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bearfan454

(6,697 posts)
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 01:35 PM Jul 2019

I've been retired for almost one year now

I am very much enjoying it. I'm busier now than when I worked. I have ranch upkeep, the garden, and home stuff. I can honestly say cooking, cleaning, laundry and dishes are a full time job by themselves.

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I've been retired for almost one year now (Original Post) bearfan454 Jul 2019 OP
Thing about retirement... safeinOhio Jul 2019 #1
You're not kidding bearfan454 Jul 2019 #7
When my husband retired from teaching Ohiogal Jul 2019 #2
I love my retirement. Polly Hennessey Jul 2019 #3
Having 7 Saturdays each week is pretty cool! NRaleighLiberal Jul 2019 #4
June 30 was the second anniversary of my last day at work calguy Jul 2019 #5
Retirement happiness surprised me srobertss Jul 2019 #6
Retiring, when I did, was one of the smartest things I've ever done Siwsan Jul 2019 #8
Your life sounds wonderful. Good for you! kstewart33 Jul 2019 #13
I do well doing nothing. Is that a positive or a negative? demosincebirth Jul 2019 #9
People always ask me what I'm doing with my time srobertss Jul 2019 #16
I thought I'd want to travel more too, but I don't. SunSeeker Jul 2019 #19
Right there with you two Bradshaw3 Jul 2019 #32
Yes, the best is just hanging out with folks you love in local spots you love. SunSeeker Jul 2019 #36
That's interesting, because I always thought I'd want to travel more, too. But I'm Nay Jul 2019 #37
I've been retired about seven years. Mr.Bill Jul 2019 #10
Thank you! MLAA Jul 2019 #21
The pleasure is all mine. Mr.Bill Jul 2019 #23
After working my arse off in the corporate world for 35 years and raising a family, OMGWTF Jul 2019 #11
It's six years for me after BHDem53 Jul 2019 #12
30 days to go for me Fiendish Thingy Jul 2019 #14
Looking forward to it extvbroadcaster Jul 2019 #15
My wife's been after me retire like her. I told her she's not retired, she's just working for free. marble falls Jul 2019 #17
Yep, retirement doesn't mean sitting around. Be sure to guard your time in retirement. SunSeeker Jul 2019 #18
me too! mike_c Jul 2019 #20
My biggest accomplishment since I retired was spending time exercising to get really fit. MLAA Jul 2019 #22
Me and my 14 year old dog go for walks every day bearfan454 Jul 2019 #24
Daisy sounds like a very lucky girl! MLAA Jul 2019 #38
It's been 20 years. trof Jul 2019 #25
Same here demosincebirth Aug 2019 #39
The best part of it is when you wake up early in the morning, look outside and see The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2019 #26
I have been retired for 10 years now, the best job I ever had. You have to keep busy. The worst doc03 Jul 2019 #27
We are three years in and loving it. LakeArenal Jul 2019 #28
I loved reading this thread and I look forward to the day when I can join you!!! Nt spooky3 Jul 2019 #29
Nine years and loving it marigold20 Jul 2019 #30
Somedays I wonder how Runningdawg Jul 2019 #31
When I was a young longhair all I wanted was to not work, get high and listen to music Bradshaw3 Jul 2019 #33
Three years this summer and totally enjoying retirement. Golden Raisin Jul 2019 #34
I have never understood people who PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2019 #35

Ohiogal

(34,711 posts)
2. When my husband retired from teaching
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 01:46 PM
Jul 2019

He said he didn’t know how he ever had time to work!

Especially if you have a house .... it’s always something. Inside and out.

Polly Hennessey

(7,458 posts)
3. I love my retirement.
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 01:46 PM
Jul 2019

Every day is near perfect. I have my books, my dogs, the garden, leisurely meals, my time is mine. Don’t miss the stress of other people.

calguy

(5,768 posts)
5. June 30 was the second anniversary of my last day at work
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 01:55 PM
Jul 2019

Have to say..... It's been nice. With 10 acres to play with there's always something that can be done but very little that absolutely has to get done. I don't have a ton of money but don't need very much. Life is good.

srobertss

(265 posts)
6. Retirement happiness surprised me
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 02:10 PM
Jul 2019

I dealt with depression when I was young and thought I would have to be very careful to structure my time well when I retired. Instead I was surprised to feel like a new person. It was like all these parts of me I expended on the people in my job (which I really liked and still volunteer with) swirled together and returned to me. It’s been six years now and I’m still marveling at my luck, though I have to keep myself from expending too much on the political situation.

Siwsan

(27,291 posts)
8. Retiring, when I did, was one of the smartest things I've ever done
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 02:56 PM
Jul 2019

It's been 4 years, now, and I haven't had one single second of regret. Whatever years I have left, I have because I retired and walked away from a stressful, hostile, corporate work environment. I had planned on working another 3 to 5 years but my work situation became untenable. After I lost my sister and my mom, that made me stop and re-evaluate my priorities. I retired on my very first day of eligibility.

I'd always been a 'saver', received a modest inheritance, which I invested, and am a VERY low maintenance individual. I garden, read, do a little traveling, make LOTS of plans - some I carry out, some I haven't quite gotten around to, yet. My niece and her new husband are moving back to Michigan, and plan on starting their family so, hopefully, my life is going to start getting even more fun, interesting and fulfilling.

srobertss

(265 posts)
16. People always ask me what I'm doing with my time
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 04:41 PM
Jul 2019

I half apologetically, half proudly say, “nothing”. Of course “nothing” includes gardening, cooking, knitting, etc. But a lot of people wonder why I don’t travel more. I used to be a good traveler and thought I would do a lot when I retired, but now it feels like a waste of time. In the words of Rumi, as translated by Coleman Barks, “All the news we hear is full of grief for the future. But the real news inside us is there’s no news at all.” I’m spending my time paying attention to the real news inside me. That takes a lot of nothing.

SunSeeker

(53,670 posts)
19. I thought I'd want to travel more too, but I don't.
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 04:55 PM
Jul 2019

When I was working, I constantly wanted to travel. But now I realize that was because my job made me feel so trapped and claustrophobic. Now that I'm retired, I don't have that "I gotta get out of here" feeling any more.

Bradshaw3

(7,962 posts)
32. Right there with you two
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 07:10 PM
Jul 2019

There are still places I want to go before I go - for good - but don't feel much motivation to do it right now. Maybe because I travelled a lot when I worked (probably for the same reason you listed) and feel like I have done and seen a lot.

Same with retirement; don't feel the need to do a lot, just happy walking my dog in the mountains and visiting friends. I have volunteered at a nature center. All those things that seemed so important when I worked seem awfully small nowadays.

Nay

(12,051 posts)
37. That's interesting, because I always thought I'd want to travel more, too. But I'm
Mon Jul 22, 2019, 07:50 AM
Jul 2019

perfectly happy staying home. I no longer want to deal with people (had to do that all my working years!) regularly, or deal with the stress of travel. We did see most of the US and 3 or 4 overseas countries, and that's been enough for me.

And as far as US travel goes, most of the US is so similar that travel doesn't do much for me here, except for the natural areas. And we've been to 90% of them, so . . .

Mr.Bill

(24,795 posts)
10. I've been retired about seven years.
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 03:09 PM
Jul 2019

We downsized our housing and moved into a senior mobile home park, something I thought I would never do, but I'm very happy with it and it's really cheap. We are not wealthy, but we get the bills paid and have a nice new compact car. I took on the tasks of dishwashing, laundry and watering the small garden.

It's an older mobile home, so repairs and upkeep have to be done. It was a fixer when we bought it, but we installed a complete new kitchen because we both love to cook and we updated other things as well.

I volunteer at the hospital where my wife used to work. It's very interesting how working for no pay (something else I never thought I'd do) because when you take money out of the equation it leaves just the simple act of working. No worrying about the next raise, or getting laid off, etc. I just go to work and make people feel a little more comfortable in the surgery waiting room. It's easy to do.

MLAA

(18,602 posts)
21. Thank you!
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 08:21 PM
Jul 2019

I’ve spent the last week at a hospital with my husband. His single bypass surgery went well and he will be released tomorrow. The volunteers at the waiting room area were so helpful, but the biggest gift they gave was a smile every time I walked by. It really helped. I thanked them and now I wanted to thank you!

Mr.Bill

(24,795 posts)
23. The pleasure is all mine.
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 08:56 PM
Jul 2019

Well, except for the fact that I have to be there at 5:30 am. But I only do it one or two days a week and I'm usually home by noon. Although we don't get paid, we get invited to all employee events, like the Christmas party and the summer BBQ and we also eat free in the cafeteria. The hospital treats us very well and I can't walk down a hallway there without being thanked by someone.

My motivation to work in this area was that between all the medical issues my mother and wife have been through, I have spent a lot of time in that waiting room and others and I know what people are going through. For some it's a pretty routine thing because they've been there so many times, but for some it's the most stressful day in their life. And you're right, a smile goes a long way.

OMGWTF

(4,441 posts)
11. After working my arse off in the corporate world for 35 years and raising a family,
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 03:31 PM
Jul 2019

I was so happy to put "homemaker" on my income tax return ten years ago when I lost my job in the Great Republican Recession of 2008. Taking care of my home, family, friends, and community are the best job I've ever had.

BHDem53

(1,078 posts)
12. It's six years for me after
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 03:33 PM
Jul 2019

36 years on the railroad. Thanks to the union I was able to retire at sixty years old and the railroad continued to pay for my health insurance to my 65th birthday. Railroad Retirement is paying me almost as much as I was making on a straight time paycheck. And I no longer have to get up on Monday at three in the morning to drive somewhere to work. Go Bears!

extvbroadcaster

(343 posts)
15. Looking forward to it
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 03:56 PM
Jul 2019

I used to never think about retirement. Now I do a lot. One or two more years. I started to really pay attention to my pension about 7 years ago. The company put everyone in a 401k a few years ago but older workers could stay in the pension, so I did.

SunSeeker

(53,670 posts)
18. Yep, retirement doesn't mean sitting around. Be sure to guard your time in retirement.
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 04:51 PM
Jul 2019

All the things you've been putting off doing in your home are now things you have time to do. But be careful. Once people realize you're retired, they won't respect your time as much, and will expect you to do stuff for them all day long, as if your time is now limitless. You didn't retire to be someone's gopher. You worked your ass off your whole adult life so you could do what YOU want in retirement. You deserve it. Remember that and be careful about committing your time to any person/organization unless it is truly making you happy to do it.

You only have so many really good years of health left, where you can travel and do physically demanding stuff. Don't squander it doing other people's chores. Do stuff YOU want to do. If what you want is to work in your garden, then go for it. But if not, hire a gardener and free yourself to do other stuff. I'm telling you this because I wish someone had told me that when I retired.

mike_c

(36,333 posts)
20. me too!
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 07:07 PM
Jul 2019

Congratulations for your retirement! I retired on Aug 17 2018, but I'm only semi-retired in that I can still work one semester a year if I want to, and the extra money makes me want to. So I'm getting ready to go back to work from mid-August until mid-December. But the last seven months have been great!

MLAA

(18,602 posts)
22. My biggest accomplishment since I retired was spending time exercising to get really fit.
Sat Jul 20, 2019, 08:23 PM
Jul 2019

The rest of the time is just doing whatever I feel like and asking people is today Tuesday? Or what is the date today?

bearfan454

(6,697 posts)
24. Me and my 14 year old dog go for walks every day
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 05:18 PM
Jul 2019

She was my Mom's dog till last October. Now she's my baby Daisy. My Mom spoiled her to the point of her not knowing she was a dog. She had her own single bed, her own couch, and my Mom cooked for her all the time. But me and her are getting healthier every day on our walks.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(120,883 posts)
26. The best part of it is when you wake up early in the morning, look outside and see
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 05:37 PM
Jul 2019

that it's snowing like crazy, and you just go back to bed because you don't have to get up and drive to work in the snow. The down side is that people think that because you are retired you have nothing to do, so if you are involved in any sort of volunteer organization you will be taken advantage of if you don't say "no" pretty often. I have become very good at saying No.

doc03

(36,709 posts)
27. I have been retired for 10 years now, the best job I ever had. You have to keep busy. The worst
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 05:42 PM
Jul 2019

thing you can do is start hanging out with other retirees that do nothing but watch Fox and complain. So far this year I have put over 1000 miles on my bicycle, when the weather doesn't co-operate I go to the gym, go to concerts, travel and go fishing any time I want. I to wonder how the hell I ever had time to work. I thank god I had a good paying union job with a defined benefit pension. I wonder what the next generation will do, work till they die?

LakeArenal

(29,808 posts)
28. We are three years in and loving it.
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 06:20 PM
Jul 2019

His family can’t believe he doesn’t have a part tome job. Mine has always thought I as an underachiever anyway.

People say have a good day. I reply everyday is a good day, but thanks!

The worst day of retirement has been better than the best day working!!

marigold20

(921 posts)
30. Nine years and loving it
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 06:38 PM
Jul 2019

One of the best things about retirement is the ability to do things during the week - no waiting for the weekend and hoping for good weather. We are heading out tomorrow for some camping now that the weather has improved. We'll canoe every day, bike and stare at the water. Can't wait!

Runningdawg

(4,616 posts)
31. Somedays I wonder how
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 07:06 PM
Jul 2019

I ever got anything done at home working 80 hours a week. I was on call 3/4 days I wasn't working, it's been over 10 years for me and I can finally relax at the salon, knowing my pager won't go off in the middle of a cut. I STILL can't manage more than a few hours of sleep in a row, though overall, I do get more sleep.

Bradshaw3

(7,962 posts)
33. When I was a young longhair all I wanted was to not work, get high and listen to music
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 07:48 PM
Jul 2019

Now I'm retired, can use pot legally and have a compiled a pretty good music collection over the years. So at 65 I'm finally getting to do full-time what I dreamed of (and did in spurts) back in the late 60s and early 70s. I retired at 62 and glad I did. I don't have as much as others but also not worrying about all the stupid shit you have to when you are working (and I had a job I enjoyed).

Golden Raisin

(4,674 posts)
34. Three years this summer and totally enjoying retirement.
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 08:42 PM
Jul 2019

Retired from a huge corporation and do not miss the tremendous stress, nor the commute (via NYC subway). When people inquire I say, "I'm a professional bum." Or, "I have no problem with doing nothing." Worked my ass off for 45 years (not counting summer jobs in high school and college.) Now it's time to relax and time for me.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,727 posts)
35. I have never understood people who
Sun Jul 21, 2019, 09:26 PM
Jul 2019

retire from a job and then get another one because they're "bored". That's a strong indication the person has zero happening with them outside of a job. Which is sad.

Oh, I understand going back to work because you need or want the money. But bored? There are books to read. Movies to watch. Walks to take. Friends to visit.

Personally, I've never had a job that was better than not working. I ceased gainful employment about five years ago, and even though I wouldn't mind having more money, I have enough to pay my bills and do some traveling, so I'm quite happy. Plus, I have never been one to get up early in the morning. I generally sleep until 9 am or so, and just love it.

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