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Cailinrain

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Sat Jan 21, 2023, 04:35 AM Jan 2023

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I would have told them, out of respect for mom, no talking Meadowoak Jan 2023 #1
Easier said than done at a funeral Cailinrain Jan 2023 #2
I might have asked the Pastor to make the announcement and hlthe2b Jan 2023 #3

Meadowoak

(6,224 posts)
1. I would have told them, out of respect for mom, no talking
Sat Jan 21, 2023, 04:50 AM
Jan 2023

Politics, especially since she didn't share their views.

Cailinrain

(17 posts)
2. Easier said than done at a funeral
Sat Jan 21, 2023, 04:58 AM
Jan 2023

Last edited Sat Jan 21, 2023, 05:29 AM - Edit history (1)

If I had felt stronger I would’ve engaged. But these were my mom’s siblings and I was lost in grief by this point and couldn’t put myself out there. Thanks for understanding. Not to mention I had spent 5 yrs taking care of her 24/7 and how that affects caregivers. But hey never mind, I should have just spoken up. Jfc this is why I never post

hlthe2b

(106,390 posts)
3. I might have asked the Pastor to make the announcement and
Sat Jan 21, 2023, 05:28 AM
Jan 2023

some like-minded officiates/speakers to reinforce the point.

That said, I do hope you can let this go because it is clearly hurting you. By letting go, I don't mean forget, but rather take a break--even if temporary-- from further contact with the worst offenders and focus on healing yourself. If your counselor thinks it useful for your own well-being, I suppose you could write letters to those who were the worst offenders that convey how you felt, then and now about their behavior, and thus why you have stepped away from contact--at least for now. Of course, we generally know that Trump supporters, for the most part, won't care about hurting others who disagree with them, but it might be cathartic for you.

I'm sorry about what you've been through. But it is time to focus on you and your son and your once "memory-intact" Mom will be there with you in your thoughts to support you going forward.

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