Baby Boomers

codjh9

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38. I've been through it all. Both parents gone, had to deal with the house, estate, everything.

Mon Nov 5, 2012, 12:31 AM

Nov 2012

It was tough. Both parents had hospice, though, and I was there for Mom, damn it (I just mean it's hard for me to talk about it), as well (i.e. me AND hospice). Yes, it was quite heartbreaking, as I was very close to both parents ... closer than my brothers were with them. But although I didn't do a perfect job, I was glad I was there for Mom in her last 10-11 months.
I used my parents' lawyer - who was also a friend (of them, but of me too) - who didn't charge me excessively, and guided me through the will/probate process.

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Issues for Boomers: the illness or death of our parents [View all] OKNancy Dec 2011 OP

I'l bet quite a few boomers are caring for children canoeist52 Dec 2011 #1

I'm a boomer. I am having medical issues and my husband is 7 yr younger and he does to. My son southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #2

Sorry you're in that medical situation. It's hard for you to have all that responsibility and worry. canoeist52 Dec 2011 #3

canoeist52 southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #4

I too have an adult child living with me OKNancy Dec 2011 #5

OK Nancy thank your lucky stars your daughter doesn't have children yet. Grandkids southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #6

(((Hug))) Howler Dec 2011 #13

Your a sweety Howler thanks we all need hugs. I know am bitching alot but I guess I southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #16

My heart to Southernyankeebelle. Howler Dec 2011 #20

i'd like to think i'm prepared shanti Dec 2011 #7

This message was self-deleted by its author OKNancy Dec 2011 #8

I really messed up my last post OKNancy Dec 2011 #9

WOW!!! Howler Dec 2011 #14

thanks, she's pretty awesome! shanti Dec 2011 #23

I'm glad things seem to be going well for you and your mother, and I hope she lives a very long time whathehell Jan 2012 #29

so sorry for your loss shanti Jan 2012 #32

Thank you, Shanti whathehell Jan 2012 #34

I've got lots to say here but will wait for the full DU2 to DU3 switch - don't want it to get lost. NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #10

I lost my parents many years ago LiberalEsto Dec 2011 #11

I can relate to you. I was 22 when my dad died and we sure weren't prepared for it. My poor southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #17

At the risk of sounding quite SheilaT Dec 2011 #12

My granddaughter is 6 yrs old christmas day. Since last year I am been telling her that she southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #18

Good for you. SheilaT Jan 2012 #27

Excellent point. All I want her to do he get a good decent education even if it a junior college. southernyankeebelle Jan 2012 #28

Why do you feel "fortunate" that your parents are dead? whathehell Jan 2012 #30

I'm "fortunate" in that we (I'm one of six children) were spared SheilaT Nov 2012 #39

My Mom passed about 6 years ago. Howler Dec 2011 #15

Howler my heart goes out to you. I think having Alzheimer is worse than having cancer. It southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #19

Oh! I count my blessings In my Dad finding her EVERY DAY! Howler Dec 2011 #21

Your lucky she still there for you all. My mom taught me something many years ago and I always southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #22

Excellent Advice Southernyankeebelle! Howler Dec 2011 #24

Don't worry about the spell check. I wouldn't say anything because a person takes the time to southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #25

You too southernyankeebelle! Howler Dec 2011 #26

In 2011, my 91 yr.-old mother lost her independence and it's awful. sinkingfeeling Jan 2012 #31

I feel for you AND her OKNancy Jan 2012 #33

My 85 year old mother who had early Alzheimer's was furious about having to go to Assisted Living whathehell May 2012 #36

My mother died 38 years ago, when I was 20...it was difficult rustydog Apr 2012 #35

tough post to respond to... DPC.Comment Sep 2012 #37

I've been through it all. Both parents gone, had to deal with the house, estate, everything. codjh9 Nov 2012 #38