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mahina

(18,915 posts)
Mon May 1, 2023, 02:36 PM May 2023

I'm very well, but wanting to get my details sorted. Where do you put will, cremation plan, etc?

Where will emergency responders look for something like that- on the fridge?
(not kidding)

Thanks all.

I know to tell my family where the files are but who knows if they will remember or even still be here themselves- younger generation may move away from the islands, older may move away from the planet.

A google doc? Outside front door on a clipboard? Seems a few decades early for that.

Thanks, cheeries.

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I'm very well, but wanting to get my details sorted. Where do you put will, cremation plan, etc? (Original Post) mahina May 2023 OP
I have two books put together by my estate planner. The first contains will, trust sinkingfeeling May 2023 #1
Thank you. mahina May 2023 #18
Hope this helps mercuryblues May 2023 #2
Mahalo. mahina May 2023 #17
Same questions. elleng May 2023 #3
Thanks Elleng. Same, lol. mahina May 2023 #16
My attorney advised me to get a fire-proof portable safe. No Vested Interest May 2023 #22
Not concerned about fire, I AM an attorney, just gotta fill in a few details elleng May 2023 #23
Electronic file Lulu KC May 2023 #4
I wish mine would. I have the unexecuted files electronically mahina May 2023 #15
fridge is good... markie May 2023 #5
Thank you 😊 mahina May 2023 #14
Gave kids copy of everything. Orig in fireproof case. Joinfortmill May 2023 #6
Sounds good, thank you. mahina May 2023 #13
You could give them a copy or give them a note indicating the location of the docs. Raven123 May 2023 #7
Righto! mahina May 2023 #12
I keep mine in a fireproof bag inside a fireproof safe. Chainfire May 2023 #8
Good plan. Thanks. mahina May 2023 #10
I was in a situation where I had to call emergency responders for a neighbor. llmart May 2023 #9
Great info, thank you! mahina May 2023 #11
OK, I'll be the contrarian. trof May 2023 #19
Got it thanks. mahina May 2023 #20
I have 2 girls, both know where my important information is. Paper Roses May 2023 #21

sinkingfeeling

(52,967 posts)
1. I have two books put together by my estate planner. The first contains will, trust
Mon May 1, 2023, 02:41 PM
May 2023

papers, DNR, medical stuff, etc. and is in my bookcase. The second, is a smaller grouping of original papers, kept in my safe deposit box.

elleng

(135,876 posts)
3. Same questions.
Mon May 1, 2023, 02:45 PM
May 2023

Friend has helped me put them together but not well, and I still haven't actually placed them anywhere. Guess I'll tell son in law, executor-to-be, where to find stuff, like in a folder (or as now, on sofa!)

No Vested Interest

(5,193 posts)
22. My attorney advised me to get a fire-proof portable safe.
Fri May 26, 2023, 07:49 PM
May 2023

(He had seen his parents' home demolished by a tornado and had a fire in his own home that destroyed much.)

I purchased the safe and have some documents in it, but frankly, it is likely too heavy for this now elderly woman to carry in an emergency. Guess I'll depend on the fire-proof part of it, though I keep it unlocked in my office/spare room.

elleng

(135,876 posts)
23. Not concerned about fire, I AM an attorney, just gotta fill in a few details
Fri May 26, 2023, 07:53 PM
May 2023

and get the thing PRINTED!

Lulu KC

(4,146 posts)
4. Electronic file
Mon May 1, 2023, 02:58 PM
May 2023

Our attorney sent us an electronic file that I forwarded to the kids. But you make a good point--thanks for bringing this up.

mahina

(18,915 posts)
15. I wish mine would. I have the unexecuted files electronically
Mon May 1, 2023, 04:32 PM
May 2023

But not the executed ones. Thanks for your response.

markie

(22,907 posts)
5. fridge is good...
Mon May 1, 2023, 03:25 PM
May 2023

we were told to put my husband's DNR on the refrigerator when he was sick... seems, if not the documants, then information about such could be put on fridge ???

I have told kids where everything is

Raven123

(6,006 posts)
7. You could give them a copy or give them a note indicating the location of the docs.
Mon May 1, 2023, 03:38 PM
May 2023

They can file it with their important documents

 

Chainfire

(17,757 posts)
8. I keep mine in a fireproof bag inside a fireproof safe.
Mon May 1, 2023, 03:53 PM
May 2023

Along with enough cash to pay for two bargain cremations. Both of our children have the combination to the safe and access to all of our bank accounts.

llmart

(16,331 posts)
9. I was in a situation where I had to call emergency responders for a neighbor.
Mon May 1, 2023, 04:22 PM
May 2023

I stayed with her until they got there and the first thing they asked me when they came in was "do you know what meds she's on?" She was incoherent at that point. They walked into the kitchen and fortunately she had hung a copy of all the meds she takes (and she takes a lot whether she needs them or not but that's another story) on the fridge. They said that was extremely helpful.

trof

(54,270 posts)
19. OK, I'll be the contrarian.
Mon May 1, 2023, 07:15 PM
May 2023

Miz t. and I do have "if incapacitated" medical powers of attorney.

I don't have a health directive like 'DNR' if...
New discoveries in medicine happen daily (hourly?).
I don't want to direct someone to 'unplug' me at some future date. I'll leave it to my heirs and descendants to decide.

I have donated my corpse to science. My wife and daughter have the number to call. Put my remains on ice and they'll come and collect me.
Any 'leftovers' will be cremated and returned to my heirs.
They can hold a memorial/celebration of life/party/bash any time they desire.

Absolutely NO Cost to my family.
Think about it.

mahina

(18,915 posts)
20. Got it thanks.
Mon May 1, 2023, 07:34 PM
May 2023

You do you. I used to feel that way too. 🤙🏼🤙🏼to each his own.

My dear friend said she didn’t want an expensive cemetery plot or even a funeral, just a party. Put her ashes in your pocket, cut a hole in your pocket and spread them all the way down the beach.

Paper Roses

(7,504 posts)
21. I have 2 girls, both know where my important information is.
Thu May 25, 2023, 04:34 PM
May 2023

One has Power of Atty, both are co-executors of my will. My original Documents are in a safety deposit box at my bank. Both girls have signature rights to that box, one has a key, the other knows where I keep my key. They also have signatory rights to my checking account and my meager savings account.
I have a DNR and notified my doctor of this.

I am over 80 and am finding life very difficult now and am done with all the problems of coping. As a widow of 15 years, I live on only S.S. My late husband and I managed a simple life, saved, college educated both girls without student loans.
I'm at a stage with nothing but one negative thing after another.
The girls know I don't want a funeral. Cremate me and bury me with my late husband and then go out to dinner and remember the good times.

I feel sorry for them in one respect, how to get rid of all the stuff in the house. Not fun in any circumstance. I've tried to downsize by advertising on local FB pages. No luck. No-one is buying the stuff we had for years.
I'm sick of all of it. Love my family. All I have is a very sick sister in Florida, my 2 girls and 2 grandchildren. Everything goes to them when they get thru all the estate stuff.

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