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sprinkleeninow

(20,560 posts)
Sat Mar 23, 2024, 09:24 PM Mar 2024

Husband's anniversary of his repose.

Last edited Sun Mar 24, 2024, 07:05 AM - Edit history (1)

This is a really cruddy life experience for me. It's been 5 years. Gotten worse, more difficult. Physically something's off which exacerbates my psyche and spirit. I can't continue in this status quo. I'm not going to 'do anything'. I just expected some sort of minimal relief.
It's said losing a spouse is one of the most difficult losses one can experience and manage to endure.
Thanks for listening and being gracious.🕯
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Husband's anniversary of his repose. (Original Post) sprinkleeninow Mar 2024 OP
Sending you hugs and warm thoughts. MLAA Mar 2024 #1
... 2naSalit Mar 2024 #2
ohhh KarenS Mar 2024 #3
That is tough. It was 5 years, last month that my ex passed. OAITW r.2.0 Mar 2024 #4
Thank you for the music. elleng Mar 2024 #5
My heart goes out to you. It's been almost 4 for me and I have no answers. badhair77 Mar 2024 #6
First, my heart's love to all who have replied. sprinkleeninow Mar 2024 #8
Maybe it was me. In 1978, my younger brother and only sibling... 3catwoman3 Mar 2024 #12
Yes, I believe so, it was you. . sprinkleeninow Mar 2024 #21
Sending a hug your way. blm Mar 2024 #7
All I can offer is Diamond_Dog Mar 2024 #9
💕 we can do it Mar 2024 #10
Holding you in love and light. Your DU family is here for you. Lean niyad Mar 2024 #11
Holding you in my heart. n/t TygrBright Mar 2024 #13
Hugs to you. LoisB Mar 2024 #14
From my heart to yours NBachers Mar 2024 #15
Oh my dear. leftieNanner Mar 2024 #16
When someone in your life is taken unexpectedly.... sprinkleeninow Mar 2024 #20
He didn't leave your love behind, Bayard Mar 2024 #17
I gsther from those who have been there that anniversaries soldierant Mar 2024 #18
No words can ease your pain so just know how many here love you and appreciate your music question everything Mar 2024 #19
Hugs XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #22
My dear husband died 7 years ago Marthe48 Apr 2024 #23

OAITW r.2.0

(28,521 posts)
4. That is tough. It was 5 years, last month that my ex passed.
Sat Mar 23, 2024, 09:35 PM
Mar 2024

Can't believe how fast time seems to move as we get older.

elleng

(136,602 posts)
5. Thank you for the music.
Sat Mar 23, 2024, 09:36 PM
Mar 2024

Felix Mendelssohn
Sextet in D Major for Violin, 2 Violas, Cello, Bass and Piano, Op. 110

https://weta.org/player

badhair77

(4,645 posts)
6. My heart goes out to you. It's been almost 4 for me and I have no answers.
Sat Mar 23, 2024, 09:41 PM
Mar 2024

But I can give hugs and prayers for comfort and peace.

sprinkleeninow

(20,560 posts)
8. First, my heart's love to all who have replied.
Sat Mar 23, 2024, 09:47 PM
Mar 2024
Someone on DU lost a child or spouse, I can't recall. They expressed it as having 'imagined' them. That's a perfect descriptive of how I feel. Especially when the one's passing is sudden and unexpected.

3catwoman3

(25,578 posts)
12. Maybe it was me. In 1978, my younger brother and only sibling...
Sat Mar 23, 2024, 10:35 PM
Mar 2024

...died when he was 23 and I was 26. Scuba diving adventure that ended badly.

I know I have have said, here and elsewhere, that he has been gone so long that I often feel as if I imagined him because the memories get more and more remote, and there is no one left with whom to verify what you think you remember.

Wishing you strength and serenity.

sprinkleeninow

(20,560 posts)
21. Yes, I believe so, it was you. .
Sun Mar 24, 2024, 12:22 AM
Mar 2024

Last edited Sun Mar 24, 2024, 07:10 AM - Edit history (1)

Traumatic if it's sudden and unexpected.
Someone did say that year: what if he survived but in a vegetative state? I shuddered.
We are all here for an appointed number of days. Why those who selfishly consider their own lives over regard of others is profoundly heart-wrenching. They haven't a clue.

"May the Memory of Your Beloved Brother Be Eternal."
🕯

sprinkleeninow

(20,560 posts)
20. When someone in your life is taken unexpectedly....
Sun Mar 24, 2024, 12:06 AM
Mar 2024

Last edited Sun Mar 24, 2024, 07:36 AM - Edit history (1)

What happened to me personally was shattering, but this current state, mostly political, that the US is in and also the destruction in people's lives around the globe doesn't help healing. The soul is affected. Sickened.
I appreciate you asking to share some about him. This and all lovingkindness shown me on DU is balm for my soul.🫶

Bayard

(24,145 posts)
17. He didn't leave your love behind,
Sat Mar 23, 2024, 11:27 PM
Mar 2024

He took it with him.

I hope you can find some peace, and smiles at good memories.

soldierant

(7,945 posts)
18. I gsther from those who have been there that anniversaries
Sat Mar 23, 2024, 11:46 PM
Mar 2024

are particularly hard, and that doesn't ease up very fast.My heart is with you.

"I promise you, the time will come that what's going to happen is six months will go by and everybody is going to think, well, it's passed. But you are going to ride by that field or smell that fragrance or see that flashing image. You are going to feel like you did the day you got the news. But you know you are going to make it. The image of your dad, your husband, your friend. It crosses your mind and a smile comes to your lips before a tear to your eye. That's hwo you know. I promise you, I give you my word, I promise you, this I know. The day will come. That day will come." - Joe Biden

question everything

(48,976 posts)
19. No words can ease your pain so just know how many here love you and appreciate your music
Sun Mar 24, 2024, 12:02 AM
Mar 2024

selections. Hope the music can offer some measure of comfort


Marthe48

(19,199 posts)
23. My dear husband died 7 years ago
Sun Apr 7, 2024, 09:58 AM
Apr 2024

Last year was easier than the first 5. I don't stop missing him. I have pictures in view all around the house. I will mention him if I'm talking to someone who knew him. I try to remember that other people loved him too. It helps me to boost them, especially our kids.

Sending you energy to ease your pain and lift your heart

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