After Growing Up Fearing Sin, This Mom Won't Make That Mistake With Her Kids

[NeoGreen]

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After Growing Up Fearing Sin, This Mom Won’t Make That Mistake With Her Kids
By Sarahbeth Caplin, January 30, 2019

Julia Scheeres was raised in a fundamentalist Christian home where she did everything she could to avoid sin. In her case, anything even mildly problematic fell into the same category as the unforgivable. Every misstep was an affront to God. It messed her up.

When she grew up, became less religious, and grew distant from her parents, she was determined not to make the same mistake with her children. Now, writing for the New York Times, Scheeres describes what it’s like raising children without any concept of sinfulness:

The notion of sin dominated my girlhood. Raised in Indiana by fundamentalist parents, sin was the inflexible yardstick by which I was measured. Actions, words, even thoughts weren’t safe from scrutiny. The list of sinful offenses seemed infinite: listening to secular music or watching secular television, saying “gosh” or “darn” or “jeez,” questioning authorities, envying a friend’s rainbow array of Izod shirts. God was a megaphone bleating in my head: “You’re bad, you’re bad, you’re bad!” I had recurring nightmares of malevolent winds tornado-ing through my bedroom — a metaphor, I now realize, for an invisible and vindictive god.

Although I no longer have contact with my parents and live a very different life, we do have this in common. Just as my parents’ approach to imparting their values was shaped by an effort to avoid the sins they feared, I am raising my two daughters according to my moral code. To me, the greatest sin of all is failing to be an engaged citizen of the world, so the lessons are about being open to others rather than closed off.

Scheeres’ childhood probably sounds familiar to many people who grew up in conservative Christian homes. It wasn’t until she started attending public school as a teenager that she finally met people of different beliefs and backgrounds who didn’t fit the immoral stereotype she’d been taught to expect of non-Christians. They weren’t bad in any meaningful way. In fact, the Jewish and non-religious classmates she befriended were actually quite nice.

[Cartoonist]

1. Heaven is just a sin away

It doesn't help when they charge you with a sin at birth even though you haven't had a chance to do anything.

[UpInArms]

2. When I was about 14 ...

Because I loved babysitting and being around little kids ... a friend asked if I wanted to help with her church’s kid’s group ...

I thought it would be fun ... and I had a bunch of babies ... around three or so ... they were adorable

Then ....

Some cretin came into the room and started telling all those beautiful babies they were sinners and going to hell ..

I was appalled and shocked ... these babies didn’t even know what germs were, much less were they capable of grasping “sin”

I made a huge stink about it and walked out ... never to return

I despise that crap

[MyOwnPeace]

3. "Raised in Indiana by fundamentalist parents"

Say, isn't that where VP Pence and Mama are from?
Hmmmmm, wonder if he shares any of those "thoughts?"

[MineralMan]

4. This is closely related to the thread about religious schools.

I have the same objections to teaching children that they are hopeless sinners doomed to Hell unless they follow a particular religion. Why would anyone teach such things to innocent children, instead of teaching them basic ethical behavior?