His father was mid to high up in the Chinese trade and diplomacy arms of the Chinese government. The Tamils had just ben over-run in Sri Lanka. People were desperate. There was a big Tamil demonstration on Parliament Hill, 10 blocks away. I was over at my brother's and the Chinese guy, smart and doing his economics thesis, was pacing and shaking. He was really scared at what a demonstration would mean and he said so. No concept of there being some respect in demonstrators for government and the rule of law that was unwritten. Democracy in action. Democracy respected. Democracy believed in. He could not process it. And the Tamils' only beef with Ottawa was that they wanted the international community to demand the health and welfare of Tamils in Sri Lanka.
I'm not saying they lagged behind. Just that they seem to have a different trajectory. And now they are culturally genociding more than one group of people. Maybe they need a few generations of rampant civil society to build some trust in their fellow personkind.