Sunday morning I say goodbye to the love of my life
3AM,Thursday my wife had a massive stroke. She screamed and said she can’t move her leg. After that she lost the ability to speak, and lost the use of her left arm. EMS got here quickly and took her to Central Baptist in Lexington Ky. She was then heavily sedated, and was put on life support. The Blood clot was lodged in her brain stem
The doctors were honest about her chances. There is no chance for recovery. Life support will be disconnected tomorrow morning.
For 42 years we lived a life full of love. Our love was quite evident to all. We never quarreled, when there was tension it was my cluelessness at fault. I already miss her, and always will.
Jae, I love you and will until I draw my last breath
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having his horrible level of grief after so many years of happiness.
There are not words enough....
May she rest in peace
Your post is a beautiful tribute to your wife and to your "love story".
I'm so sorry.
Do you have family and friends with you? I really hope so, this is such a hard time.
I send love and strength to both of you!
Alfredo, you are one of my favorites, to know that you are experiencing such a profound loss is heartbreaking. I know that you know that we are here for you.
you have my deepest sympathies.
I am so so sorry
I wish I had words of comfort.
Your OP is a lovely tribute to your wife.
It sounds like you two had a beautiful life, and the depth of your love is apparent in your writing.
So very sorry about this tragedy, Alfredo. May your memories bring comfort and solace as time goes by. You have the moral support of many.
What a deeply touching writing… my heart goes out to you. Wishing you a heart full of warm memories to comfort you, seems that you genuinely blessed each others lives.
talk to her. her spirit will hear you. and once she gets her bearings on the other side she'll be with you whenever you need her or want her. you were a priority to her in this lifetime, there is no reason to think you will not continue to be a priority to her. 42 years. it doesn't stop or end here. our spirits don't die, energy doesn't die and that love you have for each other will go on and on. it will be the thread that keeps you connected.
i'm sorry both of you are going through this. too sudden. too unexpected.
let her know it's okay, that everything is going to be okay, and you'll find each other again.
because you will.
May you always feel her love.
There are no words I can offer that will lessen the pain of your loss. Sending you a big hug.
Words are never enough when facing something like this. Just know that we are here for you! 
Your post touched my heart and I wanted to respond, but all the words I can think of seem so inadequate…
I'm so sorry. Thank you for this note. Thanks for being willing to share such a tough time here, with your DU family.
Even on a weekend like this, it sounds like you were still luckier than many. Forty-two years of love and happiness with the girl of your dreams.
PLEASE stay in touch, alfredo, and PLEASE let us know how you're doing, and whatever anguish you need to get off your chest. We're here, any time of day or night, and we're gonna worry if we don't hear from you. Remember what our Skittles has said (and it's always helped buoy me up a little whenever I'm reminded of it): "Someone's always here."
I'm so sorry, Alfredo. Sudden losses can be shocking, and its hard for the heart and mind to grasp it.
It sounds like you had a lovely marriage. I hope you were able to say goodbye.
You can lean on us.
I'm so sorry that this happened to your wife. I can't imagine the pain you're going through. My thoughts are with you.
there are no sufficient words to express... be kind to yourself
lose someone you loved so well and for so long.
Sincerest condolences to you, alfredo.
Sending you my hugs.
I don't know what else to say - everything seems so trite at times like this.
Peace will come to you again. But until it does, we are all here for you. I had to say goodby to my one great love 13 years ago. It does get better. Please remember to take care of yourself.
Peace and comfort.
So very sorry for your loss.
Especially that it has come so suddenly and unexpectedly. I wish you much strength and peace at this very difficult time. May her memory be a blessing to you and bring smiles rather than tears in the times to come.
go in peace, dear one.
Peace be with you, and we are all thinking of you this a.m.
I cannot possibly imagine how deeply painful and wrenching this must be for you as I have not lived it, yet just reading your post caused me to tear up. I can imagine you are going through hell.
I am so sorry.
What a terrible loss.
I hope you have loved ones near who can support you and help you work through your bereavement and honor Jae, gently sharing the happy memories you will always have. I also hope it helps to know that your DU family is always here for you.
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May Jae rest in peace and forever be in your heart.
there's always someone on DU
