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mr_lebowski

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19. Well, the good news is ... $400 in that amount of time ... that's not that much $ ...
Wed Nov 18, 2020, 10:34 PM
Nov 2020

I could've done up $400 worth in 3 days easy back in my day.

So ... assuming she doesn't have some other source (like a SO who's using with her and buys most of the time, or some source of cash money you're not aware of) then she's not doing THAT much of whatever it is.

What I'd do is try to figure out the pattern of the withdrawals such that you know how long $80 'worth' would last. So if she takes our $40 every 3 days, 80 should last 6 days, for example.

Then come up with something you can 'sell' as being urgent and send a text saying that you need to talk on the phone right away ... either the 5th night or the morning of the 6th day. See if she doesn't get back you (or puts you off via text) until a few hours after she makes a withdrawal. Make sure she didn't make an early withdrawal first though of course. If she has already, then wait til next time to send the text.

See what I'm saying? Next step is to figure out if she's always unreachable right before taking out money and then is cool with talking and happy right after.

Again, doesn't HAVE to be opioids ... but if you establish what I'm describing here as a definite pattern ... I would bet money that it's drugs of some kind.

Sorry about all this People do get off of them though, and stay off them. I know many who have

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Ask bank to set account to deny overdraws lettucebe Nov 2020 #1
I don't know about opioids. irisblue Nov 2020 #2
It sounds like a potential alcohol problem. I know that fentanyl is very expensive. Before I catbyte Nov 2020 #3
Depends on what you're doing. BlueTsunami2018 Nov 2020 #4
There's no way to tie a specific amount of money to a particular drug ... mr_lebowski Nov 2020 #5
Thank you for your insight! She will often go days without answering my texts or calls. RamblingRose Nov 2020 #7
No problem. Feel free to direct message me if you want to take it offline. mr_lebowski Nov 2020 #11
EXACTLY! When she returns my calls she seems happy & talkative. I brush it aside & think all is well RamblingRose Nov 2020 #13
Match your phone records with your bank records ... mr_lebowski Nov 2020 #15
YOU NAILED IT! She made an $80 withrdrawal today. I called her but she didn't answer her phone. RamblingRose Nov 2020 #18
Well, the good news is ... $400 in that amount of time ... that's not that much $ ... mr_lebowski Nov 2020 #19
This message was self-deleted by its author RamblingRose Dec 2020 #20
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she got addicted to nicotine by vaping. A counselor once told me nicotine is a gateway drug RamblingRose Nov 2020 #6
Tell her if she's going to vape she should buy a mod and juice to refill it separately. mr_lebowski Nov 2020 #12
Package store as in liquor store? Midnightwalk Nov 2020 #8
That is exactly what my son used to do Freddie Nov 2020 #9
Yup. Hope Scholarship at UGA. I looked it up & the ATM is at the convenience store. RamblingRose Nov 2020 #10
After a time you're just using to feel normal, you don't get high anymore ... mr_lebowski Nov 2020 #14
This site gives info for place, type, etc RockCreek Nov 2020 #16
Wow. It's amazing what you can find on the internet. RamblingRose Nov 2020 #17
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