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MissMillie

(39,010 posts)
Sun May 9, 2021, 06:40 AM May 2021

My first Mother's Day w/o my Mom

I've already had a good cry this morning, so I guess what's left is to honor her.

I'll turn to baking. She could bake anything.

Sour cream coffee cake.

Miss you, Mom.

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secondwind

(16,903 posts)
1. It never goes away. 20 years for me.
Sun May 9, 2021, 06:43 AM
May 2021

My daughter kept her powder puff in a baggie, and once a year on her grandma’s birthday, she opens and takes a whiff.

lark

(24,343 posts)
13. Cleaning up this morning, I ran into mom's wallet.
Sun May 9, 2021, 09:16 AM
May 2021

Made me so sad but also reminded me of how wonderful and beautiful she was - a true angel who is very mourned.

2naSalit

(93,444 posts)
2. Mine too.
Sun May 9, 2021, 06:46 AM
May 2021

I had a different kind of relationship with mine but it still feels odd. I have sisters who are moms so I'll celebrate with them.

Polly Hennessey

(7,529 posts)
14. Sounds like me. My mom was a little bit difficult.
Sun May 9, 2021, 09:17 AM
May 2021

My sisters have kids, I celebrate them. Even though our relationship was somewhat challenging, I wish my mom was here. I miss her.

Atticus

(15,124 posts)
3. This is my 23rd without mine. Her last conscious words were "Say a prayer and go on". And, yes,
Sun May 9, 2021, 07:11 AM
May 2021

I miss her still.

Love never dies. Never.

Rorey

(8,513 posts)
4. Sixteen for me
Sun May 9, 2021, 07:34 AM
May 2021

My mom died on Mother's Day, technically. It was just after midnight, May 8th, 2005.

I had gotten her a flower arrangement the day before, and decided to give them to her early. She went on and on about how beautiful they were, and told me, "You always give me the nicest flowers." I'm glad I didn't wait until the next day.

It seems like forever ago, and also like just a minute ago.

Hugs to all who have lost their moms.

NurseJackie

(42,862 posts)
5. I know this feeling...
Sun May 9, 2021, 07:54 AM
May 2021

... it still stings. And as I get older and older, it's shocking (and comforting?) to see my mother's face looking back at me in the mirror. She was my rock during the most difficult years. I miss our conversations and the family stories.



Thanks for posting this, MissMillie.

mopinko

(71,964 posts)
7. 20 yrs w/o my mom. this year is the worst.
Sun May 9, 2021, 07:58 AM
May 2021

thinking about the years i didnt call til tuesday or wed.
i was not a very good daughter when i was in the thick of being a mother. i know she understood, tho she worshipped her mom. and her dad.

on the outs w my kids. i'm sure it isnt permanent. it's just a thing we do in my family.
but being on the other end of things. ow.

babylonsister

(171,684 posts)
8. I will never forget being in
Sun May 9, 2021, 08:24 AM
May 2021

a card store to get a card for my m-i-l for Mothers Day and realizing I couldn't do the same for mine. I lost it; eyes just started swimming. She's been gone 30 years and I still wish I could buy her that card, think about it every year. Coffee cake sounds good.

CaptainTruth

(7,271 posts)
9. Third one for me. She passed a couple weeks before Mother's Day.
Sun May 9, 2021, 08:25 AM
May 2021

I had her Mother's Day card ready to drop in the mail (I live about 1,000 miles away) when I got the news. I had it sent overnight so it could be cremated with her.

Sending hugs...



LymphocyteLover

(6,978 posts)
10. Sorry! I think this year there are a lot of people without their mom's for the 1st time
Sun May 9, 2021, 08:26 AM
May 2021

because of the pandemic. Hope you have a good day.

Lonestarblue

(11,983 posts)
15. I still miss my Mom even though she's been gone many years.
Sun May 9, 2021, 09:22 AM
May 2021

I’m hoping you find some joy today in some wonderful memories of your Mom and the fun ways she made your life better.

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