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southernyankeebelle

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17. I can relate to you. I was 22 when my dad died and we sure weren't prepared for it. My poor
Fri Dec 30, 2011, 05:24 PM
Dec 2011

mother didn't drive, never wrote a check or paid the bills. My dad was old fashioned believing he was the bread winner and he took care of the bill paying and she took care of the house and family. My dad use to help mom on the weekends by taking us kids out so she could have time to herself. He was wonderful. I was mad when he died (as if he wanted to) because he left 2 younger children. My parents had 6 kids. Four within 2 yrs apart then 10 yrs pass and they had 2 more. I think god gave my mom 2 more to keep her busy when he died. My oldest brother took care of the funeral arrangements and we all split what bills she left unpaid. You know I don't care how prepared you think you are you always forget something.

GOOD LAUGH FOR YOUR DAY.

Now my in-laws were better prepared. However I have to say my mother-in-law after my father-in-law died went back in time. She was 82 yrs old when her husband died. He died in Oct and 31 Dec she wanted to go to a night spot for New Years Eve. I just couldn't believe it. My husband and I don't do bars but she wanted to go and we took her and dropped her off then picked her up at 1:00 am in the morning. She was alittle tipsy. That wasn't the Kicker. She started hanging around these farmers around our rural area. They are in their late 40s and 50s. She would go to the bar with them she would drive home and those guys would be over at her house. I mean there was no following around. How would you like coming home from work at 9:30 in the evening and it is the police department telling you they have your mother-in-law in jail? Its funny now but not at the time. We had to bail her out and of course she had to go to court. OMG I begged them to let her go first because the court room was crowded. LOL. That damn judge called her up and I went with her because she was very nervous and the judge looked at me and had the nerve to ask me where was I. I looked at him and I told him that I was at work and the last time I checked she was well over 21. She had to pay a fine. But it didn't stop her from enjoying her life although it worried the heck out of my husband and I. She finally did slow down at the age of 89 when she ended up in the nursing home because she fell and she never would try to move from her fall.

Life really is a bowl of cherries like Erma Bombeck would say

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I'l bet quite a few boomers are caring for children canoeist52 Dec 2011 #1
I'm a boomer. I am having medical issues and my husband is 7 yr younger and he does to. My son southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #2
Sorry you're in that medical situation. It's hard for you to have all that responsibility and worry. canoeist52 Dec 2011 #3
canoeist52 southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #4
I too have an adult child living with me OKNancy Dec 2011 #5
OK Nancy thank your lucky stars your daughter doesn't have children yet. Grandkids southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #6
(((Hug))) Howler Dec 2011 #13
Your a sweety Howler thanks we all need hugs. I know am bitching alot but I guess I southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #16
My heart to Southernyankeebelle. Howler Dec 2011 #20
i'd like to think i'm prepared shanti Dec 2011 #7
This message was self-deleted by its author OKNancy Dec 2011 #8
I really messed up my last post OKNancy Dec 2011 #9
WOW!!! Howler Dec 2011 #14
thanks, she's pretty awesome! shanti Dec 2011 #23
I'm glad things seem to be going well for you and your mother, and I hope she lives a very long time whathehell Jan 2012 #29
so sorry for your loss shanti Jan 2012 #32
Thank you, Shanti whathehell Jan 2012 #34
I've got lots to say here but will wait for the full DU2 to DU3 switch - don't want it to get lost. NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #10
I lost my parents many years ago LiberalEsto Dec 2011 #11
I can relate to you. I was 22 when my dad died and we sure weren't prepared for it. My poor southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #17
At the risk of sounding quite SheilaT Dec 2011 #12
My granddaughter is 6 yrs old christmas day. Since last year I am been telling her that she southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #18
Good for you. SheilaT Jan 2012 #27
Excellent point. All I want her to do he get a good decent education even if it a junior college. southernyankeebelle Jan 2012 #28
Why do you feel "fortunate" that your parents are dead? whathehell Jan 2012 #30
I'm "fortunate" in that we (I'm one of six children) were spared SheilaT Nov 2012 #39
My Mom passed about 6 years ago. Howler Dec 2011 #15
Howler my heart goes out to you. I think having Alzheimer is worse than having cancer. It southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #19
Oh! I count my blessings In my Dad finding her EVERY DAY! Howler Dec 2011 #21
Your lucky she still there for you all. My mom taught me something many years ago and I always southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #22
Excellent Advice Southernyankeebelle! Howler Dec 2011 #24
Don't worry about the spell check. I wouldn't say anything because a person takes the time to southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #25
You too southernyankeebelle! Howler Dec 2011 #26
In 2011, my 91 yr.-old mother lost her independence and it's awful. sinkingfeeling Jan 2012 #31
I feel for you AND her OKNancy Jan 2012 #33
My 85 year old mother who had early Alzheimer's was furious about having to go to Assisted Living whathehell May 2012 #36
My mother died 38 years ago, when I was 20...it was difficult rustydog Apr 2012 #35
tough post to respond to... DPC.Comment Sep 2012 #37
I've been through it all. Both parents gone, had to deal with the house, estate, everything. codjh9 Nov 2012 #38
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