Help me DU, dinner this evening with Christofascists family

[MuseRider]

36. I had to deal with that.

All the relatives I have left since my last brother died a few weeks ago are BIG church people, most very fundy but a few are not. The only one I care to see or speak with is my Aunt who is 100 years old. She is just like the rest of them but has always had respect for others even with her big fundy beliefs. I will never see her again I suppose. They invite me but I can't really go. There about 30 cousins and on and on and they are all relentless, like they plan the attack.

The last time I was subjected to that I took the bits I knew I had to take, they do have the right to pray but over every single fundy comment made? I finally kissed my Aunt, who has never done that in her 100 years and left, she knew it would be the last time....she is still here, may she live as long as she enjoys it.

You just have to do it. Be nice and courteous but be prepared to say something like, "You all heard what I said. I do not hate you for your beliefs and I have never tried to change your mind. The fact that after all these years you still cannot pass that small courtesy along to me tells me that you don't really know how your Christ wanted you to live. I am happy you are happy but that is the end of this." I have had only a couple of actual contacts with one of them but that ended when I told her I would not be voting for Trump and to please stop adding my name to your FB posts about him unless you want me to react with the same amount of courtesy you give me.

It kinda works but has given me a big rest, I no longer have to chase her posts to me around and get rid of them. She has called a few times but I do not answer except by email and I do not answer my door when I look out and see 2 men in black and white standing there. I hate being mean to them until they try to ease their way into my home. If they have bicycles they never get even that far. It is a heck of a thing when something that should be so comforting and inclusive becomes something feel you have to hide from.

Good luck. I am afraid there is no way that I could see to get rid of their need to convert you or rub it in your face.