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electric_blue68

(18,465 posts)
Wed Apr 17, 2024, 12:21 AM Apr 2024

I'm going to go and find out via FB whether an acquaintance made it through the night. They are good friends w another..

(needed to put my experience somewhere)
... long time friend of mine w whom we are far fling across the (mostly) USA sharing a set of interests through some decades. So now a lot of us are late '60's into early '70+.
Was up very late as her partner was letting us know now what was happening via FB. Very top surgeon said he could put in stents where others said no. Her heart stopped during surgery, restarted. Pacemaker had to be adjusted. Put in an induced coma. She shared a photo.
Finally a steady beat, but too low blood pressure. They didn't think she'd make it. Team asked her to decide ?DNR. She was in a quandry!
I guess they hadn't re gone over it.
I'm pretty darn sure they were Not expecting this.
We all told her to hold her hand, and about their life together. One person said they had been in one, and it was like a very heavy fog, but although she couldn't respond - she heard people talking to her.

I had to go to sleep - but then I hardly slept.
Since they were as I am on the East Coast, US they have a bunch of other friends in later times that could stay with her.
Afraid it'll be bad news, but Hoping for a miracle.

Now I'll go find out.

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I'm going to go and find out via FB whether an acquaintance made it through the night. They are good friends w another.. (Original Post) electric_blue68 Apr 2024 OP
Wishing her and you all the very best luck. mahina Apr 2024 #1
Holding you all in light and healing. niyad Apr 2024 #2
TY. She did pass. Sigh. Not until the late morning. At least for me... electric_blue68 Apr 2024 #3
I am so very sorry mate. mahina Apr 2024 #4
So sorry, electric_blue. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Apr 2024 #5
Sending the best prayers and hopes. irisblue Apr 2024 #6
Thank you, all for your kind words. 🏵️ electric_blue68 Apr 2024 #7
Hoping for good news XanaDUer2 Apr 2024 #8
Ty electric_blue68 Apr 2024 #10
sorry kanda Apr 2024 #9

electric_blue68

(18,465 posts)
3. TY. She did pass. Sigh. Not until the late morning. At least for me...
Wed Apr 17, 2024, 01:25 AM
Apr 2024

having some daylight instead of "the dead of night" makes a bit if difference. Nighttime has it's positive/negative aspects, imho.

Two friends arrived to be with her which is important. And she has tons of on line support of friends near, and far.

They'd been together for 35 yrs, married 10.
Their poor cats will wonder what happened.

Damn shame.
Ty.

mahina

(18,988 posts)
4. I am so very sorry mate.
Wed Apr 17, 2024, 01:28 AM
Apr 2024

The body and life itself can be such a mystery.

My heart is with you and her ohana.

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