End of life may be better for families than sudden death

[angstlessk]

End of life people know they are dying, as scary as that is, but they spend their last days caring about their loved ones left behind.

And planning for their death. In many cases sudden death leaves those left behind without a clue, and sometimes without finances to have a funeral or a cremation.

I hail these folks, and anyone who plans their own death.

[TexasBushwhacker]

1. I totally agree

Knowing that your time is limited gives you a chance to catch up on hugs and "I love you&quot s). As difficult as it was, I cherish the time I had with my mother as her caregiver. That being said, I loved my mom, and liked her as well. Caring for a relative that you don't like can be hell on earth.

I just lost my boss to a sudden heart attack. He was 55. It just left us reeling.

[Tab]

2. I want something in-between

I've had the luxury of putting things in order, talking to the people I want to talk to, and people I didn't think cared as much have made an effort to contact and/or see me.

In that way, it's better than if I died in a car crash on the highway.

That said, I'm not sure I want to drag it out to where I'm in a wheelchair and have to be "assisted" in my living. I'd kinda like to take advantage of the opportunity to say my goodbyes and manage my death and then just go.

I don't have a problem with going from functional person to dying, but I'm not sure I want to do the functional person -> invalid -> dying. It's the invalid part that scares me. For a few days, maybe, but months on end? I think not.

Does that seem weird?