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58Sunliner

(4,958 posts)
Wed Jul 17, 2024, 07:57 PM Jul 2024

My brother died this week and I can't seem to focus.

Last edited Wed Jul 17, 2024, 10:32 PM - Edit history (1)

I know it's normal. Unmoored. This will probably pass. Nobody can die for the next year or so. You hear me universe? Thanks for listening.
Thank you all for your kind words.

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My brother died this week and I can't seem to focus. (Original Post) 58Sunliner Jul 2024 OP
I'm very sorry to hear this. elleng Jul 2024 #1
Thanks. 58Sunliner Jul 2024 #4
I'm sorry for your loss. LookingGlassOnion Jul 2024 #2
Thank you. 58Sunliner Jul 2024 #3
I'm sorry viva la Jul 2024 #5
I know the feeling Skittles Jul 2024 #6
I am so sorry. The day will come when you will think of him and smile instead of cry. It will take as long as it LoisB Jul 2024 #7
I'm so sorry mzmolly Jul 2024 #8
I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Jul 2024 #9
I am sorry. murielm99 Jul 2024 #10
Sorry for your loss. That is a big loss. applegrove Jul 2024 #11
I'm sorry Laurelin Jul 2024 #12
Checking in to see how you are doing. ChazII Jul 2024 #13
I am doing ok. It's been a period of letting go for many things. 58Sunliner Jul 2024 #14
Sending this hug. ChazII Jul 2024 #15
Thanks..... 58Sunliner Jul 2024 #16

elleng

(135,794 posts)
1. I'm very sorry to hear this.
Wed Jul 17, 2024, 07:59 PM
Jul 2024

I can't bear to think of such happening, especially as my brother is 5 years younger than I.

 
2. I'm sorry for your loss.
Wed Jul 17, 2024, 08:00 PM
Jul 2024

I won't say I understand. But, I've had a similar experience. I lost my mom when I was just turning 30. My father had passed when I was in my early 20s, but he had not been much a part of my life since my parents divorced when I was 8.

But, when I lost my mom I became lost. It takes time, and effort, and refusing to give up on believing there's something worth living for, for making, for experiencing.

You'll get there. Be where you are now. Just know you'll be somewhere else in the future. There is a future.

viva la

(3,745 posts)
5. I'm sorry
Wed Jul 17, 2024, 08:05 PM
Jul 2024

The death of a sibling hits hard... the loss of personal stories and history... the person who has known you forever.

I hope the universe treats you gently for a while!

LoisB

(8,517 posts)
7. I am so sorry. The day will come when you will think of him and smile instead of cry. It will take as long as it
Wed Jul 17, 2024, 08:20 PM
Jul 2024

takes; there is no time frame on mourning. My condolences to you and your family.

Laurelin

(631 posts)
12. I'm sorry
Thu Jul 18, 2024, 07:20 AM
Jul 2024

Of course you can't focus. It will take awhile. Meanwhile, take VERY good care of yourself. ❤️?🩹

ChazII

(6,319 posts)
13. Checking in to see how you are doing.
Tue Jul 30, 2024, 07:49 AM
Jul 2024

It will be a difficult year of firsts but you probably already know this fact. Do you have a support system? My friends helped me when I lost my son 4 years ago. I'm an only so I cannot begin to imagine the lost of a sibling.

58Sunliner

(4,958 posts)
14. I am doing ok. It's been a period of letting go for many things.
Tue Jul 30, 2024, 02:31 PM
Jul 2024

Most of it old family dynamics that were unhealthy. I would imagine losing a child would be worse. At my age I expect to out-live my older siblings and I expect will go through this 3 more times. Thanks for checking in.

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