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orleans

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19. cause and effect - yes, i get that.

Fri Dec 27, 2024, 12:43 PM

Dec 27

when my mom would say "everything happens for a reason" there was a hint at some universal, cosmic play at work. and there was always an implication that whatever she was commenting on was, perhaps, a good thing in the long run.

(as an example: a broken heart might lead me to finding someone else who was better for me or give me a bit of caution before plunging full steam into another relationship, or to learn to be stronger, or more independent--a good thing in the long run)

btw-- she NEVER said that in reference to my friend that was killed. my mom adored her; there was never a rhyme or reason to explain her murder or ever ever attempt to justify it (something like that can never be justified)--there were no words of comfort or solace for my mother or myself on that front.

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in an attempt to soothe my soul (when i was a teenager) my mother used to say [View all] orleans Dec 26 OP

Definitely don't delete. Enjoyed reading and get it. Silent Type Dec 26 #1

100% ZDU Dec 29 #32

'It's always darkest before the dawn.' Dad elleng Dec 26 #2

I used to hear the same things from mother SheltieLover Dec 26 #3

question: in the fullness of your adult experience of life, (and lessons) stopdiggin Dec 26 #4

oh yes, of course i understand what she was trying to say orleans Dec 27 #5

and, as I said - you had EVERY right in the world .... stopdiggin Dec 27 #12

Oh my dear orleans . . . CaliforniaPeggy Dec 27 #6

Sometimes for no understandable reason StarryNite Dec 27 #7

yes. nt orleans Dec 27 #8

So many good reminders here. Hope22 Dec 27 #9

thank you for your lovely reply nt orleans Dec 27 #11

Your despair is part of a process nuxvomica Dec 27 #10

Every year in December I re-read a book by Terry Pratchett called Hogfather... Hekate Dec 27 #13

that's beautiful and very profound, hekate. thank you for that. nt orleans Dec 27 #18

You are most welcome. May the new year be gentle on you Hekate Monday #44

just put Hogfather on hold at library. there is a DVD of it as well. PUt it on hold too. Amaryllis Dec 27 #21

I also watch the movie once a year... Hekate Dec 28 #22

Never got into Discworld. Do you like it? Amaryllis Dec 29 #23

Very much, or I wouldn't recommend it. It took me awhile to "get" Pratchett back in the '90s... Hekate Dec 29 #24

Have you read Good Omens, Neil Gaiman? Amaryllis Dec 29 #25

Oh yes. I read it because Terry Pratchett was co-author, and after that I read more of Gaiman Hekate Dec 29 #28

Did you see the TV series they made of it? Cant remember if it was NEtflix.... Amaryllis Monday #34

It was on Amazon Prime, so I joined for a month (free) and binge-watched it twice through Hekate Monday #36

I liked it a lot. there is always the thing where the character look different than how you imagined, but it was very Amaryllis Monday #39

The first was just called Good Omens when it came out in 2018 or 2019. Now it's called ... Hekate Monday #42

Thank you for posting this reminder of how good an observer of humans Sir Terry was. GoneOffShore Monday #37

You are welcome Hekate Monday #43

"everything happens for a reason"--I think that's horseshit. raccoon Dec 27 #14

I dunno. no_hypocrisy Dec 27 #15

There is always a chain of events which amount to a "cause" of WHY something happened, but... Martin Eden Dec 27 #16

I applaud and agree wholeheartedly. vanlassie Dec 29 #27

God's will, everything happens for a reason, karma is a bitch, etc. ThreeNoSeep Dec 27 #17

cause and effect - yes, i get that. orleans Dec 27 #19

Thank you for starting this discussion. yellow dahlia Dec 27 #20

Agree Meowmee Dec 29 #26

"When one door closes another door opens mahina Dec 29 #29

Humans need a reboot. Take care. Joinfortmill Dec 29 #30

There IS a reason for a happening and sometimes, 'what goes around... Septua Dec 29 #31

Few things make me angrier that the sanctimonious empty bullshit of that "everything... 3catwoman3 Monday #33

It's what i needed right now. DiverDave Monday #35

serendipity i guess. please take care. nt orleans Monday #38

You are very fortunate to have had a good Mom like her. Your Mom. Your friend Clouds Passing Monday #40

No reasons, no meaning ismnotwasm Monday #41