks in intensive care, and six months in a skilled nursing facility, he returned home last year and made some changes. Mr. Grasmick installed an emergency call box he can trigger from a wrist band, and began tucking a cellphone into the shirt pocket on his pajamas before he climbs into bed at night.

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