2 years ago my son passed

[ChazII]

from the same brain cancer that took Pres. Biden's son.

I am doing okay but last week the wave grief was crushing.

[sheshe2]

1. Love to you and yours, Chaz.

[kozar]

2. Thoughts

Positives sent out

[markie]

3. ...

[catrose]

4. It sneaks up on you when you least expect it.

I always got prepared for anniversaries--those were always okay, but the random waves were crushing. Wishing you comfort.

[PoliticAverse]

5. Best wishes to you! n/t

[ChazII]

7. I prepare as you

suggested. It is also a strategy I learned in different grief classes.

Your words are wise words and as you said the ambush of grief can hit at anytime.

[SheltieLover]

15. Yes it can.

And the stages of grief are not linear.

So deeply sorry for your heartbreaking loss.

[louslobbs]

6. ❤️

❤️Peace ChazII

[ChazII]

8. Thank to everyone

who is responding with positive thoughts. They are helping lift my spirit.

[Danmel]

9. Sending hugs

May sweet memories of your beloved son bring you comfort and peace.

[onecaliberal]

10. Hugs and peace.

[MLAA]

11. Sending hugs, dear ChazII

[Walleye]

12. Grief is a pain that never really heals. I hope yours eases as a little

[ChazII]

13. This is another lesson I have learned.

This second year was more difficult than the first. Now I will be starting my third year and I know to work through this grief. Do not stop it or avoid it. When tears come I cry. When those overwhelming soul wracking tears come I still cry but try to do so in private.

Thank you for your post.

[Walleye]

21. My boyfriend of 30 years died 16 years ago.

Suddenly of a heart disease. The pain of losing him and the guilt of not making him go to the doctor I actually got suicidal in the second year. By the third year I had to go to the doctor and get help. I still cry sometimes but it’s not as violent as it used to be. My mom died of cancer she was younger than I am now. It does help to talk to people in this gtoup for me.I never had children but the pain of losing a child as I understand it is worst of all

[wendyb-NC]

14. I'm sorry for your loss

It happens like that, out of the blue.

I lost my oldest son tragically, almost 7 years ago. I still have those times when it feels like the moment I found out that he'd passed, in 2015. I think it is something that happens to those who've lost a close loved one, especially a son or daughter, even if they were adults, when they passed away.

I have a hole in my heart, due loosing him. I will have this till I leave this earth. I know this. I have embraced the pain of grief, as the love that we had as mother and child. I lift his life, my grief and the love it represents, the gift he was as a child in the family. The fine person he became, as he was growing up. If I am alone, I say out loud, son I love you, I miss you, I will never forget you. Thank you for being a part of my life.

[SheltieLover]

16. Healing vibes on the way!

[MuseRider]

17. I cannot imagine.

Sending supportive thoughts and hugs. I have lost most of my family but my 2 sons are still here. It is never easy but if the day comes that I lose one of them I do not know how I would cope.

I hope you can find some peace easier than it has been. Many thoughts and much love sent to you, I wish it really helped but for what it is worth we are all here for you.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

18. I know.

My son took his life in 2017, and while I am mostly good, sometimes I'm just overwhelmed with missing him.

It's okay. It does not really matter why or how he died, but your grief, your missing him is eternal. I love you.

[ChazII]

19. The Art of Racing in the Rain is a movie

I use it to help trigger tears when I have not cried for a while.

[Karadeniz]

20. Some things will always hurt and all we can do is feel bad for you. Deepest sympathies....

[brer cat]

22. Sending healing vibes your way.

[littlemissmartypants]

23. So sorry. ❤

🌻🇺🇦❤🇺🇦🌻

[MFM008]

24. Sorry

The pain is always there to some degree.
Its been 22 years since my dad passed.
Seems like yesterday.😭

[riverbendviewgal]

25. I am so sorry for your grief. I feel it

My 26 year old son died in 1999 from the same brain Cancer.

There will always be grief. In time you will smile but it never goes away. I send you a big hug.

[alwaysinasnit]

26. ...

[calimary]

27. Awwww, ChazII...

I'm so sorry. Even a couple of years downstream, YES, it still hurts.

As I saw on another thread by Jedi Guy, here, earlier today:

A friend of mine said this when I talked to her about my loss, and I think it's rather beautiful, so I'll share it. "Grief is love with nowhere to go."
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=post&forum=1002&pid=16449602

At least YOU are HERE, ChazII. With us.

[ChazII]

28. And being with my DU family

brings comfort.

[calimary]

29. Not at all surprised.

I still remember that deluge of support and love and comfort that poured down over me the night I posted about my mom passing.

It helped. It helped A LOT.

I can't even begin to know how to thank everyone for that - except perhaps to keep paying it forward.

[tazkcmo]

30. It is crushing

I can only offer you my condolences. Losing a child is the deepest pain I've ever felt and I understand the despair you probably are feeling. No good advice for coping other than to cry well.