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Marthe48

(18,868 posts)
Wed Feb 28, 2024, 12:20 PM Feb 2024

My husband would be 77 today

He's been gone 7 years.
To mark the anniversaries of his birthday and death, the kids and I share pictures. I've thinking about the downside of aging, and while I miss him terribly, I am glad he isn't enduring the aches and pains, the slide down the hill to old age. After looking at pictures this morning, I was curious about what he might look like after all these years. I found a free ai site with an aging filter, and used a picture of my dear husband, younger and vigorous. There is a slide bar, and I moved it to 77. Then I laughed. It wasn't how I picture him, too many wrinkles. I think he would laugh too.

I tried a picture of myself, and slid the bar to 71. I don't look like that. I look older, but have few wrinkles. I think the ai program I picked relies too much on adding wrinkles to age the picture. Talk about stereotyping or ageism! None of my relatives who lived past 80 wrinkled like prunes, just very light marks of age. People in my husband's family didn't wrinkle like that either.

My coffee is gone, the morning has passed. I enjoyed a leisurely trip down memory lane. Love doesn't die

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My husband would be 77 today (Original Post) Marthe48 Feb 2024 OP
Hug XanaDUer2 Feb 2024 #1
Thank you Marthe48 Feb 2024 #2
"Love doesn't die" Jarqui Feb 2024 #3
Hugs to you, Marthe48. LoisB Feb 2024 #4
So sweet JudyM Mar 2024 #5
Hugs to you Duncanpup Mar 2024 #6
Thank you, Duncunpup Marthe48 Mar 2024 #7
Hugs to you I understand losing spouse Duncanpup Mar 2024 #8
I read your posts Marthe48 Mar 2024 #9
Martha Duncanpup Mar 2024 #10
Love your sharing The Death Network Mar 2024 #11
Welcome to DU! Marthe48 Mar 2024 #12
Bless you, Marthe. When it's all gone, the love survives and the memories do remain. marble falls Mar 2024 #13
Welcome to DU LetMyPeopleVote Mar 2024 #14

Marthe48

(18,868 posts)
9. I read your posts
Mon Mar 4, 2024, 08:13 AM
Mar 2024

Your wife went too soon. Glad you are picking up the pieces. Not much of another way to say how we do.

Duncanpup

(13,657 posts)
10. Martha
Mon Mar 4, 2024, 08:20 AM
Mar 2024

Alls I can say losing my wife as you losing your husband we were couple married years I get you

11. Love your sharing
Mon Mar 18, 2024, 12:51 AM
Mar 2024

I love your story, it make me feel like a glimpse into a normal moment of life, but with love that resonates deeply. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt experience. If you don't mind, would you like to share it with our community?

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