s.o.s. please. My heart is breaking. help me break it open to something good
any thoughts, quotes, vibes, intention, wisdom, peace, and guidance will be greatly appreciated. i cant seem to find them in myself. i know they are there i am just so heartbroken.
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First, I offer you this Dickenson poem:
http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/177118
After great pain, a formal feeling comes – (372)
By Emily Dickinson 1830–1886 Emily Dickinson
After great pain, a formal feeling comes –
The Nerves sit ceremonious, like Tombs –
The stiff Heart questions ‘was it He, that bore,’
And ‘Yesterday, or Centuries before’?
The Feet, mechanical, go round –
A Wooden way
Of Ground, or Air, or Ought –
Regardless grown,
A Quartz contentment, like a stone –
This is the Hour of Lead –
Remembered, if outlived,
As Freezing persons, recollect the Snow –
First – Chill – then Stupor – then the letting go –
My hope for you is that soon you'll be past the stage of letting go and he headed into something much better.
Laura
for your broken heart. So sorry you are suffering.
...I am hoping that it will help you keep your courage while you are going through this.
Your heartbreak right now is something that may have to go on a little bit before you find peace. You will need people who are close to you for awhile and talking helps though it may seem like taking an aspirin for a toothache that could not be dulled with the strongest medicine. I had an elder relative as a young woman who actually took me into her arms and rocked me in her rocking chair like I was a baby and I cannot tell you how healing that was ~ but I did not realize how healing that action was until afterwards when my pain became a little more bearable, that she helped it far more than anything else had. We often want to be a brave adults and the "shame" we have that the scared child living inside of us that needs nurture at those times more than anything, can be something that we deny when of all times that child is the one that is crying and needing to be cherished. In truth seeking out the people who will enfold you, let you cry, be angry, and generally understand and accept you, is important.
It may feel like an eternity because the pain can be great, maybe seeming unbearable, but it is an important part of finding your essence (who you are). Still I remember how difficult it is to deal with it from my own heartbreaks over my 60 years. But because I am down the road in my life a ways now I have gained some insight, I can tell you those times were great learning periods that gave me insights I have used ever since. I was able to apply them to others I loved, and help them through their heartbreaks. Once I knew this was going to help others, it made the other heartbreaks that have some along, far more bearable. I am hoping I am sharing something I learned that will make yours pain a little more bearable as well.
I am keeping you in my thoughts and sending you Light. Hearts!
Love,
Cat in Seattle
Sending thoughts of peace and comfort.
Sorry you are having a rough time. May it pass and leave you in a much better frame of mind.
This is good advice for all of us. Thanks for the reminder. Peace!
This photo has been my mantra lately. I keep it on my desktop to remind myself every day...
I agree with the tin man, a heart is worth having, even when it feels like it's breaking.
because you gotta mash, crush, stomp those sonovaguns until they give up every last bit of sour juice they got.
and then you add lots of sugar and ice, stir it up, and enjoy!
thank you, thank you! try the veal, folks.
A well-known speaker started off his seminar holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?" Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this."
He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, "Who still wants it...?" Still the hands were up in the air. "Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now, who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.
"My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We may feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.
Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE.
You are special-Don't EVER forget it." If you do not pass this on, you may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to, or the hope that it may bring. Count your blessings, not your problems.
I feel for you and I wish you love, joy and most of all peace. One thing that may help to know is that when you are at your lowest and feel completely dreadful, there is an opening coming, and that opening will bring you clarity, understanding, and perhaps a new perspective.
If you hadn't journeyed through the darkness, you would never appreciate how bright the light is...and it is there, even if it doesn't seem like it. Ask for guidance and it will come. Experiencing the darkness only leads to one thing, growth. We all go through it, no one is immune.
But now there is so much more light here than ever before and we can interact with that light and use it to elevate ourselves. What may have taken weeks, months, years or even lifetimes to work through before, we can now do almost instantaneously.
Try intending that you have learned what it is you were supposed to learn, that you are ready to release whatever it is. And then, most importantly, set your intention that your personal vibration is rising to one of complete and unconditional love and compassion. Visualize every cell in your body upgrading, increasing to the highest frequency attainable to you right now. Just keep doing this, even if you think it's not helping. You have to "ask" and be open to receiving the light, which you are. It will work. Assistance is all around us now closer than ever before and when you come out the other side of this, you will be so much lighter than you ever could imagine. Much, much love to you.
My version of that same mantra, shraby. I've never been terribly dignified, you see!
Seriously, a sense of humor is all that keeps me going when it gets REALLY bad. There is not one thing ever put in front of us that we CAN'T deal with. We may choose not to, but we all have the power or ability to.
Laura