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14. I care. I'm fortunate to be in a 99% MAGA free life.

Sun Nov 24, 2024, 10:21 AM

Nov 24

But I have one problem. My BIL and his family might be Trumpsters. They've never come out and said this. They're mostly silent about politics. My wife and my beloved MIL are strong Democrats, so I assumed BIL was, too.

Several years ago I learned that BIL was watching a lot of Fox News and believing falsehoods. We have a feeling he might have voted for Trump, based on little comments...

We rarely see them, but we're getting together this winter to celebrate a milestone birthday for MIL. If BIL makes any little comment, I will speak up. Wife is worried I'll start trouble, which I won't, but only for her sake and especially the sake of my MIL. (Actually, my mother in law is the one most likely to start an argument over politics. She is appalled by Trump. Go, mom. I love that woman.)

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I don't care that I've lost friends neighbors or family [View all] samplegirl Nov 24 OP

They destroyed the greatest democracy in the history of the world. Irish_Dem Nov 24 #1

I feel I truly live samplegirl Nov 25 #67

Yes Irish_Dem Nov 25 #68

"A Democracy, if you can keep it..." cadoman Nov 24 #2

The past few days I've read a few stories where people said they don't think CrispyQ Nov 24 #3

They voted for the child rapist. onecaliberal Nov 24 #13

Yeah, but so will us other vunerable people. electric_blue68 Nov 25 #105

In my Drinking Liberally group the other night, one of our group said that niyad Nov 24 #15

I heard the same from some. So I asked "then why are you voting for him?" Callie1979 Nov 24 #24

It seems like they were attracted to someone who was bullshitting them and liked those BS tales. TheBlackAdder Nov 24 #25

Their morals are upside down, samplegirl. Diamond_Dog Nov 24 #4

All of the above samplegirl Nov 24 #41

Actions have repercussions. They don't happen in a vacuum. paleotn Nov 24 #5

The type of person that would vote for them RandiFan1290 Nov 24 #6

One does not always know. A friend called me the other night, very upset. She niyad Nov 24 #16

Same Woodwizard Nov 24 #7

+1 on your timeline of judgement. CrispyQ Nov 24 #17

My boss once said to me samplegirl Nov 24 #48

I worked at a Rite Aid once long ago for about 2 or 3 weeks. Silver Gaia Nov 24 #56

Disgusting, and dispiriting. Terrible behavior! electric_blue68 Nov 25 #106

It's a wonderful feeling of freedom isn't it? I have never felt so light as I do now after losing Autumn Nov 24 #8

Fuck 'em. (nt) Paladin Nov 24 #9

that's exactly how I've felt for a long time FoxNewsSucks Nov 24 #22

We just need to step away from them and not engage.... FarPoint Nov 24 #10

I wish there were a way to confine FoxNewsSucks Nov 24 #23

They'll get what they deserve. Different Drummer Nov 24 #36

I'm just sitting back and watching them cry about it with an occassional 'oh, well' or 'sucks, doesn't it?' TheBlackAdder Nov 24 #26

My next door neighbor samplegirl Nov 25 #71

Please don't capitulate and give up oldmanlynn Nov 24 #11

Where do you see that the OP has given up? niyad Nov 24 #20

Give up? Cirsium Nov 25 #89

Ummm . . . the CORRECT thing to do is GIVE UP on people who vote for a child rapist John Shaft Nov 25 #92

Me either. onecaliberal Nov 24 #12

I care. I'm fortunate to be in a 99% MAGA free life. yardwork Nov 24 #14

We purged the sole MAGA who was always puting down my sister and starting shit at holiday dinners. TheBlackAdder Nov 24 #28

Good idea! My BIL doesn't do anything like that. yardwork Nov 24 #29

My husbands family samplegirl Nov 24 #42

I do not care who made what mistake DonCoquixote Nov 24 #18

I agree. Anybody could look up the truth. yardwork Nov 24 #30

I don't have any in my life wryter2000 Nov 24 #19

The American Dream czarjak Nov 24 #21

I haven't cut any of them off... they cut me off. hunter Nov 24 #27

I will no longer put effort into relationships with them. Not cutting them off. They can contact me. CousinIT Nov 24 #31

Oh your much better than me samplegirl Nov 24 #45

I don't associate with Nazis JoseBalow Nov 24 #32

I will not lose family or friends over politics. totodeinhere Nov 24 #33

Tolerating intolerance? Cirsium Nov 24 #35

"I cannot tolerate the intolerable", La Coliniere Nov 24 #37

Excellent Cirsium Nov 24 #44

None of my family members have ever abused me regardless of their politics. totodeinhere Nov 25 #62

right. they are just abusing trans, gay, poor,... NoRethugFriends Nov 25 #76

You are making quite an assumption there. totodeinhere Nov 25 #81

They are supporting abuse Cirsium Nov 25 #83

By voting for him they are saying a huge amount about trans or gay people. NoRethugFriends Nov 25 #85

I don't understand Cirsium Nov 25 #82

It's not over politics, it's over basic morality NameAlreadyTaken Nov 24 #40

EXACTLY!! niyad Nov 24 #54

I will not allow anyone into my life if they voted to render me rightless niyad Nov 24 #51

Probably most Trump voters didn't believe that their vote was a vote for Putin totodeinhere Nov 25 #63

I really don't care WHAT f'n excuse/reason/whim they use to defend voting niyad Nov 25 #64

Out of those who voted about 49% voted for him. totodeinhere Nov 25 #69

But that is NOT what you said in your previous post. You SAID, "half the niyad Nov 25 #74

I think you are nitpicking now. totodeinhere Nov 25 #80

Angry? Cirsium Nov 25 #88

THANK YOU for your excellent post, and for including that part of MLK's niyad Nov 25 #100

Words for our time Cirsium Nov 25 #102

Do keep trying. I truly am amused now. niyad Nov 25 #99

Half the country? Full Serrano Nov 25 #65

Roughly half of our country members who voted totodeinhere Nov 25 #70

Did I say we didn't lose? I did not. I said your math is flawed. Full Serrano Nov 25 #87

Welcome to DU! Enjoying your stay? GP6971 Nov 25 #75

I recommend a less condescending and confrontational tone. TomSlick Nov 25 #104

False Cirsium Nov 25 #84

So what? Cirsium Nov 25 #86

it's more than politics for some of us and those we love Ilikepurple Nov 24 #52

I don't allow people who condone child rape into my world John Shaft Nov 25 #93

The paradox of tolerance. haele Nov 25 #95

This message was self-deleted by its author Raine Nov 26 #107

they lost you. barbtries Nov 24 #34

Cry Wolf ! Nigrum Cattus Nov 24 #38

You are far better off without those people in your life. NameAlreadyTaken Nov 24 #39

I have including my samplegirl Nov 24 #43

I haven't been in proximity to a Trumpist in years. byronius Nov 25 #61

Never been happier that my MAGAt family live 2000 miles away Hassler Nov 24 #46

Me as well!!! wolfie001 Nov 24 #47

I won't let Trump take my family and friendships HereForTheParty Nov 24 #49

Is that possible? Cirsium Nov 25 #90

It has come up in passing HereForTheParty Nov 25 #94

Best wishes Cirsium Nov 25 #97

I have not lost any Meowmee Nov 24 #50

SENIOR Chinese neighbor brought us a pie the other day vapor2 Nov 24 #53

it takes a toll for sure. Groundhawg Nov 24 #55

Experience is a dear school but.. MrWowWow Nov 24 #57

Trump supporters are ANGRY EllieBC Nov 24 #58

On the one hand yes Meowmee Nov 24 #60

I do. It is tearing my extended family apart. Mom will not allow anyone who voted for VP Harris to come kelly1mm Nov 24 #59

Wow no samplegirl Nov 25 #66

It's been growing since President Obama days. This though is the first time a group of us were basically kelly1mm Nov 25 #78

The right has created mini civil wars in families. EllieBC Nov 25 #79

I wouldn't go. I couldn't put up with the abuse that would be spouted. haele Nov 25 #96

Years ago I cut ties with a friend moniss Nov 25 #72

This thread is sad. PennRalphie Nov 25 #73

Your Republican friends and family ibegurpard Nov 25 #91

It isn't "politics", it is morality. niyad Nov 25 #103

The one thing about family, egduj Nov 25 #77

Only in fairy tales. niyad Nov 25 #101

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