Bereavement
Related: About this forumYesterday I lerned my best friend had passed.
We were roomies in college, and met 54 years ago. He was a year younger than I. I had a missed call at 6am from his phone, and he was no early bird. When I called back his brother answered so I felt my gut tighten. Sure enough, they found him the evening of the 16h. He had apparently come in his house and lay down on the bed and never got up. The bed was not even mussed. He had a pacemaker but otherwise was in great health, and very conscious of his diet and exercise.
One of the truly nice guys in this world...he is and will be missed. He never married, but was very content with hi life in the town where he grew up. He was always happy.
I stayed at his house last June, and I'm so thankful I got to spend some time with him. You just never know when you are going to lose someone close.
This one hit me hard.
The Polack MSgt
(13,445 posts)blm
(113,841 posts)Peaceful - it sounds like he had a peaceful way about him, even in his passing.
Condolences to you and the family.
AllaN01Bear
(23,202 posts)barbtries
(29,915 posts)You are not alone. I just found out yesterday that the husband of a family member died. He'd been sick with cancer for over a year but did not want anyone to know. This man was in his fifties.
When one of my 2 lifelong friends was dying, I went across country to visit her. It was a sad visit but I am so happy that I did, because it meant so much to her. I am really happy for you that you were able to spend time with your friend!
MLAA
(18,654 posts)A college roommate can be a special friendship, both experience so much that is new and living in close quarters. May the memories of your adventures and laughter bring you some comfort soon. 💗
50 Shades Of Blue
(10,899 posts)onecaliberal
(36,208 posts)Hugs. Sending peaceful vibes.
Wicked Blue
(6,725 posts)Goddessartist
(2,067 posts)and may he fly high.
Deuxcents
(19,960 posts)redwitch
(15,084 posts)May good memories fill you and sustain you.
brer cat
(26,405 posts)LoisB
(8,875 posts)doubly sad when the world loses one of the nice people.
Hugs
people
(705 posts)That would put a giant hole in my heart to lose my best friend. Glad you were able to spend time with him last June.
Elessar Zappa
(16,042 posts)RIP to his soul. Youll be in my thoughts.
mnhtnbb
(32,103 posts)who have been in our lives for so many years. People who knew us when...
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Hope22
(3,042 posts)Im thankful you had a visit with your friend. Friendship is magical. I imagine you will hear and see your friend when you least expect it. My heart goes out you. 🙏🏼💗💗💐
whathehell
(29,845 posts)It's so hard losing those close to us.
onlyadream
(2,221 posts)I lost a friend like that 4 years ago, it came out of the blue and words can't describe the loss. I think about him all the time (knew him since I was 8).
Interestingly, when I found out he passed (it was April fools day, the first week of lock down in 2020) I was so distraught that I had to get out of the house to do something. So I got in my car and started to drive down the road. Soon as I pulled out of my driveway, I noticed my mailbox was open. I thought it strange bc everyone was freaking out about Covid and NO one was out. Then, as I drove down the road, I noticed that every single mailbox was open. My friend was a mailman. I really did think he was sending me a message that he's okay.
OldBaldy1701E
(6,485 posts)Mickju
(1,812 posts)I know that is very difficult.
niyad
(120,410 posts)ones find peace.
irisblue
(34,379 posts)multigraincracker
(34,208 posts)I got a pacemaker about 3 years ago. I read the average life for someone my age that got a pacemaker is 5 years. The only thing going for me is I dont have any A-fib.
I really dont wish to out live my loved ones, but would like to outlive all of my enemies.
Peace be with you.
ancianita
(38,785 posts)Karadeniz
(23,466 posts)iluvtennis
(20,917 posts)SWBTATTReg
(24,260 posts)we all will go to the big theater upstairs, but one must, if they can, try to get w/ friends and family and spend quality time w/ them. Sure things are different after 54 years, but the tug of friendship is still strong, and you're still thinking of them (and them you), and that's what counts. My best to you and his family.
Old Curler
(11 posts)Unexpected death is so hard. My wife of 35 years died a similar death this Easter Saturday. She was 68 with no health issues. May time heal your heart.
FemDemERA
(412 posts)Thanks.
calimary
(84,502 posts)Im so sorry about the loss of your friend. I wish you comfort and great solace. You dont mourn alone as long as youre here.
cate94
(2,892 posts)keopeli
(3,579 posts)I feel deeply for you, though I don't know you. Your struggle is familiar to me and I wish I could offer you more consolation. Life is fragile. What a blessing that you were able to have a good visit last June.
Blessings to you, CanonRay.
pandr32
(12,238 posts)Mme. Defarge
(8,563 posts)Joinfortmill
(16,567 posts)livetohike
(23,020 posts)of your times together and the stories youll tell always bring a smile .
mgardener
(1,900 posts)My cousin died in the Fall.
He was like my big brother growing up.
We parted ways during COVID. Thought it was over blown. Was never going to get the vaccine
AND Trump.
I thought about calling him last summer and I did not. Our last conversation was so terrible.He developed lung cancer caught COVID and died.
Hekate
(95,059 posts)world wide wally
(21,835 posts)UpInArms
(51,852 posts)I am so sorry 😢
XanaDUer2
(14,346 posts)CanonRay
(14,903 posts)Love the support DUers always show.
Oopsie Daisy
(4,534 posts)* and playmate cousins, and younger siblings die before we do. I hope your friend lived a good life and that you have many comforting memories of the times you spent together. Be well.
CanonRay
(14,903 posts)as he was a unique individual. I'm sure he's pissed he can't vote Trump out.
gademocrat7
(11,195 posts)On the loss of your dear friend.
OldSWODog
(74 posts)CR, greetings...losing family is one thing, losing friends that we have chosen is somehow different but still hard to fathom...take care of yourself and fondly remember your roomie...OSD
sdfernando
(5,399 posts)Losing a best friend is so hard. In many ways harder than a family member.
Relish the good times you had with him, which I'm sure are many.
FemDemERA
(412 posts)May you Find comfort in a lifetime of special memories.