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murielm99

(31,479 posts)
Fri Sep 1, 2023, 09:05 AM Sep 2023

He used to sing while we did the dishes.

When we were kids, we always had to do the dishes after dinner. One day I would wash, and he would dry. The next day, I would dry and he would wash. The person who washed the dishes had to wipe off the counters and the kitchen table. The person who dried had to sweep the floor.

My brother always sang while we worked. He sang the songs he learned in school, in kindergarten and first grade. "Pitter patter, pitter patter, it's a rainy day." "Three blind mice. Three blind mice. See how they run!" I never sang with him because he had such a pleasant voice. When we were in high school, he sang in the choir and in some of the musicals. He never had a big part, but he often had small roles and he sang onstage in the chorus. Later, he sang in his church choir. He could not stand on the risers after a while, due to a stroke. He stood on the floor next to the organ or the piano and sang solos and duets with the pastor's wife. They sounded good together. He had a pleasing tenor voice.

I enjoyed listening to my brother sing when we were kids. I wish I had told him that.

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He used to sing while we did the dishes. (Original Post) murielm99 Sep 2023 OP
Beautiful memories, muriel. brer cat Sep 2023 #1
Beautiful remembrance. blm Sep 2023 #2
I am so sorry for your loss, Muriel. 💙 sheshe2 Sep 2023 #3
He knew it. Sounds like a wonderful brother. Nice tribute. Silent Type Sep 2023 #4
You will see him again... RainCaster Sep 2023 #5
He knows it now!! Thoughts can transcend space and physical barriers. Karadeniz Sep 2023 #6
thanks for sharing. AllaN01Bear Sep 2023 #7
Sorry for your loss Muriel. Probatim Sep 2023 #8
We must be related. My family had the exact same dishes routine. I miss my brother too. And notdarkyet Sep 2023 #9
Thank you for sharing that. Mad_Dem_X Sep 2023 #10
That's a lovely tribute, Muriel Bayard Sep 2023 #11
Lovely Joinfortmill Sep 2023 #12
This brought tears to my eyes. Danmel Sep 2023 #13
Rest assured Murielm99 tiredtoo Sep 2023 #14
Beautiful heartfelt memories muriel! sdfernando Sep 2023 #15
Seconding this. mahina Sep 2023 #16
Hope you sing some of his songs while doing your chores at home, etc. No Vested Interest Sep 2023 #17
Great idea! murielm99 Sep 2023 #18
I am so sorry for your loss, muriel UpInArms Sep 2023 #19
What a gift to have such a good relationship with your brother. Dark n Stormy Knight Sep 2023 #20
So sorry, muriel 70sEraVet Sep 2023 #21

blm

(113,841 posts)
2. Beautiful remembrance.
Fri Sep 1, 2023, 09:10 AM
Sep 2023

You probably conveyed your joy to him in other ways, so he likely knew it.

Probatim

(3,038 posts)
8. Sorry for your loss Muriel.
Fri Sep 1, 2023, 10:49 AM
Sep 2023

This is a gentle reminder for the rest of us - if you feel like something should be said, say it; especially if it's kind and shows you care and the receiver means something to you.

notdarkyet

(2,226 posts)
9. We must be related. My family had the exact same dishes routine. I miss my brother too. And
Fri Sep 1, 2023, 10:57 AM
Sep 2023

My sister, mother, father and husband. No one left to do dishes with. Peace to you.

sdfernando

(5,399 posts)
15. Beautiful heartfelt memories muriel!
Fri Sep 1, 2023, 12:41 PM
Sep 2023

Even if you didn't tell him then, you can tell him now. I'm sure he will hear your voice this time.

mahina

(18,988 posts)
16. Seconding this.
Fri Sep 1, 2023, 01:14 PM
Sep 2023

I still tell my Dad stuff, and he died quite a while ago. Whether he hears it or not, I have no idea, but I feel better when I tell him out loud I love him and I miss him.

Good luck Muriel. Aloha.

Dark n Stormy Knight

(10,041 posts)
20. What a gift to have such a good relationship with your brother.
Sat Sep 2, 2023, 05:00 AM
Sep 2023

I'm sorry for your loss and for his. He would miss you, too.

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