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Warren DeMontague

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16. I agree.

Reply to chrisa (Reply #13)

Thu Jan 22, 2015, 09:56 PM

Jan 2015

But the same logic applies to bitter & lonely women who complain endlessly that men are programmed by the male gaze objectifico-porno-phallic industrial complex to only want women who are thin and "hawt" grumble grumble grumble

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The Friendzone [View all] Veilex Jan 2015 OP

If a person, male or female, has romantic feelings or desires Seeking Serenity Jan 2015 #1

"he should not be chastised or berated if he doesn't want to just be Sally's friend" Veilex Jan 2015 #2

I agree. Seeking Serenity Jan 2015 #3

This very same dynamic happens when the gender roles are reversed Major Nikon Jan 2015 #6

The hypocrisy in some quarters is astounding, like the people who picked over dating websites for Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #12

I think the answer really depends on how the person who has the unrequited feelings reacts mythology Jan 2015 #4

"They aren't rejecting you as a person, they are saying that they don't want to date you." Veilex Jan 2015 #5

It also depends on how the other person reacts Major Nikon Jan 2015 #7

Post removed Post removed Jan 2015 #10

The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #20

This is something that has recently resurfaced in my life. kjones Jan 2015 #8

Anyway, guess my point is kjones Jan 2015 #9

It's not a zone, it's simply not being interested in a romantic relationship. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #11

Imo, it's whiny and entitled. chrisa Jan 2015 #13

"Why waste time on someone who will not want to have a relationship with you" - Indeed. Veilex Jan 2015 #15

I think in terms of social networks, bigger is better. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #19

I agree. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #16

BITTER, LONELY WOMEN Bonobo Jan 2015 #17

Dupe chrisa Jan 2015 #13

A guy on the losing end of "commitment mismatch" is a stalker lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #18

That's why the only way to win is to be like Captain Kirk. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #21