You never know when it will be the last time you say you love them.

[sheshe2]

I put mom to bed at 8:30. She was not breathing well.

I went to check on her as I am on the way to bed. It is 4 degrees outside, yet went downstairs to check in. She is doing fine now.

Hoping for some sleep for both of us.

I am sorry to keep posting but I need you peeps. You help keep me sane.

[MLAA]

1. I'm here anytime!

Sending to you and Mom!

[sheshe2]

2. Thank you, MLAA.

[MerryHolidays]

4. All the very best to your mom, you, and your family. Please take care and be well. God bless. Nt

[TygrBright]

5. Hang in there, she...

I love my Mom dearly, but watching as her light slowly goes out is painful.

But I am grateful for the pain of that love... it is important in so many ways. Difficult, sometimes even grinding, but... I don't want it to end, either.

One day, one hour, sometimes one minute at a time, I have to remind myself of what really matters, and it is not the worry or the pain or the weariness or the annoyance or the frustration.

You know what matters.

appreciatively,
Bright

[sheshe2]

9. "watching as her light slowly goes out is painful."

Yes it is Bright.

[Blue_playwright]

15. Going through this with my dad right now...

Seeing him lost and confused is worse than seeing him in pain, I think.

[AmBlue]

22. And I have my mom too.

"Watching her light go out" is such an apt description. Sending love and light to all my DU friends walking this path.

[babylonsister]

6. You're right, you never know.

Don't be sorry, and you're doing what you HAVE to do with your mom. You're a beautiful daughter.

[brer cat]

7. You are taking the best care of your mother.

But you do need your rest, too. Take care of yourself.

[onecaliberal]

8. Sending peaceful resting vibes.

[Tetrachloride]

10. Video camera is what i didn't have.

We did sort of. i don’t remember too much

[Bluethroughu]

11. You are what every mother hopes their daughter grow up to be,

Loving and kind.

[LastDemocratInSC]

12. You're correct and I have experienced it several times.

There's always a time that's the final time. One never knows when that time will arrive but it always does.

The only thing you can do is to your best for a person while you have the opportunity to do so. Love transcends space and time.

[DURHAM D]

13. We will be here. nt

[MontanaMama]

14. I've done the work you are doing now.

As hard as it is, you won’t regret it. Bless you for caring for your mom. Thank you for keeping us in your circle…don’t be sorry for posting about real life.

❤️

[tiredtoo]

16. we are all here for you

[littlemissmartypants]

17. ❤

I completely understand. I was just thinking about how my mom has always been my best friend, my only true advocate in this world.

We used to have long, entertaining and supportive chats with each other on the phone every day. Now, she doesn't appear to remember that we've spoken at all.

She panics and calls repeatedly during the day, not remembering that we just spoke minutes before. I just treat every call as if it's our first and only call, just like the wonderful daily calls we used to have.

As difficult as it is, as much as I cry after every call, I am so deeply thankful she is still able to make those calls and remember me at all. But the heart still breaks.

Stay encouraged, she. You are loved.

[LiberalLoner]

18. Sending you love and wishes for a peaceful night.

[summer_in_TX]

19. Our hearts are with you during this time, sheshe.

We had the blessing of bringing my mom home to hospice, where her huge extended family and friends could come by and visit with us and a bit with her in her hospice bed on the sun porch.

A hard yet sacred time, filled with sorrow and memories, singing lullabies she'd sung to us when we were babies, love.

[Rhiannon12866]

20. So glad to hear that she's doing better now, my friend.

I've been there, too. Get some good rest...

[fierywoman]

21. Love and peace and golden dreams to both of you.

[herding cats]

23. Being the caregiver for our elderly parents is truly hard. It hurts so bittersweet.

It's a reversal of rolls and concepts we never could conceive when our parents were 10 foot tall and bullet proof, or during the trying era of our teen angst. When they guided us and kept us safe and looked out for our better interest.

Then, finally, we settle into an adult on adult relationship with them. And, just as fast as we grew up on them, they grow old on us. It feels like it took a blink of an eye from when mom was the stalwart matriarch, to my being the one making sure she's tended to.

My heart and my love to you sheshe. You are in my thoughts this night. ❤️

[Hekate]

24. ****

I only dropped in by accident, because this landed on Page 1. But this is for you, dear one.

[monkeyman1]

25. "LOVE CAN WITHSTAND ANYTHING" !

[SunSeeker]

26. Your mom is so lucky to have you.

Hang in there, she.

[we can do it]

27. You are so right. Hugs to you.

[Botany]

28. Tough Duty no doubt but you are up to it.

One foot in front of the next and you will get through "it."