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In reply to the discussion: Question for white male Dems [View all]Metaphorical
(2,351 posts)However, I think there are a few factors:
1. Unmarried white males, either single or divorced, tend to view women either as who accentuate their maleness and provide sex, or people who were in their lives that for one reason or another rejected them (the number of women who divorced men far outweigh the number of men who divorced women).
2. Young unmarried white males who grow up with brothers (and often domineering fathers) are expected to be more "male" and that includes peer pressure to not be "dominated" by mothers or wives. These men often see Trump as masculine, successful, and dominating (less so now, though it is still a factor).
3. Boys who grow up with sisters are expected to "protect" them, which often means that they take an attitude of infantilization (ditto for girlfriends). However, there is still pressure, especially in more traditional households, to not show feminine characteristics, because this equates to being weak and ineffective (this ties into ant-gay feelings in particular).
4. On the other hand, if you are in families where you have strong women or many sisters, this dynamic tends to be different.
5. In general, many young men hit about 15 years of age then their emotional growth stalls. People with varied experiences, such as those who travel extensively or are interested in learning at university, usually tend to move beyond this stage, and reach a greater level of maturity. They feel defensive for women, but they also learn to see them more as equals. Many Democratic men are also sapiosexual - they are attracted by intelligence and emotional maturity.
6. These attitudes usually become set in their early to mid-30s, so if they are taught to see women as equals early, that attitude will likely carry though life.