You can't influence them. Expend your energy in ways that will benefit yourself and others around you.
They can play the devil ("By Their Acts You Shall Know Them
" ) but you can't play God.
I hope you find better company, people who either agree or who are open to the qualities of equality, honor and fairness.
And to be rational about this, a cult peaks at a certain percentage of people who can be deeply duped into self-defeating behavior, (they have to put on blinders to shut out truth) whereas due to the inherent good in people (yes, it exists) good can grow, hopefully in exponential ways. (like pyramid sales gone right!)
And you can vote for people who can alter the climate and laws of the land.
https://democraticunderground.com/100216524810
Ibram X Kendi used to believe in changing "hearts and minds" but realizing how insanely difficult that can be, he has opted for changing the laws of the land, and hence, the climate, the common sense of the people.
An antiracist America can only be guaranteed if principled antiracists are in power, and then antiracist policies become the law of the land, and then antiracist ideas become the common sense of the people, and then the antiracist common sense of the people holds those antiracist leaders and policies accountable.