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Hekate

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28. Just say No, as Nancy Reagan told us about drugs. Or keep keys & purse close, & exit with dignity...

Tue Nov 12, 2024, 09:42 AM

Nov 12

…at the first sign of trouble. Practice saying, “I really must go now. Have a nice time.”

Or, seriously, learn how to say No in the first place. Judith Martin, who writes as Miss Manners, says you are allowed to nicely decline without explanation when someone tries to dragoon you into an event you don’t want to attend/volunteer to do/whatever. You are not obligated to please all of the people all of the time, and that includes being subjected to religious and political conversations that you find obnoxious.

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Help me DU, dinner this evening with Christofascists family [View all] 303squadron Nov 12 OP

Do not participate, do not engage HAB911 Nov 12 #1

Don't go GenThePerservering Nov 12 #2

Beat me to it. I would definitely not go. wnylib Nov 12 #18

Why go? WhiskeyGrinder Nov 12 #3

If you are hosting I would relocate the dinner to a restaurant. You do not want that energy in your home. Hope22 Nov 12 #4

Order Orange Chicken SocialDemocrat61 Nov 12 #5

At your place or somewhere else? tanyev Nov 12 #6

Restaurant 303squadron Nov 12 #7

Why did you agree to it? What's the occasion? wnylib Nov 12 #20

Say I have a migraine Blue Full Moon Nov 12 #39

Just get up and leave. No need to explain. Sanity Claws Nov 12 #27

I would refuse to attend. BigMin28 Nov 12 #8

Tell them to enjoy the ride. cachukis Nov 12 #9

If I have a choice in whether or not I get abused, verbal or otherwise, I'm going to opt out. Solly Mack Nov 12 #10

Well stated, Solly! SheltieLover Nov 12 #12

Thank you. I love my family, but love doesn't mean allowing them to kick me around. Solly Mack Nov 12 #16

Quite simple, imo. SheltieLover Nov 12 #21

Don't go. SamKnause Nov 12 #11

Ask yourself how you got into this mess. gordianot Nov 12 #13

Remember, your non-blood family EnergizedLib Nov 12 #14

One thing I wouldn't do... morillon Nov 12 #15

Don't go LuvLoogie Nov 12 #17

I'd be too triggered to attend La Coliniere Nov 12 #19

When I have had to go to things like that in the past Bettie Nov 12 #22

Car trouble. haele Nov 12 #23

When I was a kid fights around the dinner table were my family's favorite holiday recreation. hunter Nov 12 #24

Don't Go SoCalDavidS Nov 12 #25

Stomach trouble - uncontrolled vomiting Wicked Blue Nov 12 #26

Just say No, as Nancy Reagan told us about drugs. Or keep keys & purse close, & exit with dignity... Hekate Nov 12 #28

Don't go. Ocelot II Nov 12 #29

I would NOT go!! aeromanKC Nov 12 #30

Ground rules JeffinUT Nov 12 #31

What do i use? I say to them "YOU MADE YOUR CHOICE" bluestarone Nov 12 #32

Flagellation much ? magicarpet Nov 12 #33

I'd agree with all of those who are saying "Don't go" Xavier Breath Nov 12 #34

I either don't hang around people like that or I modify myself ismnotwasm Nov 12 #35

I had to deal with that. MuseRider Nov 12 #36

If you must go, ipecac will help! Hint: stay at the table. hatrack Nov 12 #37

Easy Rebl2 Nov 12 #38

Don't go. My non thanksgiving will be with a mixed group. Driving my own car and will leave if it's in the middle PortTack Nov 12 #40

Cancel the dinner date. Vinca Nov 12 #41

Pretend you have COVID-like symptoms and say you are staying... 3catwoman3 Nov 12 #42

It's okay to say no thank you. think safety first the stove is hot. True Christians would respect your decision. Hotler Nov 12 #43

If you have anything in common algunito Nov 12 #44

Like others have said, don't go. sakabatou Nov 12 #45