Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

AwakeAtLast

(14,245 posts)
Sun Oct 5, 2014, 08:52 PM Oct 2014

Taking the dive

I posted in this group on DU2 (I guess that's what it was). I have been on hiatus in posting for about four years. The reasons are many, but I never stopped reading - which was a terrific lifeline.

My husband has been in and out of our relationship so many times he needs to install a revolving door on our house. But no more.

Way too much stuff going on to post, but I will be weighing my options over the next few weeks.

Any advice you have would be so helpful right now. Thanks!

5 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
Taking the dive (Original Post) AwakeAtLast Oct 2014 OP
Let us know what happens elleng Oct 2014 #1
Thank you, I will AwakeAtLast Oct 2014 #2
Good, elleng Oct 2014 #3
Taking care of yourself and your SheilaT Oct 2014 #4
^^ This ^^ intheflow Dec 2014 #5
 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
4. Taking care of yourself and your
Sun Oct 12, 2014, 12:30 PM
Oct 2014

future is crucial.

Without knowing the details of your circumstance, which probably aren't anyone else's business anyway, I want to encourage you very strongly to look after your financial self-interest. I've known far too many women who say something like, "I just wanted to get out of the marriage and have it over with so I didn't care about a property settlement and I didn't even ask for anything for the kids." Do not do that. Make sure you get what is appropriate. Think of the long term, including any eventual pension share or Social Security from his side of that equation.

intheflow

(28,889 posts)
5. ^^ This ^^
Thu Dec 25, 2014, 08:26 PM
Dec 2014

Very good advice. I was a woman who said I didn't need anything but custody. Struggled for a few years before my ex was killed and I started getting child support through social security survivor benefits. If my ex hadn't died, I probably wouldn't have gotten any money from him at all. Make sure that in saving yourself you remember that saving yourself is a life-long endeavor.

Latest Discussions»Support Forums»Coping with Divorce or Separation»Taking the dive