Bereavement
Related: About this forumJune 18 would be our 53rd Anniversary
In my own way, I will observe the date, even if my husband passed a few months short of our 46th. I was thinking of the ways my husband and our marriage made my life a lot different and better. I live with good memories. Love never dies.
I don't have to consciously recall a certain moment. As I work around the house, random memories come to mind, so the past is never far away. I am doing okay on my own, but I never feel really alone. I'm not living a half-life. Part of my process of grieving has been a realization that people on this side of the veil love me and need me present, so I make sure they know I love them and need them.
In many ways, I am still married to my husband, even if he is not physically present. We will meet by the moon someday.
question everything
(48,976 posts)50 Shades Of Blue
(10,899 posts)3catwoman3
(25,578 posts)Duncanpup
(13,740 posts)Im still married also and will meet again as well.
Marthe48
(19,199 posts)We are part of a club no one wants to join.
Duncanpup
(13,740 posts)No amount of grieving can carry our weight of loss.
Marthe48
(19,199 posts)The kids are of the age to keep you busy. The dogs are hilarious. And you make your work interesting, for sure
IA8IT
(5,913 posts)Clear as day I heard her voice again "Did you see what you did?" Her flower beds are full of memories.
Married 36 gone for 8 and still very much attached.
Thank You for sharing your wonderful story.
Marthe48
(19,199 posts)I like when something like that happens. Sometimes a flower is not just a flower
Oopsie Daisy
(4,534 posts)Even after his death, she always considered herself married. And even though he wasn't with her physically, he was always in her heart.
You're right: LOVE NEVER DIES!
I hope today is filled with many warm and happy memories and that they bring you comfort and a smile.
49jim
(573 posts)Your post reminded me that June 12th would have been our 53rd anniversary. I lost my wife to colon cancer November 15, 2022. We were together for 55 years. We met when she was 16 and I was 17 in high school. We had two wonderful sons/fathers and four beautiful grandchildren. They keep me going and remind me of the life we had together.
I thought that Id think about the anniversary quietly
..my sister sent me a text ( she was 8 years old at the wedding).
Thank you for the post it gave me an opportunity to share this and move me forward in my grieving process.
Marthe48
(19,199 posts)If i mention my husband, I'm honoring his memory and remembering the time we had. I like to include him, if it is appropriate to the conversation. It helps me and I think sometimes helps our loved ones, who won't forget what a good Dad, brother, friend, cousin and neighbor he was.
StarryNite
(10,872 posts)"Be aware that you are pure consciousness. You are not lonely or lost or abandoned. You are one with all of Life." ~Louise L. Hay
airplaneman
(1,282 posts)You actually have two deaths: The day you die and the day the last person that knew you also dies. So you really do keep him alive by remembering.
-Airplane
calimary
(84,502 posts)Thanks, airplaneman!
Keeping you in my thoughts today, Marthe48.
Marthe48
(19,199 posts)I'm doing good. And I hope everyone who misses a loved one is doing okay, too.
Marthe48
(19,199 posts)I think the title is: :'But for this' It is about this sentiment.
I think it is in one of the short story collections I have from my parents' home library.
Thank you.
ZZenith
(4,324 posts)Of that I am certain.