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HeartsCanHope

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54. I am sorry about everything you and your husband are going through.

Sat Sep 21, 2024, 12:35 AM

Sep 21

The most important thing right now is taking care of your husband and yourself. You, my dear, are not the problem. Your mother, brother, and sister are. You did nothing wrong. Your family members are not capable of giving you the love you deserve. Is there a counselor or psychologist/psychiatrist you can talk with? You need support right now. There are also cancer support groups in many communities. Talking to survivors and their families could help. I'll be thinking of you both. Take care and update us on how you are doing.

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I am tired. took Rich back to the hospital as he was vomiting and urinating blood on Wednesday. They said he would have [View all] debm55 Sep 20 OP

Very sorry, deb. elleng Sep 20 #1

I'm sorry XanaDUer2 Sep 20 #2

I posted a message on your thread. debm55 Sep 20 #6

(HUGS) XanaDUer2 Sep 20 #40

{{{Deb}}}I'm so sorry you and Rich are going through this. 50 Shades Of Blue Sep 20 #3

They sound cold. Sanity Claws Sep 20 #4

Sometimes "family" is not all that ... TBF Sep 20 #5

I'm sorry you're going through these problems, Deb! Different Drummer Sep 20 #7

So sorry for you & hubby, Deb SheltieLover Sep 20 #8

I am so sorry, Debm. sheshe2 Sep 20 #9

I am so sorry you're going through this. TommieMommy Sep 20 #10

Sending you both so much love and support FirstLight Sep 20 #11

Damn!!! All you can do is hang in there, baby !!!! Karadeniz Sep 20 #12

Admitting abuse takes tremendous courage; it is NOT your fault. The abusers are the broken Ziggysmom Sep 20 #13

I'm so sorry to hear this, Deb Diamond_Dog Sep 20 #14

I'm am so sorry Katcat Sep 20 #15

You didn't do anything. They are showing who they are and it is deplorable. I am sorry and hope Rich will be OK. ED Evolve Dammit Sep 20 #16

ditch them Skittles Sep 20 #17

You didn't do anything wrong. bluescribbler Sep 20 #18

You have to understand and allow yourself to take in the fact that THEY are wrong. NOT you. onecaliberal Sep 20 #19

the sooner you stop letting them affect you Kali Sep 20 #20

Deb, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. COL Mustard Sep 20 #21

You've given them too many breaks. Time to write them off. lpbk2713 Sep 20 #22

You did nothing wrong. Their reactions are about them. Focus on you and Rich and being happy. c-rational Sep 20 #23

Sorry what you are going through, and while this may sound bad, f**k em JohnSJ Sep 20 #24

Wish you peace. marlboroman369 Sep 20 #25

I am so sorry, Deb AmBlue Sep 20 #26

I am so sorry, Deb Lefta Dissenter Sep 20 #27

❤️ underpants Sep 20 #28

Aw deb.... Clouds Passing Sep 20 #29

Im so sorry Lilithschyld Sep 20 #30

♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ a kennedy Sep 20 #31

You are one the greatest people ever at DU. I enjoy your threads GreenWave Sep 20 #32

So sorry for your heartache, Deb. FalloutShelter Sep 20 #33

I am so sorry to hear of this. It is time to cut anything that interferes with your life out. marble falls Sep 20 #34

This is awful. MiKenMi33 Sep 20 #35

So sorry I know what you are going through. Me doc03 Sep 20 #36

That job - CAREGIVER - one of the toughest jobs in the world! MyOwnPeace Sep 20 #37

So sorry for what your husband is going through Nululu Sep 20 #38

Take care of yourself at this difficult time. waterwatcher123 Sep 20 #39

I hope the side effects don't last long. I would venture to say that you did nothing wrong. Hang in there. LoisB Sep 20 #41

Cure almost as bad as the disease. malthaussen Sep 20 #42

I'm so sorry! *hugs* Maybe they aren't worth your time and love? GPV Sep 20 #43

Sending hugs and healing thoughts to you and your dear hubby. MLAA Sep 20 #44

Im so sorry, kozar Sep 20 #45

Sending you warm hugs, Deb Wicked Blue Sep 20 #46

I'm so sorry debm55 iemanja Sep 20 #47

So sorry Americanme Sep 20 #48

You Did Nothing Wrong ProfessorGAC Sep 20 #49

Families can be so cruel BittyJenkins Sep 20 #50

I am sorry you have to go through this. You can't change selfish people. Just hold on to those you love a bit closer. Doodley Sep 20 #51

I am so sorry you are suffering abuse like this from your own family CousinIT Sep 20 #52

Double tragic when folks that should be backing you fail and add more problems. All my best hugs to You!!! IA8IT Sep 20 #53

I am sorry about everything you and your husband are going through. HeartsCanHope Sep 21 #54

I am sorry, I would have replied earlier. I was too embarrassed to answer. I feel better in the day but in the evening I debm55 Sep 21 #58

Love you, too, Deb. HeartsCanHope Sep 21 #59

What did you do wrong? dickthegrouch Sep 21 #55

This is not on you. This is on them! OldBaldy1701E Sep 21 #56

WE ARE YOUR FAMILY!!!! 💕💖 Niagara Sep 21 #57

You did nothing XanaDUer2 Sep 23 #60

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