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Upthevibe

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23. BumRushDaShow..........

Sat Nov 30, 2024, 05:16 PM

Nov 30

I had my only child when I had just turned 18 years old. It was with my childhood sweetheart and later my husband (now my ex-husband).

My son had a number of issues: ADHD, a learning disability (similar to Dyslexia), and later was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. When he was a toddler there were many, many nights when he would only sleep about three hours.

My husband and I separated when he was around 2 1/2. Throughout his childhood I was sometimes working three jobs to pay for his tutoring, his therapy, and his other special needs. It was a NIGHTMARE.

During my 20's I had two abortions - the pill didn't work for me and and IUD that had been inserted fractured and I ended up in an emergency room. Sooooooooooo at 28 y.o. I got my tubes tied. I had to go to three different doctors until I finally found someone (this was in the 80's) who would do it.

It's one of the best decisions I ever made. I can't imagine trying to raise another child in addition to the one I had.

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Women Are Getting Sterilized After Donald Trump's Victory: 'Only Option' [View all] BumRushDaShow Nov 30 OP

I can't blame them. CousinIT Nov 30 #1

Time for guys to step up. multigraincracker Nov 30 #2

Except that they're also going after IVF. nt BWdem4life Nov 30 #9

Yes, and women can't afford to count on men tor something this vitally important. ShazzieB Nov 30 #18

Except that it won't be a solution in all situations. liberalla Nov 30 #21

One reason I got sterilized was because multigraincracker Dec 1 #55

I read recently that vasectomies were up 1200%. travelingthrulife Dec 1 #50

Unfortunately this option removes all choices Marthe48 Nov 30 #3

I have that book and BlueSky3 Nov 30 #30

The birth rate under Trump will plunge bucolic_frolic Nov 30 #4

Yup, the EXACT OPPOSITE of what the forced-birthers want..... AZ8theist Nov 30 #19

Even if these women weren't poor BlueSky3 Nov 30 #31

I never did understand how they were going to get their desired white babies out travelingthrulife Dec 1 #53

Reich Wing INCELS are salivating over that possibility...... AZ8theist Dec 1 #58

Not to mention the costs, the fear of gun murders Marthe48 Nov 30 #32

Source: Newsweek FredGarvin Nov 30 #5

The other choice includes risks they may not be willing to take. paleotn Nov 30 #14

They interviewed, what, five women? And that makes this ... reACTIONary Nov 30 #42

Troll, ignorant, or both? raising2moredems Nov 30 #43

claiming asylum in a social democratic country is the first option -- but sterilization is a rational alternative cadoman Dec 1 #48

You must be male to not understand this problem. travelingthrulife Dec 1 #51

Demographically speaking, this news is terrible for the future of the US. Lonestarblue Nov 30 #6

that woman in TX should feel stigmatized IzzaNuDay Nov 30 #7

Must be a feature, not a bug... more Republican babies. nt BWdem4life Nov 30 #10

You're 100% those kids will turn out exactly like their parents? paleotn Nov 30 #17

I agree.. raising2moredems Nov 30 #44

The smart people not breeding is how the movie Idiocracy started NickB79 Nov 30 #26

More Republican children doesn't necessarily mean more potential Presidential candidates. Aristus Nov 30 #40

this is why maintaining the DoE is so critical cadoman Dec 1 #54

Isn't that a bit radical? Having them tied is reversible. malthaussen Nov 30 #8

Absolutely, it is a radical choice that forecloses on future conception. harumph Nov 30 #11

While still extremely reliable, Ursus Arctos Nov 30 #15

Also, IUD will csuse ectopic pregnancy BonnieJW Nov 30 #33

Thank you for that Ursus Arctos Nov 30 #38

Is Rebl2 Nov 30 #25

Familial example: coffeenap Dec 1 #49

I tried to have it done in my twenties Demobrat Nov 30 #12

I had the same Ursus Arctos Nov 30 #16

Had a friend Rebl2 Nov 30 #27

I wanted a tubal Karma13612 Dec 1 #59

I would be curious to know Demobrat Dec 1 #60

I agree.👍 eom Karma13612 Dec 1 #61

Ensure their reproductive rights?? DFW Nov 30 #13

Poorly worded, but I took it to mean Demobrat Nov 30 #28

28 and 39 years old. Mature women. I found some interesting information about the options chowder66 Nov 30 #20

Can't blame them is right. The Dark Ages are back. Evolve Dammit Nov 30 #22

BumRushDaShow.......... Upthevibe Nov 30 #23

Sorry to hear about your travails BumRushDaShow Nov 30 #24

I was always afraid of IUDs. Demobrat Nov 30 #29

Well, they can also move to another state that protects women's health and parental rights FakeNoose Nov 30 #34

For now they can move.. within a year, i suspect it will be mostly banned everywhere. Nt lostnfound Nov 30 #35

SCOTUS already ruled that it's up to each state to decide for ourselves FakeNoose Nov 30 #37

They aren't done... Ursus Arctos Nov 30 #39

You really think it ends there? ForgoTheConsequence Dec 1 #62

If you think the christofascists don't plan to take this shit nationally travelingthrulife Dec 1 #52

If sterilization rates do go up the Rethugs will find a way to make it either an avebury Nov 30 #36

Doesn't make sense in a blue state madville Nov 30 #41

'Nothing will be done to limit options' in blue states Unwind Your Mind Dec 1 #45

Have you ever traveled to eastern Washington? travelingthrulife Dec 1 #56

Are you female? I only ask because as an older female TBF Dec 1 #57

I wish I lived in your world. ForgoTheConsequence Dec 1 #63

It does not resolve the people who voted Trump in office living in our heads rent free. The Grand Illuminist Dec 1 #46

Someone that age very close to me coffeenap Dec 1 #47