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ismnotwasm

(42,478 posts)
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 12:24 PM Nov 25

My daughter in Ohio is having a hard time with the results of this election [View all]

She’s deep in MAGA country. She got involved this year, GOTV for Sherrod Brown, introduced her daughters to political activism

As of right now, she can’t even look at her neighbors. She is desperately looking for another church (I am not religious, she picked that up on her own) using the word “deconstructing” which is an extremely painful process for religious folk. She wants nothing to do with anyone who voted for Trump. She is so hurt that friends and neighbors did not care about her rights or her daughter’s rights. That MAGA is so gleefully looking to see “deportations”. She will not try for another child because she has a history of miscarriages. She wants to move out of Ohio, but her whole life is there, and her kids are right at the age moving would be very upsetting.

Jesus she is in pain. Betrayed by people she thought were good, decent people, only to discover how much joy they get from the suffering of others. Like, the outsides look good, but the insides are full of rot and unresolved trauma they project only others. I don’t fuck with MAGA, but I’m also in Seattle where they are easy to avoid.

She didn’t understand the scope of how shitty these people are.

I just ache for her, and all the other blue dots. You guys are my hero’s right now. Thank you for everything.

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I'm sorry she has to go through this. I hope she can get out of MAGA country asap. It has to be hard on her. CTyankee Nov 25 #1
If she's looking for another church, point her towards the Unitarians or the Society of Friends. GoneOffShore Nov 25 #2
I will tell her! Thank you ismnotwasm Nov 25 #15
The UU church here is helping me deal Easterncedar Nov 25 #19
I lived in Ohio for a number of years in a Red town. multigraincracker Nov 25 #34
Congregational Churches Blue Jean Nov 25 #38
United Churches of Christ are also good yellowdogintexas Nov 26 #87
Alternatively a lot of Episcopal churches are good wryter2000 Nov 25 #59
LGBTQ intelpug Nov 26 #81
True. mwooldri Nov 26 #82
More inclusive intelpug Nov 26 #104
It's okay... Hope your blood sugars better. NT mwooldri Nov 26 #106
Everyone should care about wryter2000 Nov 26 #96
Seconded. Though I'll add ELCA. mwooldri Nov 26 #83
unitarians have good kid programs Amaryllis Nov 25 #69
I get that. Jilly_in_VA Nov 25 #3
Agree with your assessment of the Mennonites. erronis Nov 25 #23
Second the Episcopal Church KT2000 Nov 25 #46
Thirding that. ShazzieB Nov 26 #84
Many are.... Happy Hoosier Nov 25 #4
Sorry she has to deal with this and it is so heartbreaking to Tadpole Raisin Nov 25 #5
I am feeling like your daughter. I cried for days after the election. I still am so depressed Trueblue1968 Nov 25 #25
It's hard right now Johnny2X2X Nov 25 #6
She is in a terribe spot. It's unfortunate that she can't move away. brer cat Nov 25 #7
I'm in solidarity with your daughter in her "deconstruction". That's a term... keep_left Nov 25 #8
Where are the recounts in swing states? NFW did Shitler win all of them. OMGWTF Nov 25 #9
I feel for you and your daughter. Half the nation is in despair. ariadne0614 Nov 25 #10
I feel for her; especially finding out people she thought were "good" people were rotten to the core. Tell her to LoisB Nov 25 #11
There are blue pockets in Ohio Maeve Nov 25 #12
"Jesus she is in pain." As we are all too. I still can't watch the news or read a paper Botany Nov 25 #13
Athens OH is wonderful oberle Nov 25 #42
Here's a good person in Ohio, politically experienced, getting ready to resist 4dog Nov 25 #14
Cool--I will send this to her ismnotwasm Nov 25 #16
If she is in the Dayton area, Yellow Springs has been a bastion of liberalism for a long time yellowdogintexas Nov 26 #91
I highly recommend David Pepper. summer_in_TX Nov 26 #78
I'm sorry your daughter's going through that. yardwork Nov 25 #17
It's demoralizing to live in a red state/area and realize your community is more than ok with MAGA sh*t and Timeflyer Nov 25 #18
I feel for her. I have had my own internal strife over this. yellowdogintexas Nov 26 #88
I feel it. I was born and raised there. OnionPatch Nov 25 #20
Ohio Egypt Nov 25 #21
My 'burb of Cbus sure isn't Alliepoo Nov 25 #64
Re: churches Elessar Zappa Nov 25 #22
I feel her pain. NO..Just not saying that to appease anybody. I fully understand... chouchou Nov 25 #24
Would it be feasible to move to a big OH city or college town? spooky3 Nov 25 #26
Please wrap our loving virtual arms around her! cilla4progress Nov 25 #27
This message was self-deleted by its author marble falls Nov 25 #29
I feel for her. endless summer Nov 25 #28
Begging your pardon, but calimary Nov 25 #30
I understand your frustration. markodochartaigh Nov 25 #43
I'm gonna protest this a little. yardwork Nov 25 #50
Same here; I cant see how these highly educated people dont see thru the CRAP Callie1979 Nov 25 #52
Hopefully there's a Democratic group, OR an Indivisible group in your area. calimary Nov 25 #57
Funny thing is; the MAGA HATE this pick. They say she's too "pro union"! Callie1979 Nov 26 #86
It's not an excuse wryter2000 Nov 25 #60
Ann Frank luvallpeeps Nov 26 #107
The greater your involvement in GOTV KitFox Nov 25 #31
Get out of small southern Ohio towns. Look up some of the really great small towns home to liberal arts colleges. marble falls Nov 25 #32
It's hard to accept that most of the people around you Bettie Nov 25 #33
how I'm dealing pamdb Nov 25 #35
I would seek professional help n/t MichMan Nov 25 #36
I would recommend getting out of this state. Hope22 Nov 25 #40
I think we need to get away from the idea that everyone who voted for Trump is inherently evil. johnnyplankton Nov 25 #37
They are either too stupid to vote....or lying. Hope22 Nov 25 #44
We are too far in for the lame excuses. This isn't 2016 TheKentuckian Nov 25 #58
I really want to believe this. mountain grammy Nov 25 #67
I am sorry to hear this. Behind the Aegis Nov 25 #39
Thank you! ismnotwasm Nov 25 #61
I live just over the border in PA Orrex Nov 25 #41
VERY sorry to hear it. elleng Nov 25 #45
I lived with school age children mnhtnbb Nov 25 #47
I agree whole heartedly with one exception.. Hope22 Nov 25 #48
When she's ready, show her this: murielm99 Nov 25 #49
Can't blame her. It's hard not to be discouraged Thrill Nov 25 #51
My Sincerest Empathies... The GOP Is Wholly Fascist. Those That Support The Same Are Wholly Fascist As Well. MayReasonRule Nov 25 #53
Not all are bad people Ndp5 Nov 25 #54
The rot permeates all of them Bird Lady Nov 25 #66
2,597,701 voted for Democratic Senator Sherrod Brown OhioBack2Blue Nov 25 #55
I live in Northeast Ohio. samplegirl Nov 25 #56
I feel for you lonely bird Nov 25 #75
I am so sorry for her pain. Left OH 40 years ago and have watched it go red at a distance. Still hurts. Evolve Dammit Nov 25 #62
I live in Columbus with other smart, successful people. mwb970 Nov 25 #63
I know it doesn't help... Bird Lady Nov 25 #65
I live in a similar ruby red county. dwayneb Nov 25 #68
See moments of joy and gratitude. legallyblondeNYC Nov 25 #70
A pic from the future markodochartaigh Nov 25 #71
The kids will likely get over it. Move. JanMichael Nov 25 #72
Move now, tell her to go to illinois. Bluethroughu Nov 25 #73
Daughter disappointed in Ohio ms.pamela Nov 25 #74
She and me both!! InAbLuEsTaTe Nov 26 #76
Many Jews in 1930s Germany also had their whole life and family there OutNow Nov 26 #77
United Churches of Christ are terrific on civil rights and justice. summer_in_TX Nov 26 #79
What city are you in? I am in Ft Worth and my church is NOT leaving yellowdogintexas Nov 26 #90
Believe me, I feel her pain Blue_Tires Nov 26 #80
I attend St. Mattress... ECL213 Nov 26 #85
I feel for her... 2naSalit Nov 26 #89
heartbreaking sarchasm Nov 26 #92
Don't Give Up sarchasm Nov 26 #93
I know exactly how your daughter feels... Trueblue Texan Nov 26 #94
The Republicons who "love teh babies" Mr. Mustard 2023 Nov 26 #95
In my experience, Unitarian Universalist Churches have been the most accepting of Buttoneer Nov 26 #97
Thank you everyone for your responses! ismnotwasm Nov 26 #98
I'm from Ohio liberalhistorian Nov 26 #99
It will be hard to leave but potentially deadly if they stay. She comes from resilient stock, and Maru Kitteh Nov 26 #100
I have a Gay Uncle in Akron. ProudMNDemocrat Nov 26 #101
gentle hug to you and your daughter. mwmisses4289 Nov 26 #102
If your daughter is looking for a more accepting religion, try Unitarian Universalism (link inside) Ranting Randy Nov 26 #103
you might not see this b/c the thread is pretty long orleans Nov 26 #105
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