Baby Boomers

southernyankeebelle

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2. I'm a boomer. I am having medical issues and my husband is 7 yr younger and he does to. My son

Thu Dec 8, 2011, 07:43 PM

Dec 2011

lives next door to us. I worry about him and his wife and children. We are finding that we have to help them financially. What money we had saved we always seem to have to touch it for them. I can't tell you the thousands of dollars I have loaned and never got back. I feel when it is my time and I have to meet my maker I can't even die in peace. I worry about my husband and will my son and his wife be able to help him. He takes thinks very hard. He doesn't show it but medical it works on him. No matter how much you are aware time is moving I just keep praying to god help me live another day so I can help my family and especially my grandchild.

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Issues for Boomers: the illness or death of our parents [View all] OKNancy Dec 2011 OP

I'l bet quite a few boomers are caring for children canoeist52 Dec 2011 #1

I'm a boomer. I am having medical issues and my husband is 7 yr younger and he does to. My son southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #2

Sorry you're in that medical situation. It's hard for you to have all that responsibility and worry. canoeist52 Dec 2011 #3

canoeist52 southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #4

I too have an adult child living with me OKNancy Dec 2011 #5

OK Nancy thank your lucky stars your daughter doesn't have children yet. Grandkids southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #6

(((Hug))) Howler Dec 2011 #13

Your a sweety Howler thanks we all need hugs. I know am bitching alot but I guess I southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #16

My heart to Southernyankeebelle. Howler Dec 2011 #20

i'd like to think i'm prepared shanti Dec 2011 #7

This message was self-deleted by its author OKNancy Dec 2011 #8

I really messed up my last post OKNancy Dec 2011 #9

WOW!!! Howler Dec 2011 #14

thanks, she's pretty awesome! shanti Dec 2011 #23

I'm glad things seem to be going well for you and your mother, and I hope she lives a very long time whathehell Jan 2012 #29

so sorry for your loss shanti Jan 2012 #32

Thank you, Shanti whathehell Jan 2012 #34

I've got lots to say here but will wait for the full DU2 to DU3 switch - don't want it to get lost. NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #10

I lost my parents many years ago LiberalEsto Dec 2011 #11

I can relate to you. I was 22 when my dad died and we sure weren't prepared for it. My poor southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #17

At the risk of sounding quite SheilaT Dec 2011 #12

My granddaughter is 6 yrs old christmas day. Since last year I am been telling her that she southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #18

Good for you. SheilaT Jan 2012 #27

Excellent point. All I want her to do he get a good decent education even if it a junior college. southernyankeebelle Jan 2012 #28

Why do you feel "fortunate" that your parents are dead? whathehell Jan 2012 #30

I'm "fortunate" in that we (I'm one of six children) were spared SheilaT Nov 2012 #39

My Mom passed about 6 years ago. Howler Dec 2011 #15

Howler my heart goes out to you. I think having Alzheimer is worse than having cancer. It southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #19

Oh! I count my blessings In my Dad finding her EVERY DAY! Howler Dec 2011 #21

Your lucky she still there for you all. My mom taught me something many years ago and I always southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #22

Excellent Advice Southernyankeebelle! Howler Dec 2011 #24

Don't worry about the spell check. I wouldn't say anything because a person takes the time to southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #25

You too southernyankeebelle! Howler Dec 2011 #26

In 2011, my 91 yr.-old mother lost her independence and it's awful. sinkingfeeling Jan 2012 #31

I feel for you AND her OKNancy Jan 2012 #33

My 85 year old mother who had early Alzheimer's was furious about having to go to Assisted Living whathehell May 2012 #36

My mother died 38 years ago, when I was 20...it was difficult rustydog Apr 2012 #35

tough post to respond to... DPC.Comment Sep 2012 #37

I've been through it all. Both parents gone, had to deal with the house, estate, everything. codjh9 Nov 2012 #38