My mom passed away Thursday evening.

[sheshe2]

For the most part it was peaceful. We were with her all day and the moment she died. We were there.

There is a hole in my heart. Four years of home care and she slipped away. Not easy at all, physically or mentally however I don't regret the time we spent together, I am glad for it. I miss her and feel so lost. Past two nights I did not sleep with a baby monitor in the bed or my phone in my hand, it feels strange.



I am not a religious person, she was. The Angel is for her.

Goodnight, mom. I love you and I miss you.

[greatauntoftriplets]

1. Oh sheshe2, I am so sorry to hear this.

You were a wonderful daughter to her. It takes time to get over a big loss like this.

[madaboutharry]

2. Dear sheshe2,

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is terribly painful. I wish peace and love to you and all your family.

May your mother Rest In Peace and may her memory be a blessing.

[revmclaren]

3. I'm so very sorry.

Love to you and your family.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved mom, my dear sheshe2.

Mothers give us life and then they are gone from ours. Incomprehensible.

Be good to yourself as you pass through this time of sorrow.

You are not alone; you will recover.

[Scrivener7]

5. Oh, sheshe!!! I wish I was there to put an arm around you. I know you have

given so much to her for so long. I am so sorry for the pain you must be feeling. I hold you in my heart, and I hope you know what a good daughter you were to do what you did.

Peace and strength, my dear. I wish them for you, but I know you are already a person of much peace and strength.

Much love to you.

[Cha]

6. Beautful Tribute to remember

your Mom, she.

[sheshe2]

12. Thank you, Cha.

[MerryHolidays]

7. Our deepest condolences. Rest in peace

[FalloutShelter]

8. ((((( she she))))))

So very sorry for your profound loss. Went through a similar scenario with my mom before she passed in 2017. I truly understand and am holding you in my heart.

[PJMcK]

9. Condolences, sheshe2

I'm glad you were with her when she passed. I'm confident that you and your family's presence made her transition peaceful.

My dad passed away last May and I was with him, holding his hand when the moment came. It's a very complex experience and I hope you're at peace.

[sheshe2]

22. Me too, PJMcK.

I am so sorry for your loss as well.

Never easy, is it?

[Frustratedlady]

10. We know we can't keep them forever, but the pain...

May sweet memories help you through your time of sorrow.

[Atticus]

11. Of course, there are no words I could say that would take away the pain I know you

are now feeling. My Mom died in 1998 at only 74 and her loss is still a hole in my heart.

I eventually realized that my loss was so great because I had had such a great mother who loved me even more than I loved her.

Your mother was blessed to have you for her child. Take care of yourself.

[Groundhawg]

13. so Sorry for your loss

[AndyS]

14. What you did for her was more than I could do for my parents.

They did finish their lives in the home they raised 7 children in but I wasn't there. 500 miles away.

It's hard and it should be but saying good bye is something I didn't, get so hold your grief close and know what you did was noble.

There will come a day . . .

[Solly Mack]

15. I'm so sorry, sheshe2.

[snowybirdie]

16. My condolences

Remember her with fondness.

[brer cat]

17. I'm sorry, sheshe.

May you find comfort in knowing that her pain and suffering are over. You were a devoted daughter for years, and you deserve rest also. Take care of yourself.

[sheshe2]

37. Love you, brer and your kind words.

Haven't had a chance to respond to all, everywhere. Takes time.

What I do know, is she will be buried with her son. It was what she wanted, I talked her into it. She wanted it but it was my dads family plot. I said we would place her in the same grave far from my dad. I also promised I would go there as well.

[spooky3]

18. Sheshe2, my deepest condolences to you. Nt

[Walleye]

19. My deepest condolences. My mom died 30 years ago she was only 70.

I know what a horrible and confusing experience it is. Now I’ve lived to be older than she was when she died it’s a strange feeling. Still makes me cry.You will have some comfort knowing you did everything you could.

[sheshe2]

38. Mind if I give you a huge hug?

[Walleye]

50. Thanks. I've been severely lacking in hugs lately.

[sheshe2]

52. You can have as many as you want from me.

[mzmolly]

20. I'm very sorry for

your loss.

[mercuryblues]

21. I am saddened to hear of your loss

Of course, you feel lost. You devoted so much to her care.

[sheshe2]

188. That is beautiful, thank you.

[sinkingfeeling]

23. My deepest condolences.

[babylonsister]

24. Sincere condolences to you and your family.

Hugs. xoxo

[Dr. Shepper]

25. I am so sorry for your deep loss

[littlemissmartypants]

26. So sorry, sweetie. ❤

[LisaM]

27. I'm very sorry.

You will likely be grateful later for this peaceful transition, but it's sad.

[nuxvomica]

28. My condolences, sheshe2

[applegrove]

29. So very sorry Sheshe

(((Hugs)))

[dixiechiken1]

30. My deepest sympathies to you & your family, she.

It's been a little over a year since my mom passed. I miss her every day. That will never change. But, over time, my memories of her make me smile more than they make me cry.

May your grief be short and your memories long, she. Take care of yourself.

[sheshe2]

189. Love to you and yours.

[NNadir]

31. Deepest Sympathy.

[kimbutgar]

32. So sorry for your loss

You were with her when she passed. Did you feel her spirit when she passed? I was with my Mom when she passed and it was so peaceful. I felt her hug when she left me and felt relieved she was with my father, her mother and her siblings who died years previously.

The dream when they come to you after they passed happens.

[UpInArms]

33. Oh, my dear sheshe

My heart aches with yours …

((((((hugs))))))

[alwaysinasnit]

34. I have no words adequate to give you consolation. Having been a care-giver for my own

mother, I can empathize with your loss and feelings of disorientation.

[onecaliberal]

35. I am very sorry. Please accept my sincere condolences.

[Mme. Defarge]

36. May her memory

be eternal.

[luvs2sing]

39. I'm so very sorry.

May her memory be a comfort and a blessing.

[BigmanPigman]

40. You're lucky that you were with her when it happened.

My dad was healthy but died in his sleep almost 3 years ago. It was a huge shock. I heard him the night he died and I knew he was trying to tell me something, maybe he wanted me to know he is still with me after life.

[swimboy]

41. I am so sorry

It’s one of the hardest things ❤️

[skylucy]

42. Heartfelt sympathy to you sheshe . Your post brought tears to my eyes. The love and tenderness

shine so brightly in your words.

[tblue37]

43. I am sorry, sheshe.

[Raven123]

44. Been there. I pray the void you feel will soon be filled with wonderful memories

For me, it was tumultuous, but gradually i realized the 24 hour a day concern was replaced with the relief of knowing the circle of life had closed. Memories that I had no space for could now surface and be embraced. I wish you peace.

[BoomaofBandM]

45. May you all have some peace. Your love for your mom was very clear. Condolences.

[blm]

46. ((my she))

❤️

[TygrBright]

47. Losing the presence of a parent is a special sorrow...

...it's a kind of uprooting, a cutting-loose from the generation that gave you existence. An unbalancing. The longest set of shared memory and experience in your life is no longer there. Memory must take the place of presence, and memory feels like such an inadequate thing...

Her presence is gone but stay strong, she...

Stay strong and miss her.

Stay strong and grieve your loss.

Stay strong and say all the farewells.

Stay strong, and cherish the shared connections that will be offered as her life is acknowledged and her loss mourned.

Stay strong, and let yourself be weak.

Stay strong, and ask for help.

Stay strong, and don't be afraid to cry. Or to laugh.

Stay strong, and she will stay with you.

The empty place where her presence was will be as a well... and slowly it will fill with your sorrow, and your love, and your memories, and her love, which will never, ever leave you, even in the echoing emptiness of that place-where-presence-was.

I wish I could give you more than words, she.

May comfort find you, and consolation fold around you.

respectfully,
Bright

[dixiechiken1]

63. Beautiful. Simply beautiful.

"Memory must take the place of presence, and memory feels like such an inadequate thing..."

[sheshe2]

107. What a beautiful post, Bright.

You posted so many beautiful words. You gave me all that I needed.

Thank you. It means a lot to me.

[CottonBear]

48. I am so sorry.

[niyad]

49. (((((((((((((she))))))))))))) I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom.

I know that there really are no words that can help, but know that we are all here for you in this great loss. Please take very good care of yourself, be gentle with yourself.

May your mom be at peace.

[sheshe2]

58. Love you.

[bluboid]

51. Take care...

she's in your heart & always will be...

[bluecollar2]

53. I lost my mother last March

I miss her...a lot...

We're here if and when you need us.

[woodsprite]

54. So sorry for your loss.

Glad you were able to be there with her when she passed. For me ,that made the world of difference in my ability to settle and have closure after my mom passed vs when my dad passed. I hope it helps you as well.

[cate94]

55. I'm so very sorry

[Bluethroughu]

56. I'm sorry for your loss Sheshe2

You were there when she needed you most, that kind of love transcends the universe.

[StarryNite]

57. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

R.I.P. SheShe2 Mom.

[Glorfindel]

59. Deepest condolences, sheshe2

May she rest in peace.

[BumRushDaShow]

60. I'm so sorry sheshe

I weep with you and know the feeling (it's been 7 years this month since mine passed). All I can do is cherish that time I spent with mine and try to recall all the little sayings and nuggets of wisdom that she would impart to us over the years. Those types of memories are what will help to sustain you.

[sheshe2]

62. It is the time spent and the memories.

Love you BRDS and your mom.

TY

[orangecrush]

61. Deepest sympathy

[Budi]

64. Love to you, sheshe

🍃💖

[sheshe2]

65. Love you back, Budi.

[OldBaldy1701E]

66. My condolences sheshe.

Losing a parent creates a big hole indeed. As Patrick Stewart once said, "When I lost my second parent, I felt like, 'who will look after me now?'." I know that feeling.

[sheshe2]

74. I hear you and Patrick.

Lost Mom Dad and brother now. It is just my sister in my original family.

[SheltieLover]

67. Deepest Condolences

So sorry to hear ofyour.loss.

[essaynnc]

68. I'm sorry for your loss. it's tough to lose your mom.

sending you positive, peaceful thoughts.

[slumcamper]

69. Sending peace and strength to you, sheshe ((((and loving hugs)))) n/t

[LoisB]

70. Oh, I am so very sorry. May the strength of her faith carry you through.

[MLAA]

71. I want to wrap you in love and peace.

💗❤️💖💕💗❤️💖💕💗❤️💖💕💗

[calimary]

72. Much love and solace to you, dear sheshe2.

I’m glad you had that time to be with her while you had the chance.

Much much love and safe hugs. Remember what our own Skittles once said if you need some company while you shoulder this heavy weight: “someone’s always here.”

[sheshe2]

81. This is the DU I love.

TY, calimary.

[Joinfortmill]

73. She's lucky she had you.

I'm 72 and coming to terms with dying. I have no fear and feel at peace with myself. If it's any comfort, she may have done the same.

[sheshe2]

75. She told me she was ready.

That was around Christmas.

I asked her to stay a longer so I could say goodbye.

[Joinfortmill]

133. She's with you.

[Pas-de-Calais]

76. She'll always be with you, I know mine is

[malaise]

77. Deepest sympathy

It's natural to feel lost

[sheshe2]

90. TY

[Evolve Dammit]

79. Deepest condolensces to you. It's never easy losing a parent, but take heart in knowing all your

care and love was appreciated. It there is an after-life, you've got some bonus points! I took care of my Mom for the last 30 years of her life. The last 15 and particularly the last 5 were tough. But I knew what she wanted (and didn't want), and in the end, it helped so much. Still painful, but hope she is free of earthly pain and suffering. I wish the same for your Mom. Take care.

[AllyCat]

80. Oh sheshe2, I am so sorry.

I’m so glad you got to have so much time with her.

[gademocrat7]

82. Condolences, sheshe

on the loss of your beloved mother. Sending you hugs and love.

[The Polack MSgt]

83. I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

My thoughts and best wishes are with you

[sheshe2]

86. TY, MSgt.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

84. I am so sorry.

Losing your parents is hard, and in a way disconcerting. Now you are the older generation.

My mother died in 1999 at the age of 82. My father died in 1973, age 59.

I'm one of six children, and my older sister died in 2017 at the age of 70, my younger brother just over a year ago at age 71. Even though there are still four of us left, the family feels diminished. The odds are the other two brothers will leave somewhat sooner than later, because they both have various health issues. Eventually only one of us will be left, and that will be quite odd.

Mom was one of five children, and she was the last surviving.

And how kind of you to honor her with the angel.

[Dial H For Hero]

85. I'm so sorry. My mother away two years ago.

It will always hurt, but the pain does lessen with time.

[evolves]

87. Oh, SheShe--

Deep condolences to you.

[bronxiteforever]

88. I am so sorry for you.

[Danmel]

89. I am very sorry

It's so hard. Wishing you sweet memories of your beloved mom. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that you were there for her.

[MsLeopard]

91. Sincerest condolences

I know what losing your mother feels like.

[sheshe2]

92. Oh, honey.

Hugs for you and your mom as well.

[Wicked Blue]

93. Oh sheshe2, I am so sorry the loss of your mother

Losing a mother hurts. I'm sorry for what you must be going through.
Wishing you healing and peace.

[bucolic_frolic]

94. Sorry to hear

You did your duty and performed at a high level. You must rest and recuperate. Caregiving is pure saintliness and exhaustion.

[bullwinkle428]

95. I'm very sorry for your loss. I have no doubt the love she felt for you, in the

way you cared for her in her final years was immeasurable.

[stage left]

96. So sorry

for your loss.

[live love laugh]

97. I'm so sorry for your loss. 😢

[cilla4progress]

98. Sheshe, I believe you shared recently here

that you and your sister have cared for your elderly mom at home for some time, as you say in your OP.

I think the angel is also you. ❤

[sheshe2]

103. Such a kind thing to say, cilla.

Thank you so much for your kind words.

[cilla4progress]

150. ...

💜

[paleotn]

99. So sorry.

Been there. It's tough.

[highplainsdem]

100. I'm so sorry, sheshe2. It's such a painful loss, especially after so many

years of caregiving, but she was blessed to have your care and love, as you were blessed to have hers.

I'm not a religious person, either. I left the only church I ever belonged to over 50 years ago.

But I believe with all my heart, based on my own experiences and the experiences of many other people I know who've lost loved ones, that your mother is still very much alive (and healthy and young again) on the other side...and she'll be watching over you now as carefully and lovingly as you watched over her.

[sheshe2]

127. Wow.

she'll be watching over you now as carefully and lovingly as you watched over her.

Um. Powerful thought. Never looked at this way. You may be right. The past few weeks, she kept telling me that i did everything right, gave her the best showers and calmed her breathing by rubbing her back and doing breathing exercises at night.

Thank you, highplainsdem.

[Deuxcents]

101. So sad to hear

Sometimes there are no words but I hope this outpouring of love n respect for you from us helps. I, too, send my condolences 🌺

[Tumbulu]

102. Sending my condolences to you sheshe2

💐💐💐💐

[AllaN01Bear]

104. my condolances to u .

[ailsagirl]

105. I'm so sorry to hear this, sheshe2

[area51]

106. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[FakeNoose]

108. I'm sorry your lost your Mom

We can believe and hope that your dear mother is in a better place. Her trials are over.
May you find solace in the memories of your Mom in a happier time.

[William Gustafson]

109. I feel your pain...

I lost my wife last February 14. She fought a brain tumor for 17 years and in the end, she passed away from a blood clot in the brain.
I know how you are feeling and can relate to the empty feeling inside, but it will get better. I have spent the last year getting to know myself again, connecting with friends I haven't seen in decades, and just being able to get back to normal, if that is possible.
Best advice I can give you is to be kind to yourself.
As long as you hold them in your mind and heart, they will never be gone. I pray that you find peace with yourself and take care of yourself through this hard time. Hang in there and remember that they would want you to move forward and be happy, and it will come, in its own time.
May the Lord hold you in his arms and bring comfort to you. I am sorry that you have to go through this. Prayers to you and the family...

[sheshe2]

119. William.

"Be kind to yourself". Perfect advice.

My thoughts to you and yours.

[William Gustafson]

122. thank you

[iluvtennis]

110. So sorry for your loss sheshe2. May your mom Rest in Peace

and May Her Memory Be a Blessing.

[dflprincess]

111. I'm so sorry

No matter how old we or they are, we're never ready to lose our moms.

[sdfernando]

112. I'm so sorry for your loss

I know she loves you. Peace.

[2naSalit]

113. ((((sheshe2)))!!

[wendyb-NC]

114. I'm so sorry for your loss

[jaysunb]

115. So sorry for your loss...

🫂 🤗 👐

[MontanaMama]

116. Oh my gosh. I am so sorry for your loss.

The gift you gave your mother…keeping her safe at home…it can’t be overstated. It’s so awful to lose a parent. Hugs, my friend.

[sheshe2]

121. I love you , MM.

Hugs back.

Your kind words mean a lot to me.

[Backseat Driver]

117. My deepest sympathies, sheshe2

The angels will guide her and bring comfort to those who loved her; she is among them.

[SilasSouleII]

118. Sincere condolences

May she rest in peace.

[TNNurse]

120. I am so sorry, this is so hard.

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My mother died 31 years ago. In some way she is still with me. You may understand that some day. I hope you will.

I truly believe we can tolerate grief so that a loved one does not suffer.

[Me.]

123. Oh sheshe2

🌷💝💐💗🌸💖🌺💕

[sprinkleeninow]

124. Blessed Be Her Memory Eternal.

🕯

[Rizen]

125. I'm sorry that had to happen.

I'm taking care of my mom who has stage 4 cancer so I know how hard it is to take care of a dying person.

[sheshe2]

130. Try to take care of you as well.

It is so hard, be good to you. Take care of you. It is so hard.

Love to you and yours.

[Maraya1969]

126. I am so sorry sheshe.

I wish I had words to help.

[hibbing]

128. Sorry for your loss, hang in there n/t

[irisblue]

129. I am so so sorry for your great loss sheshe

[sheshe2]

132. Thank you Iris

[Hekate]

131. Oh, sheshe my dear one, I am so sorry for your loss

May you be happy
May you be peaceful
May you be free from suffering

[pazzyanne]

134. Blessings for you...

...and a gentle passage for your mother, sheshe2. May your memories sustain you into the future.

[FailureToCommunicate]

135. Your heart has always seemed so large and empathetic here to fellow DUers...

I can only imagine the size of your heartbreak with your mom's passing.

My mom passed a few years ago, but I still keep the phone next to the pillow.

Maybe she'll text from heaven?

(I guess I just assume everyone in Heaven is given the latest iPhone...and an unlimited data plan.)

Wishing you peace, and solice, in the coming days and years.

[sheshe2]

136. What a kind post, FTC.

Ha, mom couldn't handle an iPhone...not dementia yet definitely not computer or iPhone savvy.

I love your post and I thank you for your kind words.

[FailureToCommunicate]

140. ...

[sheshe2]

147. Keep your phone next to your pillow.

You never know.

[FailureToCommunicate]

174. My father was a minister, and my mom a social worker and "wife of a minister" so I know THEY...

are in Heaven. I on the other hand, am not convinced I'll end up "up there". (It might be the warmer place.)

If my folks try to call of text me from the Afterlife, it **might** be a Long Distance Call.

-FTC

P.S. I will keep my phone next to my pillow (and the ringer on) because, as you said you never know.

[catrose]

137. Condolences, sheshe2

I’ve seen your heroic struggles to take care of her. May you find peace, and soon.

[sheshe2]

139. Thank you, catrose.

Very kind post.

[mcar]

138. ...

[Bayard]

141. I'm so sorry, sheshe

I've lost both my parents, my older brother, and two sisters now. I understand having a big hole in your heart, that can sometimes make it hard to even breathe. There's so many terrific memories that my younger brother and I share though. I hope for you, at some point, there will be smiles when you remember your mom, instead of tears (as Joe Biden says).

Take care of yourself. Sending hugs.

[Nixie]

142. I'm so sorry to hear this, she!

Your post is so beautiful and has brought tears to my eyes. Such beautiful sentiments.

Love and peace. I will be in touch. ❤️

[minstrel76]

143. So sorry for your loss

[KT2000]

144. I am so sorry

It is not easy but it will get better with time. So wonderful you had that precious time together.

[crickets]

145. I am so sorry, sheshe.

[grantcart]

146. She was very fortunate to have you care for her

Whenever you spoke of her you could feel great compassion and love radiate through every thought.

As you go through the sensation of the loosening of the physical bond as it becomes the bond of memory and reflection you should always bear in mind the great thing you have given your mother, a passage that was in a cocoon of love.

How great you are.

[vercetti2021]

148. I'm sorry for your loss

I can't imagine losing a mother. That's my own greatest fear. I really hope the best for you.

[radical noodle]

149. Comforting hugs, She

I'm so sorry.

[William769]

151. Oh my dear sheshe.

[sheshe2]

191. Bill, my dear friend.

It has been ages since we talked, TY.

I hope everything is well with you and yours.

[helpisontheway]

152. I'm very sorry for your loss..nt

[JudyM]

153. My heart goes out to you...

with a genuine depth of compassion…

Wishing you comfort and soft moments of peace as you deal with this heartbreaking time.

[Silver Gaia]

154. I am so sorry. I know this pain well.

May you find comfort as you gave to her, and may peace find your heart. Blessings.

[LetMyPeopleVote]

155. I am so sorry for your loss

[murielm99]

156. Sheshe, I am sorry.

I know you have been caring for her for quite a while. I know you are tired.

[asiliveandbreathe]

157. Sheshe2..so sorry ..Moms are special and she will always be with you...my mom passed

Many years ago..she is with me when I least expect it..May a memory of mom bring a smile to you when you least expect it..

[lamp_shade]

158. I'm so very sad for you She.

[Rhiannon12866]

159. Oh, my friend, I am so terribly sorry.

You should hsave no regrets since you went above and beyond to care for and keep her at home. That must have made everything so much easier and comfortable for her. But I know that it's going to be tough, you were so used to having her care as such a big part of your life. Try and remember that you stepped up when it really counted and your mother must know how fortunate she was to have you.

[SunSeeker]

160. I'm sorry, she. I hope you can find some peace, and get some rest now.

You have been through so much. You really need a change of scenery and some rest.

[AmBlue]

161. I am so sorry.

I've had my Mom with me for 4 years and 3 months now, and I understand sleeping with a phone or baby monitor. All of it is so hard... but I'm sure losing her is the hardest.

My dear, YOU were her angel.

[samplegirl]

162. So sorry

Losing your mom is the hardest. I think about my mom everyday and it’s been 15 years.
She lived with us. I hope you can’t find peace in the memories.
Sending you hugs.

[BlueMTexpat]

163. My deepest sympathies

to you, ss2!

It is never easy to lose a loved one. The hole is always there. I still dream about my parents and wake thinking that there is something that I want/need to say to/ask them. Mom went in 2002 and Dad in 2004.

The only bright spot is that they missed the Era of Insanity we now experience daily. They would have loved the Obama Era and would have been heartbroken about Hillary. But they also would be happy about Biden today.

May your love and good memories help to warm you now and forever!

[sarge43]

164. Condolences sheshe2

[raccoon]

165. I'm sorry for your loss. Nt

[Trueblue Texan]

166. So very sorry for your loss, sheshe...

What people don't know about caregiving until they do it is, it opens your heart to love more fully. Hard as it is, you are definitely changed by the thousands of tasks you perform to care and protect your loved one. It gives you the heart of an angel. Maybe the angel is you--your mom certainly experienced that when she was on this plane. There is no more difficult job than caring for one's parent. I know you are exhausted and probably numb. Get some rest, grieve gently, and know your efforts made a huge difference for your mom.

Peace.

[Meowmee]

167. So sorry for the loss of your mom

[LaMouffette]

168. My deepest condolences, sheshe2! You are a wonderful person for being there for your mom for those

four years, and I imagine you were helping out for many more years before the home care started. Both you and your mom are so fortunate to have had that time together.

One of my biggest regrets is living 1,000 miles away from my mom in her final years, but thankfully, I was able to be with her for her final weeks, which is time that I will always cherish.

[yardwork]

169. I'm so sorry, sheshe.

[Lonestarblue]

170. How comforting to know that you were there for your mom to the end.

And that she knew you were there to be with her, to love her, and to see her through to the end of her life. I’m so sorry for your loss. May good memories help you through mourning.

[Siwsan]

171. My heartfelt sympathy

Losing a parent is such a world shaking experience. I wasn't with my mom, when she passed, but I was with my dad.

After dealing with several years of health issues with my mom, sister and aunt, it took me a long time for me to stop jumping every time the phone rang. But peace will come.

[lark]

172. Oh Sheshe2, so sad for your loss.

Losing a mother is so hard, I still grieve and cry every Christmas when I first hear any of the songs mom loved so much. It's easier than it was 9 years ago, but there is still a hole in my heart. Hope yours heals so it's not so raw over time.

[CousinIT]

173. I am so sorry for your loss, sheshe2

She was lucky to have you and you, her. Wishing you peace and strength right now.

[mia]

175. I'm so sorry for your loss, sheshe2.

[Yorkie Mom]

176. I'm so sorry for you loss, sheshe2.

It's brutal. (((Hugs)))

[Peacetrain]

177. So so sorry for your loss sheshe2

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[58Sunliner]

178. What an amazing gift you gave her, caring for her and having her pass with loved ones.

[KS Toronado]

179. I'm sorry for your loss.

[Fla Dem]

180. So sorry for your loss. Glad she passed peacefully with her family surrounding her with love.

We were there when my mom passed as well. Those moments are still etched in my thoughts. I was only 28 at the time. Wish I had more time with her.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

181. I'm so sorry for your loss, sheshe2.

[PatrickforB]

182. I'm sorry. May she rest in peace and be surrounded by the perpetual light of

Divine love.

In the meantime, take care of yourself. Lots of people on here care about you. Remember that. You are not alone.

[pandr32]

183. I am so sad for you

It was a similar story with our mother. My sister had her in home care for years, too.
I wish you strength and wonderful memories.

[cstanleytech]

184. You have my condolences.

I went through the same thing with my mother as well.

[marmar]

185. .......

[TheBlackAdder]

186. That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that.

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This is a double-edged sword.

You gave selfishly for four years to care for her, and those will be memories that you will look fondly back upon as the years go onward. My mother was in a similar situation and my nearby sister became her steward in the ending years. While I would pop in a couple of times a week, it is like the grandparents who play with the grandkids, amp them up with sugar and send them home to their daughter or son's home. My other sibs and I had it much easier, as my one sister could not have a free day. It was difficult, tiresome, sometimes stressful and often she felt it was thankless. But after my mom passed, it hit her as to how much it impacted her life, when she now had time to occupy.

What you did was so wonderful. You spoke so fondly of her when she was alive and that will continue afterwards. I no doubt see you as the matriarch of your family's generation as my one sister became to ours. Bless you for being such a nice and kindhearted person.

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[Moostache]

187. My condolences to you and your family on a difficult loss.

It is never easy or something we 'get over'.
Hold on to the specific personal memories and moments from the past, it is the only thing I have found to help deaden my own grief.

May peace and loving support be with you always.

[uppityperson]

190. RIP sheshe2's mom. This takes me back to yrs ago, my dad.

The hole in the heart never goes away.

[2 Meow Momma]

192. Hugs, dear she.

I know it was a long journey.

[oldsoftie]

193. Sorry for your loss. We lost my mom Dec 31st. it really stinks

Don't know how long it'll take for me to get used to it. I'm sure you feel the same way

[sheshe2]

194. I am so sorry for your loss, oldsoftie.

Yes, we do feel the same way. TY

[lunatica]

195. Hugs to you and all the family

I miss my mother who passed in 2010. She was in home hospice so I know she was treated very well, but they’re very good about preparing surviving relatives for the end too.

[Lifelong Protester]

196. I'm sorry

For your loss I still miss my mom (1990)

[llashram]

197. condolences with sorrowful

regard

[sheshe2]

198. Thank you, llashram.

[tishaLA]

199. So sorry for your loss, She

She will fill that hole in your heart when you need her most.

[MFM008]

200. I still cant get over

The loss of mine Jan 1 2019.
My sincere condolences. 🌹

[wryter2000]

201. So sorry for your loss

Even if it was her time, it's hard to lose someone dear to you.

[dlk]

202. I'm very sorry for your loss

Sending thoughts of peace and comfort your way.

[Oldtimeralso]

203. So Sorry Sheshe

I lost my mother 30+ years ago. She was the glue that held our family together. Please honor her memory. I know you will. The feelings never go away, but the hurt eases.
Know that you have support here!!!

[DFW]

204. It is never easy, My sympathies.

No matter how much you prepare for it, you never are. I hope you have people you can talk to.
No matter how much you might think you don't, you really do. Take it from one who has been there.

[Hekate]

205. Still thinking of you this night

She has gone where all hurts are healed, but the love between you is shared still.

[sheshe2]

206. I love you...Thank you.