Help me DU, dinner this evening with Christofascists family

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35. I either don't hang around people like that or I modify myself

I use non-comittal comments, like “oh really?, I think I heard about that, huh”. At work with patients I simply tell them I don’t follow politics or popular culture. For religious types, I have several dramatic stories of examples of love and faith from religions other than Christianity, so what I do is affirm the feelings of faith and goodness as a worldwide thing, not just American Evangelicals…if someone wants to pray for me , I tell them “that’s so sweet of you, thank you”


I was at my BIL’s—one of the people I avoid usually, he does know not to talk politics or say racist shit around us, and he does try. Sometimes he can’t help himself though. So he says something about Biden shitting down coal mines, and I said, “but did he really?” And looked it up on the spot, and gave him a little context. He was fine with it (the answer is no, fuck no, Biden did not ) he actually asked who I voted for and I told him, “not the one who won” —he just laughed and changed the subject.

I tell those people I look up “EVERYTHING” at the beginning of socializing, “just habit with me” —it actually can be a lot fun during casual conversation about music. Or motors, or types or native trees etc..so I establish myself that way, as someone interested in facts and data. I explain that’s how my mind works, I don’t do well with conjecture. I have to have FACTs dammit. And of course they don’t use facts, so it often keeps the conversation fairly safe.