I've had my problems with this group in the past, but I hope it sticks around.

[seabeyond]

12. interesting points.

i dont really care about bitch and douchebag, but i know those that do and i get their point. language matters. i know it effects the way we think. conditions us. that is important to at least realize.

i have an evolving thought on taking ownership of a word. blacks started doing it with nigga. we are told that they are allowed to use the word. it is changing the meaning and harshness of the word, or something.

we do it with bitch. slut. ho. my niece and her friends were calling other females ho. she was telling me she called her teacher this in a friendly, welcome into our young group, world. i asked, you know what you are calling her, right?

slut walks. we are suppose to all call ourselves sluts in order to take back the word.

what the black community is finding, is taking back the word, is not really taking it back and accomplishing shit. it is beyond my ability to explain.

calling myself a slut or a ho is not going to empower me. it validates the male misogyny.

until someone much smarter is able to explain it, i cannot go further in this, but i do not believe that we can take ownership of these words and defuse the hate or discrimination that comes in these words. personally, i think we feed it. ooops, misstep.

they are not just mere words. words matter

i, too, have never been a part of any group and i am blindly trying to figure this shit out. in the last decade there seems to be such a backlash against women that is effecting every part of our lives. i was telling hubby last night, and in affecting all women, it is affecting our men and boys too, you can be sure. this is a human issue. not a woman issue. imo.

but, if people disagree with you, or are even angry, dont walk away. learn, grow, think, evolve and even disagree back. you are allowed. as am i. and everyone here.