My father passed away a couple of hours ago.

[Dial H For Hero]

As soon as the phone rang at 12:30 at night, I suspected it, and then saw it was from his care facitility. He'd had an ankle sore that that had gotten very bad in the last few weeks, and actually went to the hospital around a week ago, where they discovered it was infected with MRSA. He went back to the care facitlilty yesterday, and when I spoke to him a few hours ago I was shocked at how weak he sounded.

My mother passed away early last year on the exact date their 60th anniversary. Between missing her and not being able to have any visits because of COVID, the last year was very hard on him.

Woke my sister up to tell her, emailed all my friends and family. It's going to be a rough week.

[CentralMass]

1. My condolences on your loss. As time moves on focus on the good memories that you have of them.

[DarthDem]

2. Oh, I Am So Very Sorry

May he RIP. Condolences to your family.

[multigraincracker]

3. My heart goes out to you.

Lost my dad 14 years ago. I felt a lot of quilt, thinking I could have something. I ask the doctor if there was anything I could have done. He told me no, your dad died of old age, not kidney failure. His words really helped me. I still miss him every day.

[Rhiannon12866]

4. I am so very sorry. I've been there as well.

Hang in there and know that you were there as much as possible. And be sure to take care of yourself, too.

[madaboutharry]

5. I wish peace to you and all your family,

and to all those who cared for him and loved him.

Losing a parent is so hard.

May his memory be a blessing.

[Cicada]

6. So sorry. My thoughts are with you.

[Journeyman]

7. I have been consoled in the loss of family and friends by the recognition . . .

that though they have passed I retain my memories, for truly, the only substitute for love is memory.

And should you find one day the memories become sparse, recall that the departed are best remembered if thought of in a context. In other words, think not of them but of specific incidents and occasions you shared with them, and in the memory of those seemingly mundane acts the life and love of those absent and missed will spring to your mind unbidden and remain with you untarnished by time’s passing.

[Dial H For Hero]

11. Thank you (and everyone else). That's a wonderful thought.

One memory that comes to mind immediately (I'm not sure why) is when we were river rafting in Costa Rica about ten years ago and he fell out of the raft. The river we were on was actually quite calm, he just stumbled and went into the water. No harm done and he was laughing as he swam to the nearby shore.

Just thinking on that made me feel slightly better.

I'm also reminded of a quote from (of all things) the recent series "WandaVision" on Disney+ from a week ago, when Vision says, "What is grief, if not love persevering?"

[Generic Other]

8. So sorry for your loss

This has been such a hard time for so many. My deepest sympathy. Stay well and safe.

[sarge43]

9. Condolences Dial H

Peace and comfort for you and your family.

[Freddie]

10. Hugs to you and your family

I had a similar experience, the 3 am phone call about my dad. Both my parents had long and difficult elder years. A friend, whose mother died at age 100 after a similar journey, told me some words of wisdom: don’t remember them as the sick, cantankerous 90-something. Remember them as the vital healthy person they once were. Treasure those memories.

[tblue37]

12. I am so sorry for you. It must be very hard.

[Duppers]

13. So sorry.

This must be terribly painful for you. Tell us more about him and the circumstances of his death when you're feeling up to it. And take care of yourself.

for your father.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

14. My similar experience.

On December 29 last year I got a call from a man identifying himself as Officer Brian (I never did catch his last name) from the Tucson police department, and I knew immediately why he was calling. Fortunately my sister was staying with me because I'd had a heart attack a week earlier. so I put Officer Brian on speaker phone. He told us that our brother who lived in Tucson had passed away. Our brother had been in declining health for some 20 years, so the news was sad, but not entirely unexpected.

I'm telling you this as a way of saying I understand. These things are not easy. I hope your sister and all the rest of your family rally around you. Even when a death is expected, the actual passing is a shock, I know. I can only offer this.

Even though we don't know each other, I'll say this. I love you and I wish you well.

[ancianita]

15. Very sorry for your loss.

Love and hug each other through the sadness. Stay well and safe.

[BigmanPigman]

16. I hope you handle it better than I have been.

My dad died out of the blue two years ago so it was a shock but the passing of time hasn't helped me so far.

[PatrickforB]

18. You know, it's funny how tall a shadow your dad casts on your life.

My own father died 39 years ago, and not a day passes when I don't think of him at least once.

[PatrickforB]

17. I'm sorry for your loss. May your father be blessed with eternal rest in

perpetual light, and may your family be blessed with the memory of his love.

[MiHale]

19. ...

[Tanuki]

20. My heart goes out to you in this sad hour. To lose both parents in such

a short space of time must be very tough, on top of the general stress of the pandemic. Please take good care of yourself in the days ahead. Your DU family is here for you at all times. ❤

[JohnSJ]

21. Very sorry what you are going through. Take care

[Lucinda]

22. ❤️ ✿❧🌿❧✿ ❤️

[Maraya1969]

23. I'm so sorry. It's hard when both parents are gone.

[ms liberty]

24. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[mobeau69]

25. Peace be with you and your family.

[gademocrat7]

26. Condolences on the loss of your beloved father.

Take care, Dial H For Hero.

[diehardblue]

27. 💕

[Soph0571]

28. My deepest condolences for you loss

[markie]

29. so very sorry...

[Just_Vote_Dem]

30. Very sorry for your loss

[wendyb-NC]

31. I'm so sorry for you loss

Take care of yourself, rest, reflect, spend time with your loved ones, I will hold you all in the light, to find comfort and well being in the midst of all you've been through. Peace.

[essaynnc]

32. so sorry for your loss. peace.

[snowybirdie]

33. Very sorry

For your loss! May you and yours find peace.

[Blue_playwright]

34. I'm so sorry.

Losing a parent is so hard. Take care of you.

[SheltieLover]

35. Deepest condolences

[sinkingfeeling]

36. My deepest condolences on your loss.

[brer cat]

37. I am sorry for your loss.

[louslobbs]

38. I'm so sorry

for your loss.

[niyad]

39. I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that your DU family is here for you.

[luckone]

40. Condolences to your family + take care

[TexasBushwhacker]

41. They can go downhill so fast. My condolences. N/t

[NurseJackie]

42. So very sorry to hear the sad news.

[Dial H For Hero]

43. My thanks again for so many kind thoughts and words.

[Trueblue Texan]

44. So sorry....

I'm late getting to this post, but sending my healing thoughts to you and your family.

[Dial H For Hero]

45. Thank you so much.

I arranged for a service yesterday (he'll be buried at Ft. Logan), today I'll contact the Navy so he can have military honors. I still need to got to the post office (they give flags for the funerals of veterans).