I'm old...and not well. Worried about my wife's finances after I'm gone. She has early dementia....

[Lulu KC]

23. I'd agree that it's always good to check the local bar association site about an attorney

but I will stick to my guns that someone who is recommended by someone you know who knows you leads to a deeper connection. But if you don't have a person like that, the bar association list can certainly help. We've had to go just that route with a different kind of legal case and the person was competent but a little warmth goes a long way if you're looking at end-of-life issues, in my experience.
To each their own.