We went to see Rudy Sat evening. He seems in good spirits.
Walking fairly well, even without a cane for short distances.
He is in assisted living.
It might seem like a large building with a lot of residents but it's still just a small community.
Lots of folks, both residents and staff spoke friendly to him and knew his name before he got there.
"New kid on the block" as someone mentioned.
Eighty something years old can be "new".
Meals are generally in the dining hall but can be brought up if you are feeling badly.
His legs are doing better. Initially, his legs gave way (twice) at church and they thought he had a stroke but it was not a stroke.
He got there last Thursday and does not have any physical therapy sked that he knows of.
He welcomes company.
I didn't ask but I would think that he could go out for a short spin if anyone has the opportunity to do it.
Rudy has been a pretty good guy in _______.
His family took his car, his computer and is selling his house.
He did not specify but indicated that he had messed up his finances in some serious way.
We do not know the full story of both sides but we all know from other situations that family can be real pr_cks when it comes to managing your money.
We have seen this with other ___ folks, friends and probably family members who have passed on.
He does not know if this living arrangement is for good or temporary.
He's not too keen on the 'for good' possibility but not depressed about it either. He has already considered the activity skeds of the place.
What little we saw indicated physical and mental activities.
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In my volunteer work taking veterans to the VA Hospital, I have picked up folks from flop houses to luxury.
Now that I look back on it, I see that there is a vast difference in the use of spare time for residents.
Also a vast difference in the cost and who is paying for it;;; you or Medicare.
From your own home to an efficiency room (mini kitchen included, maybe).
Free to go with your own car to having no car.
Computer to no computer.
Minimal possesions (we do tend to 'like' our stuff)
The activities can be very important.
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Now put your name in this story.
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A lot of us are going to be there.
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Be kind to your kids. They will pick your nursing home.
That's a joke folks..... and then it turns out to be true?
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