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femmedem

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2. The trauma of losing you would accelerate your husband's cognitive issues.

Mon Nov 11, 2024, 07:18 AM

Nov 11

And thinking that the people who love you would be better off without you is a symptom of depression, not reality. I say this as someone who lost a partner to suicide. He, too, thought everyone would be better off without him--his parents, siblings, me--but we all barely survived the grief and horror.

Please, please see a doctor about your chest pain. And I don't pop into this forum much, so I don't know if you've seen anyone about your depression but I hope you will, even if it feels hopeless. I've known you via your posts here for years, and I know you deserve to feel so much better than you do.

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I had a real chest pain yesterday, not just a twinge. [View all] OldBaldy1701E Nov 11 OP

Take care of yourself, and don't judge yourself harshly. We are all suffering. Walleye Nov 11 #1

Thanks. OldBaldy1701E Nov 11 #5

The trauma of losing you would accelerate your husband's cognitive issues. femmedem Nov 11 #2

I have tried in the past. OldBaldy1701E Nov 11 #6

For a time I got really good at ignoring medical debt. hunter Nov 11 #11

Funny... OldBaldy1701E Nov 11 #16

I'm blessed with family and friends. hunter Nov 11 #17

Trust me.. he will not be "better off" without you mountain grammy Nov 11 #3

I feel the jury is still out on that. OldBaldy1701E Nov 11 #7

Just please, take care of yourself.. all the best to you. mountain grammy Nov 11 #10

Coming from someone like me XanaDUer2 Nov 11 #4

I know that this is also part of my main issue. OldBaldy1701E Nov 11 #8

I'm having another terrible day XanaDUer2 Nov 11 #9

I'd be frustrated knowing I couldn't fix anything if I was gone. hunter Nov 11 #12

I paid 32k to fix my jaw TMJ XanaDUer2 Nov 11 #13

If you can't pay it, don't. hunter Nov 11 #14

So did I. OldBaldy1701E Nov 11 #15