Race & Ethnicity

closeupready

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14. Odd question - I was accused of being a racist years ago by

Fri Aug 17, 2012, 01:46 PM

Aug 2012

a black woman with whom I had an otherwise strong friendship when I told her that, as a white gay man, I found that I was attracted mostly to brown-skinned guys. She suggested that this reflected some kind of inferiority complex, i.e., that since they are generally less powerful in society, as a group, my attraction was based in some sort of condescension or exploitive mindset.

Weird how you're potentially racist if you find minorities attractive, and racist if you don't.

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Is sexual attraction racist? [View all] SoutherDem May 2012 OP

Not at all, in my opinion. richmwill May 2012 #1

mm TOC Oct 2012 #17

ah.redheads and freckles.yummy. florela Jan 2013 #28

No more than someone not attracted to the same sex is homophobic. alphafemale May 2012 #2

hmm...maybe your right florela Jan 2013 #29

I'll have to go with "no" arcane1 May 2012 #3

No. Why would they? TheWraith May 2012 #4

What?? demosincebirth May 2012 #5

Here is why I asked. SoutherDem May 2012 #6

It's pretty simple to me, if you don't want to go out with someone because they are black you are demosincebirth May 2012 #7

Hmmm. delrem Mar 2014 #42

You are right. Kindness can shatter prejudice, but not all humans are kind. demosincebirth Mar 2014 #43

I must disagree..... TheMick Aug 2014 #44

i have been called racist for the same thing florela Jan 2013 #30

On this board we tread lightly becasue one's liberalism might not be as liberal as others. They demosincebirth Aug 2014 #45

No guardian May 2012 #8

I used to think it is racist. Jamaal510 Jun 2012 #9

nope, everyone has a type loli phabay Jul 2012 #10

You have to distinguish between Shankapotomus Jul 2012 #11

Good point I had not thought of that. SoutherDem Jul 2012 #12

interesting florela Jan 2013 #31

having a preference to ones own race is not racist patrickC Dec 2012 #20

Well, welcome to the forums! Shankapotomus Dec 2012 #21

i can figure it out florela Jan 2013 #32

You are also calling it racist Shankapotomus Jan 2013 #37

No...Everybody Has Preferences About Whom They're Attracted To HelenaHandbasket Jul 2012 #13

Odd question - I was accused of being a racist years ago by closeupready Aug 2012 #14

should put her in her place,bro.Lil florela Jan 2013 #34

LOL - yeah, that's ALWAYS a plus. closeupready Jan 2013 #38

Hm really? GiovanniTheGreat Sep 2012 #15

aha!! my way of thinking. florela Jan 2013 #35

White only GiovanniTheGreat Sep 2012 #16

I don't know about sexual attraction but Eyes of the World Oct 2012 #18

Its just how we are wired CanonCityGecacher Nov 2012 #19

all too often we look at the outside first..thats where we get hurt. florela Jan 2013 #36

First, define, then decide, shall we? OleDogg1945 Dec 2012 #22

b.yourself mcworld Dec 2012 #23

Depends timesamillion Jan 2013 #24

Not at all AProgressiveThinker Jan 2013 #25

Is racial attractioin sexist? Speck Tater Jan 2013 #26

But if you prefer women of a different race over that of your own .... FreakinDJ Jan 2013 #27

No Cirque du So-What Jan 2013 #33

even if it is racist....... TimberValley Mar 2013 #39

Racism is Complicated Mad Maddie Apr 2013 #40

no not misogynist, nor homophobic either Buffalo Bull Apr 2013 #41

I hope not. bigwillq Oct 2014 #46

I Like ALL The Girls ConnorMarc Nov 2014 #47

yeah if you're attracted to heaven05 Nov 2014 #48

I agree with what most people are saying, which is no davidpdx Dec 2014 #49