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Marthe48

(19,199 posts)
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 09:47 AM Jun 2024

June 18 would be our 53rd Anniversary

In my own way, I will observe the date, even if my husband passed a few months short of our 46th. I was thinking of the ways my husband and our marriage made my life a lot different and better. I live with good memories. Love never dies.
I don't have to consciously recall a certain moment. As I work around the house, random memories come to mind, so the past is never far away. I am doing okay on my own, but I never feel really alone. I'm not living a half-life. Part of my process of grieving has been a realization that people on this side of the veil love me and need me present, so I make sure they know I love them and need them.
In many ways, I am still married to my husband, even if he is not physically present. We will meet by the moon someday.

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June 18 would be our 53rd Anniversary (Original Post) Marthe48 Jun 2024 OP
What a wonderful tribute question everything Jun 2024 #1
What a beautiful tribute! 50 Shades Of Blue Jun 2024 #2
How very moving your words are. 3catwoman3 Jun 2024 #3
I understand you and hugs. Duncanpup Jun 2024 #4
Your loss is still fresh Marthe48 Jun 2024 #6
It's a burden we can't shake. Duncanpup Jun 2024 #7
I'm glad you have your kids and dogs and work Marthe48 Jun 2024 #9
Weeding flowers this morning and noticed a daylily flower pod on the ground. IA8IT Jun 2024 #5
Oh, the little things Marthe48 Jun 2024 #8
After my father passed, my mother continued to celebrate their marriage. Oopsie Daisy Jun 2024 #10
Bereavement continues 49jim Jun 2024 #11
I'm sorry for your loss Marthe48 Jun 2024 #12
Be aware... StarryNite Jun 2024 #13
I like the saying airplaneman Jun 2024 #14
That's a good way to look at it. calimary Jun 2024 #15
Thank you Marthe48 Jun 2024 #16
I read a short story many years ago Marthe48 Jun 2024 #17
Love is stronger than Death. ZZenith Jun 2024 #18

Marthe48

(19,199 posts)
9. I'm glad you have your kids and dogs and work
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 10:12 AM
Jun 2024

The kids are of the age to keep you busy. The dogs are hilarious. And you make your work interesting, for sure

IA8IT

(5,913 posts)
5. Weeding flowers this morning and noticed a daylily flower pod on the ground.
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 10:06 AM
Jun 2024

Clear as day I heard her voice again "Did you see what you did?" Her flower beds are full of memories.

Married 36 gone for 8 and still very much attached.

Thank You for sharing your wonderful story.

Marthe48

(19,199 posts)
8. Oh, the little things
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 10:10 AM
Jun 2024

I like when something like that happens. Sometimes a flower is not just a flower

Oopsie Daisy

(4,534 posts)
10. After my father passed, my mother continued to celebrate their marriage.
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 10:32 AM
Jun 2024

Even after his death, she always considered herself married. And even though he wasn't with her physically, he was always in her heart.

You're right: LOVE NEVER DIES!

I hope today is filled with many warm and happy memories and that they bring you comfort and a smile.

49jim

(573 posts)
11. Bereavement continues
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 10:36 AM
Jun 2024

Your post reminded me that June 12th would have been our 53rd anniversary. I lost my wife to colon cancer November 15, 2022. We were together for 55 years. We met when she was 16 and I was 17 in high school. We had two wonderful sons/fathers and four beautiful grandchildren. They keep me going and remind me of the life we had together.
I thought that I’d think about the anniversary quietly…..my sister sent me a text ( she was 8 years old at the wedding).
Thank you for the post it gave me an opportunity to share this and move me forward in my grieving process.

Marthe48

(19,199 posts)
12. I'm sorry for your loss
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 10:44 AM
Jun 2024

If i mention my husband, I'm honoring his memory and remembering the time we had. I like to include him, if it is appropriate to the conversation. It helps me and I think sometimes helps our loved ones, who won't forget what a good Dad, brother, friend, cousin and neighbor he was.



StarryNite

(10,872 posts)
13. Be aware...
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 10:44 AM
Jun 2024

"Be aware that you are pure consciousness. You are not lonely or lost or abandoned. You are one with all of Life." ~Louise L. Hay

airplaneman

(1,282 posts)
14. I like the saying
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 11:21 AM
Jun 2024

You actually have two deaths: The day you die and the day the last person that knew you also dies. So you really do keep him alive by remembering.
-Airplane

calimary

(84,502 posts)
15. That's a good way to look at it.
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 12:07 PM
Jun 2024

Thanks, airplaneman!

Keeping you in my thoughts today, Marthe48.

Marthe48

(19,199 posts)
16. Thank you
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 04:13 PM
Jun 2024

I'm doing good. And I hope everyone who misses a loved one is doing okay, too.

Marthe48

(19,199 posts)
17. I read a short story many years ago
Tue Jun 18, 2024, 04:16 PM
Jun 2024

I think the title is: :'But for this' It is about this sentiment.

I think it is in one of the short story collections I have from my parents' home library.

Thank you.

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