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CountAllVotes

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112. I find nothing good about it
Thu Nov 28, 2024, 11:40 PM
Nov 28

After Dad died, that was THE END.

He was the glue the held the dysfunctional family somewhat in place.

I'll never get over it, never.

I will be glad when the "holidays" are over.

He was my Santa Claus and everything else of that nature that existed in my life.

Done and gone, all of it now.

I had some dinner and cleaned my teeth. I'm done for the night I do believe.



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When I was a kid i loved ii XanaDUer2 Nov 24 #1
I'm just doing microwave and that's only if I'm in the mood. cstanleytech Nov 24 #2
I've actually micro waved lean cuisine turkey medallions XanaDUer2 Nov 24 #5
Ya, same here though as time went by I had to do the cooking for all of us...now? It's just me. cstanleytech Nov 24 #11
i don't think i'd want to go to a restaurant either orleans Nov 25 #63
Nope 😔 I'll probably just nibble on something and maybe try and read a book but that's about it. cstanleytech Nov 25 #70
i'm sorry. it sounds very lonely and sad. orleans Nov 25 #71
Me. I don't do holidays any more, Ocelot II Nov 24 #3
Sounds like me except no more pets currently I'm hoping to get something eventually though if things work out. cstanleytech Nov 24 #4
I'm hosting 14. Love Thanksgiving! Scrivener7 Nov 24 #6
I always say I won't do it but my grandkids love Thanksgiving and I end up doing it every year. ratchiweenie Nov 25 #53
I like the concept. And one very specific reason I like Thanksgiving is it gives me a reason to carry on traditions Scrivener7 Nov 25 #55
Yes, I love creating traditions!! ratchiweenie Nov 28 #95
I always peachpit24 Nov 24 #7
How to tell us you are a woman without saying you are a woman . . Maru Kitteh Nov 24 #29
Not necessarily Retrograde Nov 28 #100
we don't usually celebrate it mike_c Nov 24 #8
Harvest Festivals predate the USA EX500rider Nov 24 #37
My wife and I don't even celebrate our birthdays or anniversary. Ping Tung Nov 24 #9
Yea I'm vegan so "turkey day" doesn't me shit to me. CousinIT Nov 24 #14
I regard turkey as in the same flavor range as styrofoam. Ping Tung Nov 24 #15
... CousinIT Nov 24 #20
I know Italian Americans who have lasagna instead of turkey. wnylib Nov 25 #42
Pumpkin empanadas are basically pumpkin LeftInTX Nov 25 #61
Interesting. She was from a middle class family in Guadalajara, a city wnylib Nov 25 #75
According to someone on Reddit, pumpkin is LeftInTX Nov 25 #89
My mother came from England, her mother from Ireland. Ping Tung Nov 25 #68
I don't like ritual or tradition. nocoincidences Nov 24 #10
Lol... I Empathize... I Present Me And My Honey's Favorite Christmas Film... MayReasonRule Nov 24 #18
OK, Scrooge. wnylib Nov 25 #43
NO MERRYS!!!!!!!! nocoincidences Nov 25 #50
May you have a grumpy Bah Humbug. wnylib Nov 25 #72
Of course I will. nocoincidences Nov 25 #74
Celebrating! gonna need a diferent word for that in this case. Prairie_Seagull Nov 24 #12
I'm not. I am taking time off work and doing stuff around the house. CousinIT Nov 24 #13
I Declared Every Day Friday And Every Day Thanksgiving And Every Day My Birthday Twenty Years Ago... MayReasonRule Nov 24 #16
I'm retired so I have 6 Saturday's and 1 Sunday...every week..nt mitch96 Nov 24 #24
Me. Since moving to the Southern Hemisphere it doesn't really make sense to have a harvest festival in late Spring. meadowlander Nov 24 #17
You're not alone. Baitball Blogger Nov 24 #19
We're not really celebrating Thanksgiving PJMcK Nov 24 #21
I'm hosting 24+ people Sympthsical Nov 24 #22
24! Now that's impressive! moonscape Nov 24 #39
I did 27 one year, in a very small house Retrograde Nov 28 #102
I feel you Sympthsical Nov 29 #115
Not me LogDog75 Nov 24 #23
nope...nt mitch96 Nov 24 #25
Me. I haven't done so for many years. LoisB Nov 24 #26
Too much "Bah humbug!" Waste no excuse to celebrate this beautiful thing we have called life! Doodley Nov 24 #27
Hear, hear! EX500rider Nov 24 #38
My mom died on Thanksgiving. That was the end of it for me. Haven't been Maru Kitteh Nov 24 #28
So sorry that happened Alice Kramden Nov 25 #87
My father was on the 23rd of Nov. CountAllVotes Nov 28 #103
I understand how much it hurts. I wish it would stop hurting so much, but it never does. Maru Kitteh Nov 28 #109
I find nothing good about it CountAllVotes Nov 28 #112
Sorry to be a Debbie Upper OP but I am single, retired, no kids, 3 sisters either passed or disengaged I will celebrate. wcmagumba Nov 24 #30
Me! And it's a relief. Marigold Nov 24 #31
I've always thought that Thanksgiving is too late in the year wnylib Nov 25 #44
Low key Thanksgiving here i guess. I will celebrate bluestarone Nov 24 #32
Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 24 #33
Doesn't make a bit of difference to me. peacebuzzard Nov 24 #34
We're celebrating... StarryNite Nov 24 #35
It's this week already? DFW Nov 24 #36
Memories... DET Nov 25 #47
The few of my French friends who know enough English to handle that column still love it. DFW Nov 25 #48
Loved Art Buchwald - his column along with .... electric_blue68 Nov 25 #86
I have to work late the night before. Eko Nov 25 #40
Ya, retail sucks as my brother was in it for decades and my sister in-law is still in it but it sucks. cstanleytech Nov 26 #90
My wife and i are going to have a lovely turkey dinner with corn pudding and pumpkin pie onenote Nov 25 #41
Good to have something to look forward to, elleng Nov 25 #77
We will be Meowmee Nov 25 #45
Thanksgiving out of the country ... SomewhereInTheMiddle Nov 25 #46
I'll be doing Chinese after volunteer food basket deliveries. dhol82 Nov 25 #82
I'll be having my Greg_In_SF Nov 25 #49
I'm not celebrating, I'm just going to be eating! Spend some time with family, eat good stuff, sleep it off. mucholderthandirt Nov 25 #51
Who really celebrates it, anyway. It's an excuse to have dinner with some family. But I'd rather have the turkey ... marble falls Nov 25 #52
Celebrating football games.... MiHale Nov 25 #54
Canadians. Also, everybody else not in the United States outside of mahatmakanejeeves Nov 25 #56
I'm doing volunteer food basket delivery. dhol82 Nov 25 #57
Duck.for us Ontheboundry Nov 25 #58
Well me, for one. Batshit_Bruin_CA Nov 25 #59
We did a fakesgiving for family who couldnt be with us on thursday getagrip_already Nov 25 #60
Nope. Definitely celebrating Thanksgiving with my chosen family. It's my favority holiday! beaglelover Nov 25 #62
Mine too! Dulcinea Nov 25 #66
My mother died this year Ex Lurker Nov 25 #64
Brother here in January and my other one always goes out west for a vacation at this time of year for a month😔 cstanleytech Nov 25 #85
Going to be on Amtrak StarlightGold Nov 25 #65
Making the trip to the Mother-in-Laws Happy Hoosier Nov 25 #67
I am, I love the holidays! Elessar Zappa Nov 25 #69
I'm not. It's just me and my cat now. TommieMommy Nov 25 #73
I'll be gathering with a few family members to have Thanksgiving. Xavier Breath Nov 25 #76
After my Mom and Dad passed on, and my sister's daughter wanted to continue the yearly tradition, I told my SWBTATTReg Nov 25 #78
I am 'celebrating' it alone, as has happened in the past few years.... Jack Valentino Nov 25 #79
Same orangecrush Nov 25 #80
Not us either. Instead, we honor the Indigenous people of Turtle Island (now America) on National Day of Mourning OhioBack2Blue Nov 25 #81
I never do Blasphemer Nov 25 #83
Why would I let trump ruin my thanksgiving? Groundhawg Nov 25 #84
we don't do anything fancy -- but a pile of stuffing and cranberry sauce just fit the weather this time of year. cadoman Nov 25 #88
Why would I ever not celebrate it? Blue_Tires Nov 26 #91
Where did I say you should stop⁉️ cstanleytech Nov 26 #93
I'm not even celebrating Christmas arthritisR_US Nov 26 #92
I sadly don't have the energy to do it 😞 cstanleytech Nov 26 #94
Lit the smoker ForgedCrank Nov 28 #96
Yup, when they are gone they are gone so enjoy having them with you while you can. cstanleytech Nov 28 #97
We were trying to celebrate it, then the power went out because of the heavy snow. Vinca Nov 28 #98
I guess I'm not. Mike 03 Nov 28 #99
My husband ordered JustAnotherGen Nov 28 #101
You have my deepest sympathies as I know the feeling and it $##%ing sucks. cstanleytech Nov 28 #107
Thank you JustAnotherGen Nov 28 #108
We celebrate on Saturday Retrograde Nov 28 #104
I went with a peanut butter and jelly sandwich with a cold can of coke zero. cstanleytech Nov 28 #111
My family is all over the map. We move holidays instead of holidays moving us. usonian Nov 28 #105
I usually drive out of town to be with friends jmbar2 Nov 28 #106
I was in Paris for work all day DFW Nov 28 #110
Not a thing in our household. I've studied Native Americans enough RedWhiteBlueIsRacist Nov 28 #113
I had plans, but I was snowed in. Rhiannon12866 Nov 29 #114
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